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Don Juan
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Long time lurker, first time poster.
I've been talking to a 21yo HB9 for about a month. We met at a club and hit it off instantly. We've been texting consistently since then, albeit we only send one or two texts a day (my choice ... new game tactic) and they are often spaced hours apart. Sometimes we go a day or two without texting, but it's always at the natural end to a conversation.
Our first date was good, then I went out of town for the holidays and only recently came back to where I live. She sniffed around wanting to know my NYE plans but, because I was taking another girl, I didn't tell her much. I ended up losing my phone on NYE but got it back on Friday. I texted her for the Day 2, which she accepted.
THEN she says, "I'm sorry I forgot that my friend's going away party for work is at Club X tonight. Do you want to meet me there?"
I say sure, then round up four of my buddies to roll with me to the club. Once we get there, I instantly recognize that this girl is into me and that she brought her friends along for the stamp of approval. Though 21, she's clearly interested in dating older men because she has a marriage focus.
UNFORTUNATELY, her friends were the biggest CBs I've ever encountered. Within 30 minutes of meeting me, they instantly start chiming (over and over again) that I'm a player and saying that I'm a player to my face in front of the girl. I try agreeing and amplifying ("Yup! The biggest!"), but they press on so I finally say, "Enough of this. I used to be one, I'm not one anymore. Let's just have fun."
The friends want to go to another club, and HB9 practically begs me to go with her. I hem and haw and then decide to go. Good kino, and we're still hitting it off. Once we get there, one of her friends keeps giving me a dirty look, so I ask her friend, "Hey, am I making you uncomfortable because I'll just leave." She says, "YES." I walk off to another part of the club and run some sets not really giving a ****. Neither HB9 nor her friends see me run these sets (the club is huge).
I run into HB9. She asks, "Where have you been? I've been looking for you!" I told her that her friends wanted me to leave her alone so I left. I tell her, "Your friends are very protective of you, but it's cool." She tells me it's because they know her past. I have a strong feeling she moved to my state to be with a boy who cheated on her/left her for another woman, but this is just intuition. She hasn't told me this.
She says they're leaving and, since they're my ride, wonders if I want to go with them. I say no, tell her I'll just take a cab back and wish her a good night. I text her when I get home to let her know I got home safe, and then lied and said I had fun with her friends but they're pistols and very protective.
She texts me the next day:
"I apologize for last night. My friends are super protective over me. We're like that for each other."
I respond, three hours later:
"It's cool they're just looking out for you."
She has not responded to that text.
Please help me answer the following:
(1) Lost cause or continue to pursue?
(2) Is she waiting for me to double text (ack! I hate double texting!) or was her apology text a soft blowoff?
(3) Assuming her text wasn't a soft blowoff, how do you go about keeping her friends at bay while you continue to pursue?
I'm guessing they'll stop at nothing to ensure that I don't get a Day 3, so it would be really helpful if someone could help me work through this issue. I did the game tactics you're supposed to do when called a player, but it was too much for these super hos. Seriously. That was some of the hardest **** testing I've ever encountered, and I'm surprised I got out of it as (relatively) unscathed as I did.
Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: HB9 is super into me, but her friends pulled an unbelievably bold CB and may have destroyed it for good. She apologized for her friends' conduct, but recent radio silence has me thinking she's bolting for the exits. Looking for help and game advice for yet another bizarro situation that seems to only happen to me.
I've been talking to a 21yo HB9 for about a month. We met at a club and hit it off instantly. We've been texting consistently since then, albeit we only send one or two texts a day (my choice ... new game tactic) and they are often spaced hours apart. Sometimes we go a day or two without texting, but it's always at the natural end to a conversation.
Our first date was good, then I went out of town for the holidays and only recently came back to where I live. She sniffed around wanting to know my NYE plans but, because I was taking another girl, I didn't tell her much. I ended up losing my phone on NYE but got it back on Friday. I texted her for the Day 2, which she accepted.
THEN she says, "I'm sorry I forgot that my friend's going away party for work is at Club X tonight. Do you want to meet me there?"
I say sure, then round up four of my buddies to roll with me to the club. Once we get there, I instantly recognize that this girl is into me and that she brought her friends along for the stamp of approval. Though 21, she's clearly interested in dating older men because she has a marriage focus.
UNFORTUNATELY, her friends were the biggest CBs I've ever encountered. Within 30 minutes of meeting me, they instantly start chiming (over and over again) that I'm a player and saying that I'm a player to my face in front of the girl. I try agreeing and amplifying ("Yup! The biggest!"), but they press on so I finally say, "Enough of this. I used to be one, I'm not one anymore. Let's just have fun."
The friends want to go to another club, and HB9 practically begs me to go with her. I hem and haw and then decide to go. Good kino, and we're still hitting it off. Once we get there, one of her friends keeps giving me a dirty look, so I ask her friend, "Hey, am I making you uncomfortable because I'll just leave." She says, "YES." I walk off to another part of the club and run some sets not really giving a ****. Neither HB9 nor her friends see me run these sets (the club is huge).
I run into HB9. She asks, "Where have you been? I've been looking for you!" I told her that her friends wanted me to leave her alone so I left. I tell her, "Your friends are very protective of you, but it's cool." She tells me it's because they know her past. I have a strong feeling she moved to my state to be with a boy who cheated on her/left her for another woman, but this is just intuition. She hasn't told me this.
She says they're leaving and, since they're my ride, wonders if I want to go with them. I say no, tell her I'll just take a cab back and wish her a good night. I text her when I get home to let her know I got home safe, and then lied and said I had fun with her friends but they're pistols and very protective.
She texts me the next day:
"I apologize for last night. My friends are super protective over me. We're like that for each other."
I respond, three hours later:
"It's cool they're just looking out for you."
She has not responded to that text.
Please help me answer the following:
(1) Lost cause or continue to pursue?
(2) Is she waiting for me to double text (ack! I hate double texting!) or was her apology text a soft blowoff?
(3) Assuming her text wasn't a soft blowoff, how do you go about keeping her friends at bay while you continue to pursue?
I'm guessing they'll stop at nothing to ensure that I don't get a Day 3, so it would be really helpful if someone could help me work through this issue. I did the game tactics you're supposed to do when called a player, but it was too much for these super hos. Seriously. That was some of the hardest **** testing I've ever encountered, and I'm surprised I got out of it as (relatively) unscathed as I did.
Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: HB9 is super into me, but her friends pulled an unbelievably bold CB and may have destroyed it for good. She apologized for her friends' conduct, but recent radio silence has me thinking she's bolting for the exits. Looking for help and game advice for yet another bizarro situation that seems to only happen to me.