called her out on her games, what now?

[mojo16]

ive kissed this girl about 5 times, been on a few dates, things are going fairly well with her, last night she was meant to come over but about 2 hours earlier she texted me and said her sister was having a party and that her sister was making her stay at home.... obvious bullsh1t i know...

anyways i texted her saying yeah its cool dw about it, she replied saying, oh thats a relief, i thought you be mad at me for bailing...

to this i replied: i am mad at you for bailing, i just cbf with your annoying games. she hasnt replied to this.

you should also know that this girl is the worlds biggest frigit, im the only guy shes kissed and shes really shy. its not the first time she has flaked on me though...

i cannot figure out for the life of me why she does this...

1. why does she flake sometimes, but usually seem keen to see me and is happy to kiss for ages, texts me and asks me to call her to say goodnight etc..

2. how should i change my game to stop her flaking?

3. what should i do now that she hasnt replied to my text? (im guessing ignore her?)

 

[Borknagar]

welcome to the world of flaky females my friend, she isn't the first I'm sure and she sure the hell won't be the last. flaky *****es is probably the #1 problem men have with women, and if a women looks good, theres a pretty good chance(95%) she'll flake sometimes or will forever.

 

[Alien]

1. doesnt matter why. she dictates
she is in happy mode - you are a happy couple
she is in flaky mode - you are a flaky couple
you are reacting to her.

2. she has no respect for you. i wouldnt try to change that.
"its not the first time she has flaked on me though... " ...and nothing happened.(asking her why she has done that = nothing)

3. dont reply. decide first whether you want something with this girl or not.(you didnt say in your post "i want to keep this girl", "i want to fvck this girl","i want to get rid of this girl")

if you date only 1 girl she is likely to play headgames and sh!t like this(even if she has true interest in you), if you date more she(they) wont do that. date others.

plus:
"...seem keen to see me and is happy to kiss for ages"
kissing is just fun for girls too. dont count on that.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

Why do you think you are the only one allowed to do some game? I always see here guys saying that they have been gaming this girl etc... and then they get furious when they are gamed with a flake.

Men´s game: ****y and funny, negging, acting indiferent etc..

Women´s game: taking hours for answering your texts, flaking at the last minute, pretending they don´t like you etc......

Also this forum has as problem, sometimes people REALLY have to cancel their programs at last minute. And sosuave makes you somewhat paranoid, everything is a flake, or is a test..... chill a bit.

 

[Iceberg]

Why do you think you are the only one allowed to do some game? I always see here guys saying that they have been gaming this girl etc... and then they get furious when they are gamed with a flake.

Men´s game: ****y and funny, negging, acting indiferent etc..

Women´s game: taking hours for answering your texts, flaking at the last minute, pretending they don´t like you etc......

Also this forum has as problem, sometimes people REALLY have to cancel their programs at last minute. And sosuave makes you somewhat paranoid, everything is a flake, or is a test..... chill a bit.

double true!

 

[Alien]

lets say if a girl is interested in you and wants to meet you, it has 1/50 chance that something happens in the last minute(lets take that as a flake). you set up dates with 5 interested girls, your chances for flakes are:

0 flake from 5: 0.9039 (90 percent)
1 flake from 5: 0.0922 (9 percent)
2 flake from 5: 0.0037 (0.3 percent)
3 flake from 5: 0.000076 (0.0076 percent)

So... if you set up 5 dates with that "interested" girl, the probability that she will flake more than once is 0.0039. that is less than 0.5 percent

Conclusion:
flake = flake
You dont need maths to know that.

 

[loveshogun]

I'm gonna put you through the ropes because no one else has, yet.

First, OP, you have to get the ingredients for a love potion. Everyone on SoSuave knows this is frog's legs, bull testicles, and the blood of a unicorn, all boiled together. Then drink it from the skull of King Arthur, and the ladies won't be able to keep their hands off you.

Now for the real advice:

Do you want to date a game-player who is disinterested in you?

Then don't.

The end.

Your questions all ask the same thing: How to I turn an apple into an orange?

You don't.

If you're tired of it, move on. You have to understand that the universe wasn't built to make you happy. This DOESN'T mean that you can't be happy. It means you have to take these things for yourself, and make your own opportunities.

If this girl doesn't dig you enough, or if she just isn't compatible with you, or this, or that, or _____ or whatever, it's up to YOU to find something better.

I always get this way when guys ask how to change a girl, or how to "game her" to get her to be a different person. As if there's a shortage of women out there.

Finally, the advice I give to everyone: be a better version of you. Not for women's sake either. For YOUR sake.

 

[Uberguy]

Your questions all ask the same thing: How to I turn an apple into an orange?

You don't.

If you're tired of it, move on.

^This. OP, you cannot change anyone else. If a girl is a flake, she is a flake. You do, however, have the power to change yourself into a person who won't tolerate flaking.

She bailed on you. What was the correct response? Silence. Whether or not she interprets your lack of a response as anger or as you being too busy with other girls doesn't matter. What matters is that you should be busy with other girls at that point. Don't waste your time on a poor investment.

 

[Outsider]

You should have seen if you could have come over to the party!

Are you kidding me? This could have been an amazing opportunity to get in good with this girl. Go over there, impress her and her sister, I mean when you got the sister's approval you're getting it in for sure.

But instead you though she was avoiding you and freaked out.

You failed.

Her sister may have actually been having a party *******. You ever stop and think about that? And anyways can you blame her for telling you she can't hang out, this is her sister and you're just some guy she's known, for what, a month? You can't blame the girl for wanting to hang out with her own sister.

Forget this girl dude, she's probably already tallied you up to the overly emotional douche bag category.

My advice, next time don't be such a ****.