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averagejoe

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Hey guys. Was wondering if anybody could find anything in a call I received from my ex today. A little history. We dated for almost 6 years and were engaged and living together when I ended it. She had lied to me about a few things and I asked her to leave. But we both needed to grow up. It ended about a year and a half ago but we have stayed in contact on a somewhat regular basis as friends. The reason for that is that her son is just like my own and we had dogs that we split up after it ended and still like to see the dogs. I have been seeing a great girl for a couple of months now and she has recently started seeing someone else. So here goes.
She called me this morning to tell me one of the dogs has been missing for a about a week. We talked about this for a while and a little chit chat about what is going on with our lives. Then she asked how things are going with my girlfriend, who she knows I am crazy about. I tell her it is great. I was saying something about my current girl and she said you don't have to go into detail about it. During the conversation she brought up her new guy and said that she has told her new guy about me. I told her I was happy she met someone and was glad that he had gotten her away from a friend of hers that was trouble. She said she has accepted the fact that we are probably going to marry different people and never talk to each other again. She said that thought makes her think of me more because she still loves me and always will. She then said she doesn't want that to happen and would still like to remain in contact even if we were married to other people.
I guess I am a little dumbfounded because I usually never hear from her if she is dating someone and that is the first time that she has told me she still loves me in over a year. I am very happy with my current girl and do not want this one back. But this conversation left me scratching my head so to speak.
 

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"...dogs that we split up after it ended.." I would never engage in animal cruelty! :crackup:

sorry, couldn't resist.


From your story, I think she is coming to terms with the the two of you living separate lives, but she cares for you and wants to stay in touch.
When you talked about your g/f she was still sore, but in turn she mentions her b/f, maybe in an attempt to show you that she is ok and takes care of her life.
Hard to say if she is comfortable with the situation or she just plays a part to look so, but either way I do not smell any hidden agenda here. I'd say that she still hurts but she tries to stay out of your way.
 

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Newman it doesn't bother me just being watchful. About a year after we had initially started dating we broke up for about 8 or 9 months. I found out later it was because she was interested in another person. Shortly thereafter I began dating someone and we became very serious. My ex dropped the guy she was dating and started coming back in the picture again and asking for me to take her back, which caused problems with the girl I was dating then. To make a long story short my relationship ended and we got back together a few months after that. She admitted to me after this last breakup that she intentionally caused those problems to get me back. I have dated quite a few women since we ended things but this is the first one I really see as becoming long term. My ex just found out about this relationship a couple of weeks ago. That is why I posted.
 

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I wouldn't see this is as some sort of red flag...yet. If you two communicate on a somewhat regular basis, then you may want to have your radar on then next time you talk to her. If she brings this up again, then I'd say she may have a few issues concerning you. But you'll cross that bridge when you get to it.

Otherwise, don't sweat it.

p.s. I hope she finds the dog.
 

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I am very happy with my current girl and do not want this one back


My ex dropped the guy she was dating and started coming back in the picture again and asking for me to take her back, which caused problems with the girl I was dating then. To make a long story short my relationship ended and we got back together a few months after that
There your answer then. She's trouble. Why are you risking your current relationship by having this ex of yours in the picture.

History has a tendency to repeat.



Was wondering if anybody could find anything in a call I received from my ex today.
Newman it doesn't bother me
I have a problem with your 2 statements. Because if it didn't bother you, why post? and why care about any hidden agenda?
 

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Thanks guys. NewMan I misunderstood your question at first. Yes it does bother me. I would like to continue a friendly relationship but not at the expense of any problems with my relationship. I guess I was hoping that it was just a normal call but you are right the past does generally repeat itself. I will follow your advice BigDawg and judge it by how things go the next time I talk to her. I also hope he turns up. He is a great dog and that upsets me that he is missing.
 
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