Sandman2000
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I've been a lurker on the board for a while, but I've run into a problem I can't seem to work out.
This bar I've been going to over the last couple of years has a waitress that's making things very hard for me with other servers. When I first started going to the bar I flirted with her in a ****y and funny way, and asked for her number. She declined my advances but was cool about it. I kept flirting with her for a couple more weeks, then one night me and my buddy sat down at a prominent table in the busiest part of the bar/restaurant. She came up and told us in the *****iest way possible that the table was reserved(for her friends I found out later). I just kind of blew her attitude off and got up and found another spot.
After that night I decided that I wasn't going to interact with her anymore in any way. Her attitude had embarrassed us and made us look bad in front the other people in the bar. Anyway, it looks like she took my ignoring her personally because she refuses to wait on us(sometimes the bar is so busy she has the only open section), which is fine with me, but she's also talking crap about us to the other wait staff. She has a lot of clout at the place because she's been there a couple of years.
I know this sounds kind of petty, but she's ruining any game I might have going with the other waitresses. There have been several who really seem to be responding to me, then I see her talking to them and looking over at me and(I'm not just imagining this) then they turn completely cold towards me. I've tried to just blow it off or hang out at other places, but I live in a small town and this is by far the best bar to go to. I'm pretty sure she's just doing it for spite, but I can only imagine what she could be saying about me. I didn't want to lend any credibility to what she is saying but I did mention the problem to one of the assistant managers and he pretty much ignored me.
Any advice would be helpful.
Thanks
This bar I've been going to over the last couple of years has a waitress that's making things very hard for me with other servers. When I first started going to the bar I flirted with her in a ****y and funny way, and asked for her number. She declined my advances but was cool about it. I kept flirting with her for a couple more weeks, then one night me and my buddy sat down at a prominent table in the busiest part of the bar/restaurant. She came up and told us in the *****iest way possible that the table was reserved(for her friends I found out later). I just kind of blew her attitude off and got up and found another spot.
After that night I decided that I wasn't going to interact with her anymore in any way. Her attitude had embarrassed us and made us look bad in front the other people in the bar. Anyway, it looks like she took my ignoring her personally because she refuses to wait on us(sometimes the bar is so busy she has the only open section), which is fine with me, but she's also talking crap about us to the other wait staff. She has a lot of clout at the place because she's been there a couple of years.
I know this sounds kind of petty, but she's ruining any game I might have going with the other waitresses. There have been several who really seem to be responding to me, then I see her talking to them and looking over at me and(I'm not just imagining this) then they turn completely cold towards me. I've tried to just blow it off or hang out at other places, but I live in a small town and this is by far the best bar to go to. I'm pretty sure she's just doing it for spite, but I can only imagine what she could be saying about me. I didn't want to lend any credibility to what she is saying but I did mention the problem to one of the assistant managers and he pretty much ignored me.
Any advice would be helpful.
Thanks