Buffers

[Tazman]

I don't think I'll ever be in a situation where I don't use some type of buffer, buffers relieve stress (for me atleast).

 

[potato]

This is where I honestly have to disagree with you. Like I and someone else here have testified to, a hot older woman is equally as hard to pull(if not more difficult) as a hot 25 year old woman. They are no different from what I'VE seen. The easiest hot tail to pull, and most open and friendly women in my opinion, are the 19 and 20 year old women. I'm not so sure about the 21 and 22 year olds, but I'd assume they're just as easy as the 19 and 20 year olds.

I tend to agree with edger on this point. The main reason being that there are more younger women who are available and desirable, than older women. A good looking 40 year old woman tends to know her worth and what she wants in a man.

Throughout my life I’ve gotten naked with women from 11 (when I was 10) to 50. Starting in their late thirties women tend to become more sexually aggressive but I don’t think that they are necessarily easier to get. When I was 18-24 I had no problem getting a different girl (aged 18-24) every week, week after week. They were everywhere and always available. After that they all seemed to be tied down with kids and marriage.

Now, in my 40’s I’ve find it much easier to get women in the range of about 25-35. The ones older than that tend to have issues, mostly from past relationships gone bad, that make it difficult to get past their defenses. Yet, once I get past their defenses they tend to give it up rather easily.

 

[Latinoman]

I tend to agree with edger on this point. The main reason being that there are more younger women who are available and desirable, than older women. A good looking 40 year old woman tends to know her worth and what she wants in a man.

Throughout my life I’ve gotten naked with women from 11 (when I was 10) to 50. Starting in their late thirties women tend to become more sexually aggressive but I don’t think that they are necessarily easier to get. When I was 18-24 I had no problem getting a different girl (aged 18-24) every week, week after week. They were everywhere and always available. After that they all seemed to be tied down with kids and marriage.

Now, in my 40’s I’ve find it much easier to get women in the range of about 25-35. The ones older than that tend to have issues, mostly from past relationships gone bad, that make it difficult to get past their defenses. Yet, once I get past their defenses they tend to give it up rather easily.

Edger is 27 and you are 48. A 40 year old woman is a YOUNGER woman in your case and a CONSIDERABLY older one in his case.

Older and younger in the context of this discussion is in reference to the man. E.g. older than YOU or younger than YOU.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Older Women, Younger Women - I should also include certain body types in this category as well, but the buffer is in certain types of women being less likely to reject a man due to their personal circumstances. The Older Woman thread has been done into irrelevancy on this forum, but the buffer is that older women, acting in accordance with their conditions, will be more inclined to accept the advances of younger men. In the same vein, very young girls will be more apt to accept the advances of older men due to naiveté and fat women are easier to become intimate with due to sexual deprivation. This isn't rocket science, but an internalized preference for particular women develop with an association with the minimization for potential rejection.

Look at this again in terms of older women being a Buffer guys. Buffers are generally the paths of least rejection that become ego-invested "preferences." When a guy is consistently rejected by women of his own generation, but finds consistent success with older women, his necessity becomes their virtue. The same holds true for guys who consistently find success with younger women as well. Case in point, 16 y.o. Jamie Lynn Spears is pregnant now, not by her 18y.o. moto-cross BF, but rather a 41 y.o. producer who woked on her Nickelodeon show. We'll all of course call the guy a pervert, but in all likelihood the guy was simply incapable of seducing a woman his own age or at least in her 30s.

Buffers aren't so much about the "preference" as they are about the motivations behind them.

 

[reset]

Yeah I have a buddy my age who occasionally sleeps with "milfs" in his office and has convinced me that he's only into older women. He's also told me he doesn't think he's good looking. Every woman is a bytch or only into money. Yet women 10-15 years older than him are wonderful. I never made the link before. F'ing hell. And I know I have plenty buffers of my own.

Damn I am thankful I have found this place.

 

[potato]

Edger is 27 and you are 48. A 40 year old woman is a YOUNGER woman in your case and a CONSIDERABLY older one in his case.

Older and younger in the context of this discussion is in reference to the man. E.g. older than YOU or younger than YOU.

Regardless, there are more available, desirable women in their 20's.

 

[bigjohnson]

....We'll all of course call the guy a pervert, but in all likelihood the guy was simply incapable of seducing a woman his own age or at least in her 30s.

I wouldn't call a guy who impregnates a sexually mature female a pervert and I doubt he had trouble as a successful producer in getting tail. The few guys I know in that biz have so much beautiful tail thrown at them on a continuous basis it's just unreal. He may have impulse control issues and having sex with a person who you have a controlling business relationship with is a very real issue, but that is a separate thing.

"I'm successful and I make people famous"

What woman isn't gonna think about that if it's TRUE?

 

[Latinoman]

Regardless, there are more available, desirable women in their 20's.

For men like us. How can you expect a 20 something year old man to compete with a more mature and established 30 something or even fortysomething year old man (assuming they are good looking and relatively in shape)?

I always said that men prime age is 35-42. That's the age in which early 20s all the way to 50s is EASILY accessible.

 

[reset]

Good I haven't even hit my prime yet. I thought that was my 20s. Getting myself into gear at 31 isn't so bad.

 

[Latinoman]

Good I haven't even hit my prime yet. I thought that was my 20s. Getting myself into gear at 31 isn't so bad.

Stay healthy and relatively in shape (at 31 I was in OUTSTANDING shape), improve your professional career, and for that matter your income...everything else will fall into place.

See it as your 5-year plan.

 

[potato]

For men like us. How can you expect a 20 something year old man to compete with a more mature and established 30 something or even fortysomething year old man (assuming they are good looking and relatively in shape)?

I always said that men prime age is 35-42. That's the age in which early 20s all the way to 50s is EASILY accessible.

I completely agree. It's one of those things people don't mention a lot but women are very much attracted to a man who is mature, accomplished, and stable.

 

[reset]

Will do Latinoman. Getting my head together and I already know I should be earning more than what I'm making now with my skills, so I'll get a new job, which will get me enough to move out and get my own apartment, etc.

It's only now I'm starting to feel I'm "growing up", which is a good thing.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

bump

 

[LoneSilver]

Ok since we are on the topic of buffers how do you explain a young 20 something school teacher screwing her 14 plus student..Or a 30's something teacher screwing his 14 plus female student..Is this the same thing?

Just this week one of our local county school teachers was convicted of rape and molesting one of his students...It was rape because she wasn't of the age of consent but she willingly open her legs up..There use to be a name for this called Jail Bate but for some reason it's lost it's glory to produce fear in adult men and women who willingly persue these younger against the law sex partners.

What the hell is going on in this country?

LoneSilver

 

[LoneSilver]

I just realized this thread is old do you have a bump Rolla is it a little one or a big one

LoneSilver

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Ok since we are on the topic of buffers how do you explain a young 20 something school teacher screwing her 14 plus student..Or a 30's something teacher screwing his 14 plus female student..Is this the same thing?

Yes. It's real easy to dissect the "perversion" aspect of this Buffer because it's (supposedly) socially inexcusable and easy to lay on our own judgement about it - and rightfully so - but the motivation is the same; it's the path of least resistance, or the path of least potential rejection for sexual expression. Of course there's a higher degree of consequence for the older, male offender, and this is due to the female victimhood social convention, but it comes as a result of seeking facility. It's perceived as easier for him to get with a, generally more naive, underage girl than it is to face a continued sexual rejection from women who are his peers. Jamie Lynn Spears became pregnant by her 40 year old producer, not her 18 year old BF. Why? Because she was hot and more easily accessible in comparison to having to go through a difficult process of coming to terms with his personal ineffectiveness and re-socializing himself to learn how to seduce and relate to more mature women (and by mature I mean at least above the age of 18).

I believe the same dynamic is the root for women engaging in sex with teenage boys, only the resistance factor is entirely absent with them. The obvious retort would be "well, they were good looking school teachers, why couldn't they just spread their legs for any guy at a bar?" Hard to say without knowing their individual conditions, but I'd venture to guess that more than a few were in marriage's that were constricting their sexual expression (or at least perceived that way) and nailing their students seemed to be the easiest means of expression.

 

[djbr]

EDGER, you're kidding right? Every 3 days there's another thread in the Mature Man's forum about the young guy saying how easy it is to hook up with older women and should he do it. But just for sake of debate let me ask you this, what age demographic is towted in popular culture as having a reputation for being more sexually available and easier to hook up with from young men, the 25 y.o. or the 40 y.o. woman?

:crackup:

Older women are so easy. So easy it gets boring. They play hard for a bit, just because of the script, but after that it's game.

And they are waaaayyyy too needy. It sucks.

On the other side, they pay for everything. :cheer:

I am out. I've had my fair share of them, but it's not worth it.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Pornography I realize this will draw some fire from the masturbation / no-masturbation set here, but porn (as men use it) is a Buffer against rejection. Porn doesn't talk back, porn doesn't need a few drinks to loosen up nor does porn require any social skills to produce rewards. It's convenient, immediate, sexual release that requires nothing more than a PC and an internet connection (or a magazine if you prefer the analog means). We can argue the obsessive-compulsive aspect of it, or the "my GF and I enjoy porn together" reasoning, but for the single guy the root reasoning is it's facility as a Buffer. I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.

I'm not saying don't enjoy porn, but know that it is a Buffer that will limit the development of your maturity if it goes unchecked.

 

[LoneSilver]

I agree.

LoneSilver

Pornography I realize this will draw some fire from the masturbation / no-masturbation set here, but porn (as men use it) is a Buffer against rejection. Porn doesn't talk back, porn doesn't need a few drinks to loosen up nor does porn require any social skills to produce rewards. It's convenient, immediate, sexual release that requires nothing more than a PC and an internet connection (or a magazine if you prefer the analog means). We can argue the obsessive-compulsive aspect of it, or the "my GF and I enjoy porn together" reasoning, but for the single guy the root reasoning is it's facility as a Buffer. I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.

I'm not saying don't enjoy porn, but know that it is a Buffer that will limit the development of your maturity if it goes unchecked.

 

[Phenomenal One]

Pornography I realize this will draw some fire from the masturbation / no-masturbation set here, but porn (as men use it) is a Buffer against rejection. Porn doesn't talk back, porn doesn't need a few drinks to loosen up nor does porn require any social skills to produce rewards. It's convenient, immediate, sexual release that requires nothing more than a PC and an internet connection (or a magazine if you prefer the analog means). We can argue the obsessive-compulsive aspect of it, or the "my GF and I enjoy porn together" reasoning, but for the single guy the root reasoning is it's facility as a Buffer. I should also add that it's this very facility that makes women hate it (when they do). Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It's unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability.

I'm not saying don't enjoy porn, but know that it is a Buffer that will limit the development of your maturity if it goes unchecked.

society sometimes look at men who have casual sex with women as if he got it for free or he did'nt "work" for it.