Buddy acts like an ASS in the club, but it may be to my advantage

[STR8UP]

As of lately my buddy has been acting like an ass when we hit the clubs, saying the first thing that comes to his mind regardless of what it is.

For example, he spots a bachelorette and walks up and makes a comment about how most marriages end in divorve. SMOOTH.

He just doesn't get it. He's even PROUD of insulting women and has bragged about to others.

To be fair ANY interaction is better than NO interaction, and honestly I've came out pretty good on the deal cause I step in and play the role of the "good cop" and the chicks love me. They tell me "we don't like HIM, we like you" and they end up tracking me down and pulling me back over to them when I walk away. They pretend to hate his overly ****y (minus the funny) routine but you can tell they love the attention.

So what do you think. Convince him to tone it down or let him do whatever he wants and use the contrast to my advantage?

 

[es_mer8]

If you're seeing good results from this, why waste a good thing? Your friend, if he continues to fail will eventually wonder whats wrong. In that case if he consults you, tell him the truth why and tell him to tone down the "C" and he should add in the "F" too.

 

[DJ de Florida]

Perfect foil pick-up method. If you can pull of the apology after he does his damage, great.

In your explaination, you need to talk about how he does stupid things and what not. You don't want to cut down your buddy as a person because then you look like a loser.

 

[Rallfus]

Yeah you don't want to look like a loser like DJ de Florida. This guy doesn't have a clue. Don't be a loser. Fresno State isn't.........

 

[TesuqueRed]

It can't be that stable a thing with him, so don't look for it to last.

One thing is that he does all the ballsy stuff (going up) while go soft and wait for the clean up. Do this enough and you won't know what to do if he's not along.

Remember the phrase "you're known by the company you keep"--??? His shyt and your rebound pickups may work with college-age types but will work less and less with quality chicks over time. At some point he will become nothing but a liability that will cost you. Cut your losses sooner than later.

What, if you know, is he trying to accomplish here?

 

[Lionheart]

Your friend is doing your a great service, he continues to make great openers for you, the only problem is that it won't last forever - no matter how stupid he is he will eventually wise up to what he is doing wrong.

An analogy of a man throwing himself in front of a bullet to save someone else a la the bodyguard comes to mind here

While he acts like an *******, you can go over their and be nice and courteous BUT also confident, cool, socialable and collected, and you should score with some very nice chicks.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by DJ de Florida
In your explaination, you need to talk about how he does stupid things and what not. You don't want to cut down your buddy as a person because then you look like a loser.

I don't cut him down... of course that would make me look like a loser for hanging out with him. besides I don't give a rats ass what anyone thinks of him anyways.

When they make a negative comment about him I laugh it off and go about my own business. He grabbed one girl's ass and I used it as an op to slide myself in by saying, "I don't condone that kind of behaviour". After that they kept hunting me down when I tried to duck away for awhile. But they DID watch him from across the room and interacted with him later in the night.

This particular group he had opened the week before by going up to the married one and saying, "Ah, you're married. That's just how I like 'em". Not the worst thing you could say but it automatically got him labeled as a womanizer.

Fukk it, as long as it's working to MY advantage why change HIS game?

It can't be that stable a thing with him, so don't look for it to last.

Well he's a ****y SOB to begin with so when he does decide to open his mouth that's pretty much what comes out. I've seen it before.

What, if you know, is he trying to accomplish here?

He doesn't do it to the ones he is seriously attracted to. He only fukks with the ones he thinks won't give him sh!t back. When he made the divorce comment to the bachelorette she insulted his appearance and he couldn't see why. DUH!

In all honesty he's on the right track he just needs to be more discreet. And I know for a FACT that if he were to approach with his tail between his legs or not approach at all the outcome would be worse. It's amazing what you can get away with when dealing with women.

 

[PRMoon]

I have a friend in a similar position to the one you just described. One of my co workers thinks he's smooth as silk but is really more like sand paper on a walrus when it comes to talking to the ladies. Just last tuesday we were at a popular club called Skin and he met some girls from cali. When he asked them their birth signs one of the said gemini and he said "Oh so you must be easy"... really good in. Sure it opened the dor for me to do my job but somtimes I wish I had a wing man who was a bit smoother. Recently I've been doing damage control / wing man work for two of my co workers and one of my bosses at club. It gets a little old and I wish I had a wing man of my own but whatcha gonna do?

Chances are your friend isn't gonna change and you'll have to work with what you've got as long as he's with you. I sugesst finding a new wing man (Like I'm doin now at parties and such) and try to play off of them for better results. This doesn't mean stop hanging out with the guy, just expand your horizons and make a new friend to go out with the both of you. The more wing men you have the more work you have to do but their search and retrive skills more then make up for the extra effort you have to put forth for sucessl.

 

[STR8UP]

Originally posted by PRMoon
This doesn't mean stop hanging out with the guy, just expand your horizons and make a new friend to go out with the both of you.

Couldn't do that even if I wanted to. He also happens to be my business partner. It would be nice if he would ease up on the ****y pr!ck routine, at least around me...it's getting kinda old.