Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
Pipe -- my most recent relationship mirrors a lot of what you are going through -- the hot then cold and the postponement of conflict resolution. You can sit there and look at all the things you did wrong but it is a two way street -- this was her first serious relationship and she made mistakes too. Don't let this get you down too much too heavily, I know it hurts, but from what you've suggested, these trends weren't going to get any better. From some of the feedback from those on this forum, and through my own observational skills, a relationship shouldn't be a constant struggle in those ways of appeasing her, or having to resist her trying to dominate you -- she sounds a bit immature and that's fine, she's 20 this is all learning -- but I think you will find a lot of good things ahead of you, and the words your dad shared with you are solid. You want to be that guy sleeping on the couch in his very own house?
I really relate to your experiences man -- stay up -- you're not alone in this sh!t and you held your composure -- you didn't fly off the handle -- respect.
Vatoloco, some of your points definitely hit home also -- this is good advice and true observations.
Either way, we all know Pipe was working his damned best at this, and a reality in this game truly is sometimes things just go sour and south even when both people want it to work out. Sure there are mistakes on both ends, and the man could be doing his damned best in all ways to keep IL high, but sometimes there are still fundamental differences which lead to a breakup -- and that is probably a good thing than staying in some relationship where you know you're not really getting what you want.
I really relate to your experiences man -- stay up -- you're not alone in this sh!t and you held your composure -- you didn't fly off the handle -- respect.
Vatoloco, some of your points definitely hit home also -- this is good advice and true observations.
Either way, we all know Pipe was working his damned best at this, and a reality in this game truly is sometimes things just go sour and south even when both people want it to work out. Sure there are mistakes on both ends, and the man could be doing his damned best in all ways to keep IL high, but sometimes there are still fundamental differences which lead to a breakup -- and that is probably a good thing than staying in some relationship where you know you're not really getting what you want.