Kailex
Master Don Juan
Checkmate12 said:Im gonna have to come at this from another angle. Everyone is saying bail out and leave her, etc. etc. I think some of the guys on here are so caught up in "game" that the situation is analyzed in a very unfair manner. No amount of stats, nor threads describing your situation will warrant you advice any better than your own instincts and desires. YOU know your situation, YOU know the depths of your relationship with this woman.
But my experience is this: My stepdad came into the picture when I was a young kid and took me and my mom in. A couple years later they had my sister. Yeah there were tensions between my stepdad and I when I was younger, but who knows where my mom (who was 22 at the time) and I would be had it not been for that man. I can guarantee I wouldn't have gotten a college education. He could've taken the selfish route and found another woman who didn't have a kid, but he loved my mom. Hope one day I can be half the man he didn't have to be.
Also, they are still very happily married 20 some odd years later.
But its your life bro, do what you will.
That's all nice, and warm, and tingly, and cuddly...
But apparently you missed the part where the OP said he DIDNT want to be a father to these kids.
I'm sure your stepdad accepted your mom's condition and embraced it. That situation is not applicable here. It's not being "caught up in the game". It's understanding that if a man doesn't want to raise someone else's children, that should be completely acceptable as well.
Why would I advise him to stick around if he is clearly saying what he doesn't want from the relationship?