Breakup Rant (Don't need to read, just want to get this out)

[DJoneday]

So I just walked back from a phone call from my girlfriend, who I just broke up with. Last night we talked for about six hours and it came down to either staying together for a little while longer and seeing how it worked out, or breaking up and trying to be friends. Honestly I can't see myself being just friends with her...seeing her every day wouldn't let me move on. She says that if I'm still around when she's ready to try it, we might work out. I'm not going to put myself through that hell for something like that...if I'm not what she wants right now then I don't want to mess with it.

In short, i brought up sex with her and she freaked out. She saw that things were getting serious, and she says she isn't ready for that right now. I guess I'm just pissed that she's giving up because things were going well. I'm getting all fvcked up over this, and I know I need to quit thinking about it and move on. This is the third time in my life I remember crying about something. If I try to stay with her as friends and see her, then I just know I wouldn't be able to move on, and I'd be stuck wanting more than I could have. I have to see her three times in the next week for a class (two hours a night). And I don't know how that's going to go. I just guess I'll just have to deal with it. I know that in time I'll get over it, and that everything will be ok...this is just the most I've cared for any chick...I wasn't even getting anything physical out of it (other than kissing and boobies) and I still enjoyed the realtionship more than any of mine before.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, I guess I just needed to get it out and sort my **** out.

 

[NRM]

You did the right thing. Never stay with a girl who isn't interested in you. When she wanted you to stick around to see if things worked out, she wanted you to stick around and treat her nicely and be her boy until she got tired of you and told you that things wouldn't work out. If things don't work out now, there is no way in hell that things will work out later. Do not put yourself through the stress, you're better than that.

She bailed when things got serious. Common with a girl who is with a guy just because she's bored. Do not fake fun with interest. You have fun with the boys, you have fun with friends, you can have fun with anyone. Don't think she's interested just because she's a girl.

In the class, have self-respect for yourself. Pay attention to classwork. Never, EVER call her. If she calls you on your cell, don't pick up. Delete the message, don't even listen to it unless you want to find out of it was an ego stroke or a message of dismay because she doesn't have a boy to drag around anymore. Yes, you'll get over it. Realizing it will make you get it over quicker. Just let her see that you can survive without her. Don't look sad or in pain, enjoy yourself and enjoy living.

Go out and meet girls. Maybe you'll find 1 in a 100 that will enjoy you for you and really care about you and your needs. One that will care about how you feel and always make you happy. Afterall, I think that's what all guys are looking for in the end. Good luck to you.

 

[DJoneday]

Yeah, her friends keep IMing me and asking if we broke up, then saying she really does care about me n all this sh!t. I'm going to the mall with a couple friends here soon (it's my birthday too...I didn't even realize.) and I might do some approaches just to try and get her out of my head. Thanks for the tips NRM, it means more to me than you know.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

dont waste your time with her.. dont even talk to them anymore.. unless they talk to u - be polite & dont show youre mad (if u are even mad)... go look for other girls and never lose site of the ultimate goal..(to get laid)

 

[sitnam]

a b*tch aint nothin to me . i dunno if that'll help u, but whenever i have girl problems i just think that and i normally forget about them. i read this really funny thing about whenever u wanna forget about a girl, just think of her droppin a giant deuce. thats really nasty, but i can imagine it working .

 

[Sexual]

You haven't even had sex with her so I can't understand why you'd get so emotional. Be friends unless she isn't interested, because if you're friends and still hang out every now and then without the sexual things- ONE: It'll make her go crazy and get jealous of any other girl you hang out with. TWO: It'll get you points with her friends and any other girl she talks to about you.

Another good tip from me is to realize that you can find literally billions of other females in the world willing to please you if you go find out how. But of coarse you won't take my word.

 

[DJoneday]

I know how to, I've been at the point of hooking up with 5 girls in one month...I just got tired of all of that and wanted one girl I could stay with. Found her...and it went like that. I went to the mall today and flirted around/made a couple approaches without digits just to get my mind off things. I wrote the rant about 10 minutes after we broke up, so I was still really messed up about it.

By talking to her since then...it seems like I might be able to move into a friends with benifits type thing, in which I could do whatever I wanted from other girls, get what i'd been getting and maybe more as "Friends" with her, and if she did decide she wanted to get together later, I could cross that bridge when I get there.

 

[This Times For Real]

Originally posted by DJoneday
So I just walked back from a phone call from my girlfriend, who I just broke up with. Last night we talked for about six hours and it came down to either staying together for a little while longer and seeing how it worked out, or breaking up and trying to be friends. Honestly I can't see myself being just friends with her...seeing her every day wouldn't let me move on. She says that if I'm still around when she's ready to try it, we might work out. I'm not going to put myself through that hell for something like that...if I'm not what she wants right now then I don't want to mess with it.

In short, i brought up sex with her and she freaked out. She saw that things were getting serious, and she says she isn't ready for that right now. I guess I'm just pissed that she's giving up because things were going well. I'm getting all fvcked up over this, and I know I need to quit thinking about it and move on. This is the third time in my life I remember crying about something. If I try to stay with her as friends and see her, then I just know I wouldn't be able to move on, and I'd be stuck wanting more than I could have. I have to see her three times in the next week for a class (two hours a night). And I don't know how that's going to go. I just guess I'll just have to deal with it. I know that in time I'll get over it, and that everything will be ok...this is just the most I've cared for any chick...I wasn't even getting anything physical out of it (other than kissing and boobies) and I still enjoyed the realtionship more than any of mine before.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, I guess I just needed to get it out and sort my **** out.

I think you'll be alright. You should do stuff with other girls and youll get over it. Just evert time you think about her imagine her being disgusting or 80 years old. Think of it as her loss more than yours. There will always be someone hotter,smarter, nicer whatever you want in a girl, there will always be a better one out there.

 

[DJoneday]

Thanks to all, this really is helping me out. She claims she's still just as interested in me, but just isn't ready for a relationship. I mean I think she's a cool enough person that I'm may just go chill with her a couple times (as friends) and just see what's going on. What do you all think about that? I'm not waiting for her at all...I actually have plans to go chill with a couple girls later in the week already. I just want to see what exactally is going on with her on alll this.

 

[NRM]

Very good improvement. She claims she is still interested in you, but won't go out with you.

Two seconds of thought.

NO!

Actions speak much louder than words and they project to the dumbest of people. If she were to meet a guy SHE was interested in tomorrow, like the insane love-at-first sight interest, she'd date him in a second. You would never say "Hey, I'm interested in you, I'm just not ready for a relationship" to a girl, you're smarter than that, and you don't have all the female emotional baggage of needing a guy to drag around like a little boytoy that doesn't get any.

If you are ABSOLUTELY SURE that you do not want her at all. And when I say ABSOLUTELY, I mean ABSOLUTELY. Like if she wanted you back, you would flat out deny her, than yeah yeah, do what you want. She's just a friend and you don't need tips on making friends. But what I would advise is simply cutting all ties with her. There really isn't a point. As a general rule, do not stay in contact or "JUST FRIENDS" with a girl. That's just putting you on there terms and in their line of fire, willing to be taken out at will.

Yes, I make it sound terrible...

...but it is.

As a warning, becoming friends with a girl you would get with if she wanted is nothing but bad news. She'll use you and abuse you. You let her come back once and she'll leave again and again, she knows she can control that. That's why I advise just not getting into the hassle all together. Stay mysterious and confident, even with a girl you aren't dating. Don't let her know how you feel and don't care about how she feels. She has girlfriends for that. It's not your place.

As for having plans to chill with a couple girls later in the week. Good job. Hopefully you'll meet a nice one and try a kiss close on a date. But until then, good luck with whatever you want to do.

 

[DJoneday]

If my game is right on, I could take on both of the two chicks at the same time. It's just a matter of whether or not I want to at that point. I see where you're comming from...The only thing that's been keeping me from thinking exactally that is that she got really emotional and sad when I told her I didn' thtink us being friends would work. She was like "i'll be right back" and went to talk to her dad about it and all this stuff, like she was sincere about what she was saying. Other than that, I'll go with those girls later and see what happens.