Breakup (I’ll appreciate support)

[AureliusMaximus]

- Conservative dangerous family

Since when has being conservative "dangerous"?
Conservative= Believing in good old traditional values that has been proven by the test of time. How can that be a bad thing?

Being extreme left and believing in communism is however extremely dangerous and a huge red flag.

source: https://www.informationisbeautiful.net/visualizations/20th-century-death/
As for the rest most are red flags and is there anything to dwell upon but moving on?

Focus on yourself and your goals in your life, put yourself and your own priorities first.
Women should only be an additional spice to your life, not the goal of life.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Since when has being conservative "dangerous"?
Conservative= Believing in good old traditional values that has been proven by the test of time. How can that be a bad thing?

Being extreme left and believing in communism is however extremely dangerous and a huge red flag.
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source: https://www.informationisbeautiful.net/visualizations/20th-century-death/
As for the rest most are red flags and is there anything to dwell upon but moving on?

Focus on yourself and your goals in your life, put yourself and your own priorities first.
Women should only be an additional spice to your life, not the goal of life.

I meant fascism and some criminal elements as cousins lmao.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

fascism and some criminal elements as cousins lmao.

Is in closer to relationship to the left and dictatorship than conservatives which doesn't support those values tho...

Lets take the big heavy one for example: https://www.abc.net.au/religion/nazism-socialism-and-the-falsification-of-history/10214302
"Nazism is national socialism which is considered a branch of socialism."
They were highly anti-capitalistic and used many mechanisms of socialism in their ideology.. Left, not right which many seem to get it wrong.. So was also Italy's Benito Mussolini which Hitler heavily borrow ideas from. = i.e. Left & liberalism

 

[jimwho]

Thread was almost interesting until he (candlelight dinner-posted on social) to get jealousy. Pre school sht.
Conservative (Snub). Like liberalism hasn't wreaked havoc on traditional values. This thread will get punted if
The reality gets mentioned. OP your Wackjob girlfriend is clearly not a keeper!

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Sounds like a net positive for you OP but this one is not a red flag.
Its kinda needy and shes not wired to really care what it is rather then seeing you take action in life with something.

This thing you describe as a red flag has mommy vibes.

True.
Women in general doesn't care about men's goals, visions and dreams.
They only care about the outcome and show interest once we get there as solipsism is their nature.

 

[member160761]

She sure as fuvk won’t listen to anything I say or ask her to do.

Because you did not have balls to begin with. If she's a nutjob and you don't put your foot down from the beginning she will treat you like **** the whole time.

 

[bat soup]

Possible, but unlikely.

I broke up with her after she got pissed off by seeing me on a candlelight dinner with another girl (to prove a point to her) and posted pics on my social media.

It was a toxic act, which hurt her self esteem im sure and she called and called and called when she saw my social and I cut her calls.

Her self esteem took a hit and she’s still reaching out to me after all this bs I pulled.

I did apologise to her nonetheless and kept things civil.

I’m sure she just wants me to make it up her for a bit.

Yet it’s a free pass for me to smash other girls, and call her too when she’s free.

As a good person, I am gonna keep my distance. Focus on my life and be glad she’s done.

Get her to come over and bang. If she gives you bs, invite the other girl from the dinner.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Sounds like a net positive for you OP but this one is not a red flag.
Its kinda needy and shes not wired to really care what it is rather then seeing you take action in life with something.

This thing you describe as a red flag has mommy vibes.

Bruh even female friends ask about your day and stuff you did. If a girlfriend has 0 questions about your life over 3 months, it’s just narcissism/histrionics

 

[dude99]

Hello kind folks!

I’d been in a relationship since 3 months.

We’d been hooking up since a year and she pushed for exclusivity and I gave it to her after a few months. Over time I had caught feelings for her.

Red flags:

- Conservative dangerous family
- No female friends, lots of guy friends
- Told me an ex a raped her (he came inside without consent)
- Never asked about my life or goals or dreams
- Immediately started acting like my girlfriend texting everyday etc. since the first day we hooked up. Mostly rants etc
- Replied late, cut calls saying she’s with busy or with family
- Told me she laughed at a girl after she made that girl’s boyfriend cheat on her with her
- Past dates on social media, in touch
- PCOD, hairy all over
- Rarely compromised
- Never suggested plans herself
- Met guy friends without informing me or me knowing anything about them
- Flakey af
- Never on time (I rarely use the word never but I mean it)
- Never introduced her friends to me or invited
- She ignored me when I texted or called but when she texted or called and I wasn’t unavailable she’d have severe anxiety and blow up my phone
Apart from this, due to her conservative orthodox family, she couldn’t go out late night w me, couldn’t pick up her calls after evening, couldn’t go on trips with me, couldn’t even consider marriage without her parents’ consent religious stuff etc.

I often felt unheard and ignored from her, never felt I had any space in the relationship or any curiosity from her side about my life etc.

She told me it’s reasonable if she goes out with some guy hypothetically (maybe office colleague), and has a few drinks with him 1v1 and informs me after the coming back.

And that I could hang out with female friends for drinks and tell hee.

To which I said, that’s not comfortable with me and maybe we should end this. She said let’s talk about this and discuss.

I said sure but she didn’t agree to meeting as she generally doesn’t.

I went out with a female friend for drinks and told her. She got really pissed and said we should end this instead of hurting each other.

We broke up and we had a post breakup toxic chat lmao where she said this was done out of spite. Which was true and that I was trying to make a point.

I think she’s blocked me now, and I’m relieved cuz I’d been cheating on her with 7 different girls like over 30 times after all the fights and stress I faced (I’m ashamed of this and will never repeat this again as it ruins the chances of anything becoming serious and just leaves me with guilt), so leaving her gives me an opportunity to move on from this.

Next. Full no contact. No second chances. It is perfectly acceptable to understand and realize that women f^ck up. This one f^cked up huge. Time to move on. Nothing redeeming here.

 

[dude99]

Update: She reached out and said she still wants me to be in her life even if it’s not as a boyfriend and told me she loves me.

Nope. Block. ignore. Delete. If you are cornered and have to respond tell her you want much much better than she is able to provide

 

[KingTurbo]

I didn't have to read the list very far. All I saw was "Lot's of guy friends"
If you also asked her out, I assumed you did, your in her frame.

"The one with the most power is the one who cares the least" She still wants other options in her orbit. Her Hypergamy is telling her "he is not the best I can do, I will keep these other men handy". Ask yourself, why else would these keep these other guys around?

and.....that's all I need to know. DUMP HER.

 

[darksprezzatura]

First off 3 months is not a GF and not as stated.
Not enough interest. Not a red flag

She is like that way with most people. Also she’s been consistently texting or calling me for an year. Initiated everyday two three times.

Took holidays from work every week to meet me. Gave gifts, wrote letters.

It’s a personality red flag.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Update: I thanked her and she responded happily and things are civil at both ends. I didn’t reply after her last text and I don’t want to reach out to her anymore now.

Even if she comes back and tries to pursue me, being with her is not worth the headache I’ll have to face considering her personality and red flags.