Hah, thats why I've been off the girl scene for a little bit. Not really trying to press myself to get with them... Why? Because I see money as much more important now. Want head? Look at George Washington's face on that fresh dollar bill haha. And ol' George or Lincoln never complain about how you've changed or why you stopped going to dinner. I'm not too much into a lot of this drama **** most girls seem to love. The best thing I'm finding is if you want girls to respect you is to quit trying to impress them.
FIRST get your ground on the social scene and just being comfortable talking with people in general by stating whats on YOUR mind before messing with any girls. Why is this? Well you can pull all this beautiful sounding romantic **** from websites for a while, but your ass is going to get stuck in the long run if you are in a relationship. If you can't make what you have been giving the girl up by yourself and on the fly, then she is going to notice 'how you've changed'. If you listen to her run her ****ing mouth all day without really shooting in an opinion yourself and then you start to talk and say whats on YOUR mind, she is going to somehow notice how you've 'changed'. Thus DON'T pull that fly romantic stuff (patterns, etc.) unless you know you can create more in the future and do it when the situation calls for it if you are trying to impress her. Only do that crap if you are with this or that girl for a one night stand or for just straight practice.
Basically how you act when you first meet a girl and are with her for the first few weeks or whatever, thats how she is going to expect you to act in the future. So if you pull off a firework show your first day, then you come with your normal attitude the next day, most likely she is going to get her ass the **** out of there. Why? Because how you initially act is how she is going to expect you to act in the future. THUS DON'T pull fly **** unless you know you can keep it up if you are going to get in a relationship with a girl. Only do that for one night stands and for improving your skills as I said before, and with a girl you generally don't care about getting in a relationship with. Otherwise, act as you normally do, and stay stupid **** as often as you want, but throw some of that romantic practice on the side, but FOCUS on having fun just by being yourself. If you say a joke and nobody laughs except you, who gives a ****? THAT is true confidence. Focus on that inner guide within you and what that inner guide thinks as opposed to all those other people out there, as there will ALWAYS be someone that hates on you no matter WHAT you do. You can just sit there and be quiet and there will be somebody that doesn't like you or some ****, so who cares what others think? Girls will respect that you are bold enough to say whats on your mind, or that you can enter into a social scene and just have fun. You will be able to pull patterns, etc. also with ease once you have that social confidence and ease of tongue.
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The 'reason' we have these rules are because these rules get to the CORE of what women want, and that is emotional drama. They want to be emotionally stimulated
Why do YOU want a girl? It is to feel good right? That is the end to it all; to feel satisfied. If you are sick of this and women make you unhappy, why spend all this time pursuing them? Go play pool, watch tv, make money, or whatever else makes you happy. Don't feel that you NEED to get with a girl.
Its basically like this. If you have a passion for football, you will do whatever it takes to get to the top. You don't look for a way to 'get around' the athletic training, all the rules, etc. that makes you a better football player. If you aren't dedicated to it and it simply doesn't give you joy, then don't mess with it.
Here is how the principle of pleasure works. An act occurs and you either feel good on varying degrees to that situation or you feel bad. Getting a girlfriend won't magically make you feel good, and then you will get a certificate of flowers saying you are 'soul mates'. Thats a bunch of fake ****.
You will either respond pleasurably to her or negatively. 'Getting' to know this girl won't make you feel magical or has some secret in it that will take you to a land of bliss. All this is crap crap crap. The joy most guys get from a woman is either from the sex or when they find a special woman, its the ability to completely let go and be accepted by her, and she is a woman that dedicates herself to you and towards making your life better. If you don't find that ****, then don't concern yourself much beyond sex with these girls. I KNOW you don't see some guy sitting at a table and go 'GOD I HAVE to be friends with him'. That in itself sounds fruity, and if even if you do become friends with this guy, if he started pulling crap on you like breaking commitments, you probably wouldn't be friends with him for that long. So why stick with a girl if she treats you like crap? Just because she has nice titties doesn't make her magical. A common lie most guys have is that because she looks good, she must have a nice or special personality. ****, celebrities are normal people who just have mass exposure or totally dedicated themselves to one art, thus gained a lot of skill in that. But otherwise they are normal people and don't have a right to treat anyone like crap. The same thing with hot women. Just because she has a nice ass or whatever, look at more how she treats YOU than how she looks and ****. If she throws **** at you call her on it.
A relationship is an interaction between two people, and when you interact, you can either leave the expectations assumed or you can go out and say what you want. But either way, the person with the stronger will to push out his or her opinions WILL set the frame for the relationship. If your ass doesn't tell a girl to stop doing this or that, she is going to assume she can do it anyways since you aren't challenging her on it, and she is going to define the relationship to give herself as much freedom as possible while coming and using your resources. Maybe she will talk to all the guys she wants and only come back when she needs something. THIS is the problem of leaving the relationship in an assumed to know position.
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[This message has been edited by KevM (edited 09-08-2001).]
