Breaking Down A Girl's Defense?

[SouthSection]

So, there's this girl in college that I recently found out is interested in me. She's been smiling, constantly looking at me etc, in lectures for about 2 months now, so I already knew, but it was just confirmed when she told one of my friends about how attractive she finds me. I never approached her as I was in a happy relationship, so I left it alone.

The past few weeks or so, me and my girl have been having a rocky time. I found myself bored, and doubted if I still had romantic feelings for her so I suggested we take a break. After a while, she agreed. During that break I started talking to that girl and I found myself getting attracted. The problem is, my "girlfriend" and the girl I started talking to somehow bumped into each other on campus. They got friendly and went onto the talk of relationships and my girlfriend told her that she was in a relationship with me.

I have now fully broke up with my girlfriend as I realized she's not the right one for me and I wanted to fully pursue that girl. But the girl I found myself talking to, now refuses to talk to me and has been acting "off" around me. Her comment, "He can't talk to me anymore. He has a committed girlfriend. It's wrong." It's also awkward around her, I don't know how to approach her and talk to her anymore because of my ex's comments. She made it sound as if I was in a committed relationship and was actively looking for other girls to cheat with. I'm sure that's how that girl see's it too. So I've been "avoiding her" to an extent

I'm currently on vacation and have no way of contacting that girl, so I told my friend to give her my social media info. She's followed me, (which I guess is a good sign), but I'm not quite sure what to say to redeem this situation. What do you guys think?

 

[stevo]

What do we think?

Ponder me this, how many females are you in college? Get the point?

No one cares about this girl, no one cares if she behaves or not, neither should you.

If you broke up just to smash this girl then you messed up.

If you broke up because you thought it best, then welcome. Enjoy all the fishes your hook catch and don't lose breath on other fishes that swam past your hook.

Clear enough?

 

[SouthSection]

What do we think?

Ponder me this, how many females are you in college? Get the point?

No one cares about this girl, no one cares if she behaves or not, neither should you.

If you broke up just to smash this girl then you messed up.

If you broke up because you thought it best, then welcome.

Enjoy all the fishes your hook catch and don't lose breath on other fishes that swam past your hook.

Clear enough?

This is the typical "Fake Don Juan" response and to be frank, it's stupid.

There are plenty of women in college. That's cool.

I didn't break up to "smash". There's more to life than that for some people.

Yes, I did break up because I thought it was best. As I stated, I had already decided on a break before I was even conversing with this girl. I was trying to let her down gently.

That's boring. I'm passed that sleeping around stage. I could go to a bar tomorrow and find a woman to have sex with, no problem, but that **** is boring and empty. I'm at a point where I'm looking for connection. The fact is there was and still is attraction, the problem is that new perception she has of me because of an untrue comment.

I don't quit until I'm given clear IOD's. Your mindset and attitude isn't going to get you far.

What does a real Don Juan do? He goes and gets what he wants. What does a fake Don Juan do? Give up at the first hurdle, because he just wants a quick and easy lay. Enjoy your low quality women.

Clear enough?

 

[Reykhel]

Ask her out.....if she mentions what your ex says you simply say it's over

If she's following you on social media she's obviously not paying that much attention
to what your ex is saying...

You don't neceserally know she has that perception. You're assuming it.

 

[stevo]

This is the typical "Fake Don Juan" response and to be frank, it's stupid.

There are plenty of women in college. That's cool.

I didn't break up to "smash". There's more to life than that for some people.

Yes, I did break up because I thought it was best. As I stated, I had already decided on a break before I was even conversing with this girl. I was trying to let her down gently.

That's boring. I'm passed that sleeping around stage. I could go to a bar tomorrow and find a woman to have sex with, no problem, but that **** is boring and empty. I'm at a point where I'm looking for connection. The fact is there was and still is attraction, the problem is that new perception she has of me because of an untrue comment.

I don't quit until I'm given clear IOD's. Your mindset and attitude isn't going to get you far.

What does a real Don Juan do? He goes and gets what he wants. What does a fake Don Juan do? Give up at the first hurdle, because he just wants a quick and easy lay. Enjoy your low quality women.

Clear enough?

Haha not sure what you're getting all butthurt for.

Newbie schooling me on being a fake DJ and a real DJ. Appreciate the lecture sir.

You don't quit? that's laughable son. But I'm here to make you feel better about yourself not tear you down so I'll ignore your personal jabs and focus on your positives. You can take it or you can keep scrolling.

Here goes.

A woman who wants you, will want you regardless of what she's been told about you.

A woman who maybe likes you but changes after hearing somethings about you stand a chance of not being worth your time.

If you focus all your energy on convincing this girl "you are a good guy" "you are not who they say you are", you already lost frame.

What should you do going forward? Live life like you would regardless of what you think she's heard or know about you.

How does this look? If she gives you IOI, you proceed as you would any other girl. You don't try to convince her "you're not a bad boy", You just do you, if she's gonna do you she will.

While you work this game, you dont hold your breath, you dont stop the bus. You keep moving, keep approaching, keep progressing.