Break up... How?

[DonJuanit0]

I've been in this LTR for 9+ months and things are getting more and more boring!
We argue and fight all the time about stupid things, we meet each other every single day and this makes it even more terrible!

We tried making up things but nothing changed! Even sex is terrible because I feel like I HAVE to do it and most of the times I just can't give my self in it cause I don't want to! I even told her that we should discuss about sex, she just waits for me to do everything! I've been with 12 women before her and I just can't get turned on by a single kiss! Maybe it's me maybe it's her! I don't know! So, I talked to her about it and the answer was: If you want to do what women do in porn then find a prostitude...

She is being immature ALL the time! About everything! We are 21 years old and she is acting like a 15 years old little girl!

When I met her she was cute and maybe I had missed that cuteness but I can't stand it anymore!


Now, the reason I don't just break up with her is that I simple feel bad for her! When we reach the point of breaking up she starts saying that she doesn't wanna lose me and I'm the only one and staff and I just feel bad! I know an alpha male would care more about himself rather than her being alright but I just can't...

What I want from you guys is a little push and encouragment to do what I already know I should do and a way to do it as easily as possible! Without having her asking me to get back together and staff! I just want out!
(No cheating and telling her is not an option, I don't want to)

 

[SoldMySoul]

Life is too short to be unhappy and life is too long to be miserable!

That above sounds like they contradict each other, but they don't. If you want out you simply walk away, but do it in a mature fashion. She will try and talk you out of it, but if you are dead set, it should not matter.

You will learn as you get older it is about getting your needs met and if they are not being met, no sense in waiting around for them to be. Man, you are still young and have many years ahead of you to get what you want. If Miss Boring Prude is not making you happy, there is one out there that well.

 

[Radharc]

This has nothing to do it being alpha male, I think ppl are getting really confused with this all alpha male thing.

Anyways, more to the point. If you dont want to hurt her and all that stuff, just tell her that you "need space" and that you should give each other some time alone, you know, the crap women say all the time. Then you drift away (if you can go away for a while, change your routine to one where she is not a constant presence). It won´t be easy, she´ll pull a lot of drama and emotional blackmail, but you are looking for the easy way out, and ironically the easy way out is probably harder than just telling her it´s over and going NC.

Besides, I can assure you, she´ll survive. And if it was the other way around she would probably allready have a bunch of guys lined up to branch swing.

 

[SoldMySoul]

If you dont want to hurt her and all that stuff, just tell her that you "need space" and that you should give each other some time alone, you know, the crap women say all the time.

Besides, I can assure you, she´ll survive. And if it was the other way around she would probably allready have a bunch of guys lined up to branch swing.

I do not condone doing it this way. As you pointed out, it is a way a cowardly woman would do it. Be a man about it and it will be easier for her to digest in the long run. That space thing can really confuse and cause more pain to her.

Be prepared if you tell her it is over to deal with whatever she throws your way. I would suggest a clean break with no more sex. However, it has been in my experience sex seemed to get really good as one of us was going out the door. Maybe a mental block because I had no back up trim lined up.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

Read this stuff:

Maxfarsigth - Dont really need help. Just need to have a nice convo with my balls!

 

[Radharc]

I do not condone doing it this way. As you pointed out, it is a way a cowardly woman would do it. Be a man about it and it will be easier for her to digest in the long run. That space thing can really confuse and cause more pain to her.

I agree it you in principle, but I got the impression from the OP that he is not yet where he needs to be in order to just break up with her in a "clean" way, so I dont know how helpfull it will be to just tell him do to what he allready knows is what he should do but cant find the courage to.

So I agree with you, but was being pragmatic.

 

[joe henny]

Your not going to break up with her. Simple your going to be too scared to do it and she's going to do it and break your heart its happened to the best of us

 

[DonJuanit0]

Well, we broke up... I told her that I'm tired of fights and argues, I tried a lot but nothing changed and staff... I told her the truth actually!
She said that we should try more and staff but I refused saying that we have already tried a lot...
After 1 hour of leaving my house she called me but I didn't answer...


I can say that I don't feel excited or happy... I just know it had to be done!
Thanks for your answers guys...