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[Jeffrey12]

I can **** this chick again. But takeaway the sexual element my plan is to get into her mind and have a form of psychological control. What gets to me, and does my marbles in is that I just don't want to be one of many blokes she's dating. I don't want a relationship with her for obvious reasons but I don't want to share p*ssy with the general public. If I'm spending my hard earned money I want to be the one **** she gets. Call it ego or whatever but it's just my mindset. That's why I'm trying to get into her head with more emphasism instead of getting to the date/**** ASAP each and Every time even though that will always end up happening.

Any advice on getting this method in play? What to do - what not to do? Etc

 

[compleks]

Don't bother.
You're not going to get inside her head. You don't need to manipulate or puppet her.
If you're not going to girlfriend her then she can f**k whomever else she likes, and you need to accept that.

See her when you want to see her. F**k her when you want to **** her. Don't get mad if she calls you out and don't expect her to hang around forever.
Roll with the punches mate.

 

[sylvester the cat]

I can **** this chick again. But takeaway the sexual element my plan is to get into her mind and have a form of psychological control. What gets to me, and does my marbles in is that I just don't want to be one of many blokes she's dating. I don't want a relationship with her for obvious reasons but I don't want to share p*ssy with the general public. If I'm spending my hard earned money I want to be the one **** she gets. Call it ego or whatever but it's just my mindset. That's why I'm trying to get into her head with more emphasism instead of getting to the date/**** ASAP each and Every time even though that will always end up happening.

Any advice on getting this method in play? What to do - what not to do? Etc

well, you don't control people by interrogating them. that just pi$$es them off. lol.

there is one very important thing you need to do in order to control people. and only a very small percentage of people know what it is.

 

[vagabond]

9am chick: You okay x

12:03pm chick: You havent made no effort so I no you've met someone else good luck to you thanks for makng me happy and maybe see you around ciao

12:41pm me: Morning. 2 questions just so I can understand the way you think. So, you think since Wednesday I've met someone else lol? And by no effort, you mean what exactly?

12:47pm chick: Havent spoken to u in few days

13:15pm me: Do you think I've met someone in 3 days?

13:17pm chick: No. Think you met someone before. So why havent u text me once

13:27pm me: Lol ok then. I've been busy working. Why haven't you text me until today?

13:29pm chick: That busy u havent been onnur phone once ****ing bull**** u was probs out ladtnight n friday

13:45pm me: Ok. So why haven't you text me until today?

13:53pm chick: Bevause I was waiting for you to text me

13:57pm me: And why is that?

13:58pm chick: To see if u nake effort

14:20pm me: Why was you waiting to see if I made effort?

14:25pm chick:Ffs bevause I did

20:46pm me: So you have been playing a game, thats not nice! you have accused me of lying, and now your getting aggressive and you don't want to see me again, when actually I've not done anything wrong to you apart from treating you good and showing you a good time. Well its your choice, if you change your mind let me know X



How would you guys interpret this messaging conversation...

most girls will give you this **** test at one point or another. just ignore it. a simple reframe will do.

 

[Jeffrey12]

well, you don't control people by interrogating them. that just pi$$es them off. lol.

there is one very important thing you need to do in order to control people. and only a very small percentage of people know what it is.

And what may that be?

 

[sylvester the cat]

And what may that be?

I do not give out this information for free.

£40 to my pay pal account will buy you this information.

 

[Jeffrey12]

Haha. We have a sigmund Freud on the board

Back onto topic. Just dropped her a text seen as I didn't get back to her last night. The text simply says:

"Morning missy. I'll pick you up Friday 7:30. We'll go to that road-house bar I took you to last time"

Direct and authoritative and straight to the point .

 

[Skyline]

I can **** this chick again. But takeaway the sexual element my plan is to get into her mind and have a form of psychological control. What gets to me, and does my marbles in is that I just don't want to be one of many blokes she's dating. I don't want a relationship with her for obvious reasons but I don't want to share p*ssy with the general public. If I'm spending my hard earned money I want to be the one **** she gets. Call it ego or whatever but it's just my mindset. That's why I'm trying to get into her head with more emphasism instead of getting to the date/**** ASAP each and Every time even though that will always end up happening.

Any advice on getting this method in play? What to do - what not to do? Etc

There's some self entitlement to this post... "I don't want to be with her but i don't want her to be with anyone else." Plus the weak texts, the "attempted" manipulation, ultimatums... On top of that, it doesn't even seem like you're listening to what everyone else is saying! I feel like you just want one someone to say one response in particular that you believe is true so you'll be confident in your next course of action! Wow!

"When the student is ready, the master will appear."

You clearly are not ready.

 

[Jeffrey12]

Thanks for your advice buddy. But I'll have to disagree. I ask many questions from all angles in order to get a feel and a general outline of the scenario. As I said, my game is work in progress :rockon: this is more like a case study for me. And the concept mentioned above of using the phone to arrange a date ASAP worked. So that's a good bullet in my gun to use in future instead of me talking a bunch of waffle lol!!

So we're meeting up tomorrow.. The conversation goes like this:

(Spoke in the morning on the phone she was telling me about her daddy problems blah blah blah) 4 hours later I receive some texts..

Chick: Can't wait foe tmx x

Chickissed off

Chick: Soneone owes ne 50 n they have tuent there phone off

I think she's indirectly insinuating for me to lend her money which is a no no!!!

Another thing that's giving me that uncomfortable feeling is that she's on POF still 8 dates down the line. She has for some reason thought that I've been dating other chicks, which I have. Is it worth dropping a sarcastic remark about her being on it?

 

[Kailex]

Who cares what she says about 50 dollars. It isn't 100% a guarantee she is asking for money... but definitely a red flag to keep aware of. Sometimes women just talk about ANYTHING that comes to their mind... but don't be surprised if you two go out and the bill comes, she uses that as a callback as to why she can't help pay.

Also... don't mention anything about POF... please, you come across as stalking.

She could easily just say she isn't using it or she doesn't need to delete it or you two aren't exclusive... it's a no-win situation.

You shouldn't delete yours either.

 

[Jeffrey12]

Who cares what she says about 50 dollars. It isn't 100% a guarantee she is asking for money... but definitely a red flag to keep aware of. Sometimes women just talk about ANYTHING that comes to their mind... but don't be surprised if you two go out and the bill comes, she uses that as a callback as to why she can't help pay.

Also... don't mention anything about POF... please, you come across as stalking.

She could easily just say she isn't using it or she doesn't need to delete it or you two aren't exclusive... it's a no-win situation.

You shouldn't delete yours either.

Well, it definitely is because before every date she mentions that she hasn't got cash. She isn't in employment at present so I understand, but I do kinda feel mugged off. I don't mind paying but I don't like to have no other option but to pay lol.

I won't mention the POF thing. She did delete it about 4-5 weeks ago but we had a mini row and it came back on 2 weeks after that. She doesn't know I have mine.. And she is on it most days so there's definitely usage of it!! But I understand what your saying. Me mentioning it doesn't do any good. Just comes across as me being stalking.

Well he guarantees tomorrow are I am getting laid. That's never been a problem with this chick :rockon: it's all about just trying to gain more control of myself mainly and the situation!

She also drops a lot of **** tests this one.

Constantly asking if I'm seeing other chicks, if I'm on dating sites, jealous that other women like my pics. And from what I've been reading it's best to brush these off with funny comments and then progressing the conversation elsewhere