Brak86's Journal of Life and FRs

[Brak86]

I've decided that I work best when I am organized, so I've decided to start a journal like some others. I want to primarily post FRs, however, I also need to keep track of all my hobbies and goals and not get sidetracked.

Hobbies/Goals
-Overcome my fears of rejection, social anxiety, and approaching
-Do not look away if I get EC from a woman
-Be able to flirt
-Practice Spanish everyday (even if it means just looking up vocabulary)
-Practice my flamenco guitar everyday
-Meditate every day for at least 5 minutes
-Get a job as a personal trainer once i get my license
-Read, read, read

About me:
I am 19 years old and although I am 5'7" but i consider myself very good looking. Height doesnt bother me at all anymore unlike when i was younger. For the past 12 years of my life I have attended an all boys private school. While i dont attribute all of my social anxiety to my school, it definately did nto help. I was very popular amongst guys and girls from my sister school, but i rarely got any. I was very good friends with all the girls. This fall, I am attending Boston College where i hope my improvement continues. I have joined a Boston Seduction Lair so that I will be forced to approach numerous times. It would be cool to meet another guy like me who would join me in approaching girls. I think having the company and support of another budding DJ would make approaching more fun and easier. Nevertheless, i plan on approaching multitudes of women because getting ***** is not my primary concern. My primary concern (and what i think would give me more joy than just sex) is overcoming the biggest fear that I have. It is that alone that will give me more pleasure than any vagina in the world could. I'm gonna use a point system for my approaches:

1 point-Approaching a girl
2 points-Getting a number/establishing good rapport/improvement in specific area
3 points-Kiss
4 points-legit hook up/sex
5 points-friends with benefits/dating

 

[Brak86]

I just came back from Europe (Prague, Berlin, London, and Amsterdam) yesterday with my best friend. My goal in europe was not necessarily to get *****, but to approach women so that I could lessen my fears. For the most part, i am happy with myself. I am a perfectionist, but i approached a lot of women. I was a little perturbed because my friend has a girlfriend and he didnt want to go out some nights, but i never told him about wanting to be a PUA. He's clueless about it. But even when he was with me I still managed to approach women.

Because i couldnt go back home and immediately write down my FRs, I do not remember what was said, but i remember key points about each of them. Also i was drunk for many of the nights so that didnt help my memory. So i will write down what i remember from each FR. Ultimately, I achieved what I wanted to achieve and that was to lessen my fear of approaching. But i was very bad at holding up conversation and being unique. (FRs not in order)

FR#1:
I was at the airport 3 weeks ago just about to leave for Europe but our flight got delayed 2 hrs. As my friend and I were sitting, a cute brunette sits down close to us. I opened with a situational opener: "are you on this flight?" She said yes. I talked with her for about 20 minutes and found out that she was an exchage student from Transylvania! I thought that place was fictional.
2 points

FR#2:
I was in the plane waiting for the bathroom when i saw a flight attendant. SHe was in her 40s but she wasn't bad. I didn't care all i wanted was to talk. I asked, "I was wondering how long you all get to stay in one city before you have to leave." She told me usually just one day and then she left, i guess she's on the job.

FR#3:
We (my friend and I) arrived at london at around noon and the first thing we did was go to a pub. As we were sitting a group of 1 guy and 4 girls comes and sits near us. I was very nervous but i new that if i came back from this trip with no approaches, i would be depressed. I opened by saying "Excuse me, but my friend and I just arrived in London and we wanted to know if y'all knew of good bars or clubs to go at night." They told us to go to Fabric or babushka's and we had a quite lengthy talk with them. I noticed that the girl sitting near me was shaking very very much.
1 point

FR#4:
I was in a club late at night in London and pretty intoxicated. I saw two girls sitting at a round booth and I went up to them and asked them "do y'all know other good clubs around here?" They looked at me very nastily and responded with short, curt answers. Eventually they told me to go away after i tried fluffing.
1 point

FR#5:
I went to a bar called thirst with my friend and it was pretty cool. I noticed a group of 4 british girls talking with themselves. I was very very nervous especially when i open a group of girls. It's intimidating. But i forced myself to walk over and used Style's Ex-girlfriend opener. It worked very well. But while we were talking about dating and such, one of the girls randomly said to me "yea, well i wouldn't date you because your shirt is tucked in so far" to which i replied, "well, im glad i'm not dating you then." I was impressed with myself for remaining cool and quickly retorting.
2 points

 

[Brak86]

FR#6:
Still at thirst, i notice another girl sitting by herself. I approach her and say, "excuse me, but i saw your hair and i was wondering if it was real or not?" she smiled and said it was and asked me to tug it. I told her that her hair moved and she goes tug harder. I really think if i kept at it i could have easily made out with her but for some reason i didn't.
1 point

FR#7:
This one was weird because I got opened for once! My friend and I were walking along the streets in London at night looking for a bar. We passed two australian girls who stopped and asked us if we were lost. We said yes and the hot one said "well, then, do you mind if we get lost with you all?" Obviously we said we didnt mind. As we walked the streets, my friend talked to the uglier one while i hit on the hot one. SInce she was from australia i asked her if she scuba dived. She said she has her certification but she doesn't dive. I said that i didnt want to talk to her anymore in a joking manner and i teased her a lot. She seemed to enjoy it. We finally reached a bar and the bouncer asked for the cover charge. It got weird here. I did not pay for the girls, and when my friend and i went in the bar, we looked back and the girls were walking away. I guess they expected me to pay.
1 point

FR#8:
At a bar when i noticed a group of people. There were 3 girls closest to me so i opened the 2nd hottest one. The girls were americans who lived in Pittsburgh. I think they were happy to meet other americans. I think i could have hooked up with the one i opened if i knew how to get her away from her friends. The 2 other girls who i didn't open didn't really respond when i asked them questions. But the girl i opened was interested. The girls, however, did ignore the guys in their group when I approached them, which was cool.
1 point

FR#9:
At a club i saw two girls talking. One was a hot korean girl with a british accent, the other was an ugly girl from Baltimore. After much hesitation i went up to them and told them i enjoyed meeting new people. I talked with them for awhile. Then i ejected. But later on I saw them again and i danced with the korean chick while my friend danced with teh ugly one. After teasing her a bit and having fun dancing, i asked for a kiss to which she denied. I think i had to get her away from her friend in order to kiss her.
2 points

 

[Brak86]

FR#10:
At the same club I saw a girl who was crossing her arms and looking bored. I approached her anyways and asked her where she was from. She was from London, but i ejected early because i noticed her averting eyes and closed body posture.
1 point

FR#11:
At a club called Fabric in London. Huge ass club that has 3,000 people in it a night. At one of the dance floors i notice a hot girl. I open by saying "it's really hard to find your friends in here!" She laughed and said that this place was crazy. In the middle of the conversation i negged her saying that I could never date her because she was too nice. She laughed and said "Ohh, if only you knew me." her boyfriend came a few minutes later and she left.
1 point

FR#12:
At Fabric I noticed a place where people were sitting on the floor. I approached two girls and asked them if this was the place for pissed drunks. They said no and turned away from me.
1 point

FR#13:
In the bathroom at Fabric i notice this weird fountain. I ask this hot hot blonde chick what it was. She said it was a huge 10 person hand washer. I fluffed for a bit but then ejected.
1 point

FR#14:
At the dance floor at Fabric i see girls and I ask one what her name was. I Forgot her name but she was from london. I asked her if she was from the U.S. and fluffed, but i ejected soon.
1 point

FR#15:
At another club in London my friend and I approached two girls sitting at a table. They turned out to be prison guards! They asked for our names and i said i was Tom Cruise. They laughed. I actually think they liked us but they had to go after 15 minutes of conversation.
2 points

 

[Brak86]

FR#16:
In Berlin i was at a club and i saw a blonde australian girl who looked like Keira Knightley. I asked her if she was wearing a hairpiece and she looked a little shocked that i asked that. But then she made jokes about what if it was. She mentioned that her boyfriend was here.
1 point

FR#17:
At a pub i talked to a girl from Saskatchewan. I asked her what she was doing here and she mentioned she was on a big Europe trip with her boyfriend. I talked a little more and ejected. I noticed later that she was giving me EC but she actually had a boyfriend whom i saw later..
1 point

FR#18:
At a club in Prague i notice 2 girls. One goes into the bathroom and the other stays outside. It was very hard for me to approach her and i almost quit. But i turned back around and talked to her. But when her friend came back out she said she had to go.
1 point

FR#19:
In Prague i met a girl from rural germany. She didn't speak good english and she wasnt talkative
1 point

 

[Brak86]

FR#20:
Went up to a group of girls at a club in Prague whcih i thought was bold. After talking a bit one of them asked me to dance. She was hot and a good dancer. I am a good dancer too and i made sure to be the first to move away when we were grinding. But after 2 dances she said thanks for the dances and left.
1 point

FR#21:
At the same club in Prague i approach two girls and i say "lemme guess, y'all are American?" They were from australia which was my second guess. They worked in the prague castle as waitresses dressed up as cowgirls. I gave them **** for that but then other guys came and AMOGed me.
1 point

FR#22:
I was on shrooms in Amsterdam (never gonna do it again) and i notice wo girls who i believe to be on a date with each other. I also notice that they aren't having fun. One girl is reading a magazine and the other is checking her phone a lot. Nevertheless i grab my balls and approach the lesbos. I use an opinion opener: "do y'all think guys or girls are more superficial?" One of the girls says "i dont know" and they completely blow me off. That was a bit humiliating because my friend was watching and he doesnt know about my goals.
1 point

FR#23:
At a club in germany and i go up to two german girls and ask them if htey spoke english. They said "everyone in germany speaks english." I say, "well actually ive met quite a few who dont" they respond with "maybe they dont want to talk to you." Then they leave
1 point

FR#24:
Met girls from Florida but nothing really happens here
1 point

FR#25
I meet a girl from Napa Valley california at a bar. I talk to her and make fun of her saying Hella. We make out. FInally i get a Kiss-close.
3 points

 

[Brak86]

Looking back at my trip I am both proud yet displeased. It is very hard to approach and rapport when you're best friend is dating another girl and doesn't want to go out much. But i felt like i made the effort to just talk to random girls. I've realized that i like bars much more than clubs. Bars are a lot easier to talk in. Also, it's a lot easier for me to approach at night than at day because the girls at clubs and bars expect to be talekd to by guys. Nevertheless, I think that its probably better to approach at daytime because girls will be less suspicious of the tools and afcs at clubs and bars. Plus the girls are usually alone at daytime. But for me there is more anxiety and tension approaching girls during the day for some reason.

 

[Rocko]

I like the fact that you did make so many approaches, just goes to show you that everyone gets rejected, it is just a game of statistics, might i ask for more details on these FR? (so many, you can write a book, take out the ones that are useless haha) GJ again

 

[Boschy]

I end up pulling chick's hair about 2-3 times a week in clubs with that opener, hahahaha. I then follow up with "Hmmm, well you might just be using strong glue...How do I know?? At least it smells nice..." Blah blah blah. Like most negs it works best on pretty girls.

 

[Aerospace]

Wonderful, my friend! Very motivational! It's all about confidence, and it's a number's game!

Keep this attitude, and you'll be a DJ very soon! :rockon:

 

[Brak86]

the only thing that is very hard for me to do is to actually get off my ass during the day and drive to the mall alone just for the sole purpose of approaching women. For some reason i feel that they would know that i came to the mall just to approach women. I don't know it would be a lot easier if i had a partner to go out with instead of going out alone. But i cant make excuses i have to do this whether its alone or with someone else.

 

[Boschy]

Motivation is a big thing. I face this hurdle every time I go out bar-hopping after work at night. One or two drinks helps. Ultimately I know from experience that the effort pays off. Interacting with random people always yields interesting connections, insights, weirdo behaviour from others, unexpected kindness from bar staff and interest from women. Keep at it, man.

I usually ask myself: Well....what are your other grand plans for tonight instead of sarging, McDoofus? TV? DVD? Web surfing? Unless you have a good LTR or five chicks in rotation, these are all poor responses. Nothing will happen unless you step through your front door. Embrace the world!

 

[Brak86]

Motivation is a big thing. I face this hurdle every time I go out bar-hopping after work at night. One or two drinks helps. Ultimately I know from experience that the effort pays off. Interacting with random people always yields interesting connections, insights, weirdo behaviour from others, unexpected kindness from bar staff and interest from women. Keep at it, man.

I usually ask myself: Well....what are your other grand plans for tonight instead of sarging, McDoofus? TV? DVD? Web surfing? Unless you have a good LTR or five chicks in rotation, these are all poor responses. Nothing will happen unless you step through your front door. Embrace the world!

yea i wish i could go out to bars at night....but here in dallas its basically 21 and up everywhere.

 

[Brak86]

hey guys....i havent posted in a long time...i've been at a family reunion for a few weeks and couldn't get to a computer. I haven't had much opportunity DJing because i've been swamped with so much, but i have a few updates.

I got my Physical Training license, and while i was there i noticed only very few hot girls there. Nevertheless, i introduced myself to all 3 and found out that they all were married. They looked around 26 but were actually in their 30s. But i still made rapport with them 3 and hung out with them the whole time. There was another girl there HB 5.5 who wasn't that great, just average. I could tell she was into me because ont he second day she came dressed a lot prettier thant he first. I wasn't interested. I won't count any as FRs.

FR#26:
I went to a small town in mexico for onyl a few days with my friend. It wasn't that lively but i went to the most popular bar there and i met a bunch of texans. One girl was 17 and she was pretty damn hot HB 8.6. I worked around the table and i knew she noticed me so i went up and introduced myself. I actually did really well gaming her. I used a few Neg-hits and i flirted pretty well. I could tell she was into me, but there was a guy there that was really protective of her (her ex-boyfriend as i later found out).
The next night i saw her again and found my **** being grinded by her ass . I was so ready to kiss-close when i hear her ex-bf yell "get the **** off of her!" He was getting really angry. She told me to hold on. She came back later and told me that he was sorry and "thought i was molesting her." Yeah right, ****ass. Anyways, i decided to be the bigger man and go up to him. He just apologized but at that time my target had to go cause of a curfew. I got ****blocked.
2 points

FR#27:
I was really sweaty walking to 7-11 after a grueling basketball game when i hear this girl yell "wait!" I turn around and this girl is with her friends. I find out that she is my neighbor that i havent met yet. She is the hottest of the group HB 8.3. I wasn't very good talking with her mostly cause i was caught by surprise and i was a little self-conscious about being sweaty. Despite this, i could tell my neighbor was really interested in me. She played with her hair while talking with me and agreed with stupid **** that i said a couple of times. I got her number 2 weeks ago but i had to leave for my reunion the next day. I will call her tomorrow and ask her out.
2 points

I've gone through the spanish dictionary and copied all the words that I think are useful (56 pages of words). And my flamenco guitar is getting better. I've been playing basketball and tennis practically every day that I am in dallas. And as i said before i've gotten my License for physical training. And im also getting ready for college in a month. Even though i am proud that i'm improving my life greatly, i still feel that i shjould be going out into the field more.

 

[Brak86]

Wow...things have gone by so fast the last few days. I'm up at school in Boston and i just finished my orientation. But since it was the last session, I'm staying up here instead of going back home. I exceeded my expectations by far in terms of approaches but i have to admit im still nervous as hell about making friends. I'll tell you some highlights:

The first night i got there i went to dinner...parents went too. We were assigned a random table. At the table were 3 kids. One guy and one girl from Bahrain and an HB 9.1 who is american but lived in Dubai. They all knew each other cause they went to the transfer orientation. Nonetheless, i introduced myself to all of them and i think i did pretty well with the HB 9.1. I teased her cause she said she looked like her dad and i told her "yea, you two have the same moustache" ....at the end i got her number along with the 2 other kids' numbers. But the HB 9.1 has a boyfriend whcih kinda sucks. But i did notice her eyeing me here. I don't exactly know what i should do here.

The second night i hung out outside of my campus and met a lot of people. The freshmen football players were all drunk and hitting on girls. But i stuck it up and went in there and met most people there. There was this one mexican girl whom i met there and i instantly connected with her. I called her special olympics cause she said something stupid (she was drunk). She was drunk but she kept on hyping her room up and telling me i need to see it. So when she left i walked her to her room and went insde. I was so so so nervous but after a bit of fluff i asked if i could kiss her. She rejected me and saiid i had to go. I was sure that when she invited me to her room i was set. Anyways i was still so astonished that on the 2nd night here i already had the balls to go for it.

Last night i met some guys and girls in the common room and i went and hung out in a guys room with all of them. We got caught by the RA for drinking and we got written up. The party ended but me and this guy (this guy met a girl earlier who has a senior brother) went to the Mods (senior dorms). I met the freshmen girls and some seniors. The freshman sister and 1 of her friends were both hot. After we left me, the guy and these two girls walked to their room and went inside. They went in the bathroom and my friend passed out! So they said they wanted to sleep and i woke him up and we left. Im not sure that we woulda hooked up anyways if the guy didnt pass out cause thye were kinda apprehensive, but the sister seemed really into me.

Throughoiut orientation ive gotten 26 numbers (13 guys and 13 girls...i know, weird). I know i did far better than i imagined, but it's hard for me to look at myself proudly. Im a perfectionist and i know that i can't stop hjere, i have to keep it up to have friends in college. My biggest fear is loneliness and even though i did well i am still scared. I did not use my cell phone in Highschool but it seems like if i want to make and maintain friends in college i hve to call people all the time to establish those connections. Anyways, thats all....i'll keep you all updated.

 

[Brak86]

Last night i was at the senior dorms and there were a couple parties. I approached 2 girls, one was a hb 7.6 another was like a 3. I introduced myself and was making pretty good convo when a drunk girl hb 7.2 barged in and asked me if i knew where beer was. I told her no and started talkignt o her. The hb 7.6 was obviously jealous cause while i was talking the hb7.2 she barged in and started talking very sarcastically to the 7.2. She was pretending to be nice but she was just annoyed. I was surprised i was making a chick jealous. That was cool. But I didn't really know what to do after that. I shoulda made a C+F comment like "stop fighting over me." but i dont think the drunk girl had any idea that she interuppted us. Anywatys, just wanted to share it.

 

[Paper Boy]

Somthing that might help your game is learning to use C+f/neg hitting. Just a tip.

 

[Brak86]

Alright. I haven't updated this in awhile mostly due to the fact that I've been so swamped with college. My priority has been getting adjusted to college life and keeping my grades up. But I finally have some more meaty stuff to add!

(Note: I am dropping the point scale, i don;'t like the fact that it quantifys what I do, making it seem like if i don't get a Kiss/sex close then i didn't achieve the best possible outcome. But all I want to do now is approach).

On Saturday, October 7th, I met with two guys from the Boston Seduction Lair for the first time. I have yet to go to a Lair meeting (going to my first one this saturday) since I just moved to Boston, but I really wanted to get into the field. This was the first time i actually went out with the intent to sarge (went to the prudential mall). I used to not liek this idea, but i realized that I was just making excuses for not sarging. Nothign should keep me from realizing my goals. Anyways I met up with two experienced guys, Don Arturo and Shadowfox in Barnes and Noble. I met up with Don Arturo, who came up and introduced himself to me. He is an awesome guy who just moved here from Germany. He has maintained his personality and genuineness. I've wondered whether people become sort of "robots" when they become DJs, but Don Arturo is very generous and understanding.

We went and looked for Shadowfox (I met him first earlier, but he left and said he'd meet up with me later). And, wouldn't you know, when Arturo and I found him, he was just getting a chick's number. Shadowfow is a very unique, odd individual. But he was very calm all the time and seemed almost indifferent to everything. He approaches no matter what, he doesnt care if he gets blown out (as a matter of fact, one chick just ignored him completely when he tried ttalking with her). But he got at least 3 numbers that i know of.

Anyways, next was Arturo's turn in Barnes and Noble. He struck up a conversation with some girl and when he asked for the number she said she was married (she actually was, had a ring on). But he made her laugh at least 3 times during hte conversation and they had a good time. Amazed, I asked him what he opened with, and he barely remembered. He told me he was now at a point where the openers come naturally. he doesnt use canned lines.

I now felt pressured to do an approach since I was the odd-man out. Keep in mind these are pretty much my first cold approaches aside from parties and such where we had something in common (ie: knowing the host or both knowing a few of the same people).

I spotted an HB 7.1 with a green jacket on and glasses. She was pretty cute and was perusing through the book isles. I'll call her HB intellectual. I moved near her looking at books when I opened her (i dont remember exactly what was said, just the gist):

Me: Hey, I need a quick female opinion on something.
HBIntellectual: Sure (she seemed willing to talk)
Me: My cousin's birthday is coming up and she's a huge reader. I don't read all that much so i was wondering what you would suggest.
HBIntellectual: Yeah definately! I just read this awesome book! I forgot the name of it though, ****...it started with an M...uhh..
Me: Hahaah, you dont remember this "awesome book?" Are you sure you read that much?
HBIntellectual: ahah Yeah i do...umm i remember it was about a hermaphrodite
Me: (I probably should have teased her with something like "I'm not buying my cousin weird porn mags you pervert, but instead i knew the book so i helped her out) do you mean Middlesex?
HBIntellectual: Yeah! that was it! Great book.
Me: What is it about?
HBIntellectual: Blah blah hermaphrodite blah blah penis and balls with vagina (she didnt actually say that )
Me: Awesome thanks a lot. By the way, could I get your number?
HBIntellectual: I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend (she was very respectful about it)

Wow that wasn't that bad! Me, Arturo and Shadow then walked out cause there were no more targets. As we walked through the mall Arturo stopped at a jewelry booth and opened an elegant Asian girl. She was pretty hot, too. me and Shadow left Arturo (who eventually got her number) to open other sets. I spotted 3 girls. I dont remember the other two but the one I opened was a HB 6.8 and she had cowboy boots on with a skirt. She was at a booth trying on earrings. I just went up and blurted an opener out without thinking of it (3 second approach rule helped me not think about what to say):

Me: Those look good!
HBBoots: ahah thanks *blush* (her friends giggling and i think looking kinda nervous, i didnt notice)
Me: I have to ask, are you from Texas?
Her Friend: Yeah she is *smiling*
HBBoots: No I'm not
Me: Whcih one is it? I have to know cause I'm Texan,
HBBoots: No I live here
Me: Well you do have a southern acccent...
HB Boots: I am originally from Tennessee
Me: I knew you were a southerner! (her friend then puts a fake hair wig from the stand on HB boots's head).
Friend: What do you think?
Me: Good. You should definately get it. (sheepish smiles from them. Then the cashier rings up the earrings, giving them an excuse to go now, i guess).
HB Boots: Alright, well it was nice meeting you.
Me: You forgot your hair
HB Boots: haha i decided not to get it.
(I dont rememer exactly what happened but Shadow then came into the set randomly. I guess he was trying to help me out and contine the conversation. They talked a bit more but they started distancing themselves and eventually left. Weird).

I went to a watch store with Shadow and we saw a girl looking at watches. He told me to approach but i was intimidated because she was a lot older than me. A few seconds later, as i was hesitating, she walekd over to her boyfriend I don't know what to make of this. I knew that i should have approached but oh well. I was trying to think of an opener, when i culd have just asked her what watch she liked on me).

Went to J crew and approached a group of 5 high school looking girls (probably sophomores). Couldn;t really think of a good opener so i just asked
Me: Are these guys and girls jeans?
Girl#1: I'm not sure
Me: hahaa they all look the same
Girl#1: Yeah
Girl#2: i think these are girls (at which point i saw a pair of jeans with a leopard belt).
Me: Haaha yea you;re right, i don;t think this leopard belt is for guys
Girl#2: ahaha yeah, alright have a good day. (she left and i ejected).

As we were walking out of Jcrew shadow calmly said to one girl (thats a great shirt. She had this hilarious what-the-hell-just-happened look on her face and said "thanks." I think her mom was a few feet away and smiling). Shadow didn;t give a ****. We just kept on walking. He faces his fears pretty damn well.

We Went to the food court and met up with arturo again. We were talking and Shadow was giving me advice. Apprently i didnt notice a girl who was sitting right next to us (Shadow told me later he was waiting for me to approach) so shadow approached her. She was really surprised and he talked to her and got her number eventually. He told me after that he thoiught she was nerbvous because her cheek twitched as they were talking. Damn pretty perceptive. the more you do this the better you get.

Since i foolishly didn't notice this girl I stood up to look for a target. I went to the trash can (pretending to spit out gum) and looked at this really really hot girl (HB 9.2) on my scale. I love femininity in girls and i guess she had a feminine aura about her. I don;t know maybe i should have opened with a compliment about that. Instead i opened with Style's who lies more opinion opener. I said I was talkign to a friend about it and we needed a female opinion. I told her I think guys lie more and I said my friend said girls do. She thought girls lied more, but guys cheat more. She was nice. I asked her for her number and she politely said that she was seeing someone. I reaally think that she didnt have a bf or that she would have given me her number if i was a bit smoother (i leaned over the table and i guess that was intimidating). She was hot as hell but im glad i approached her.

We all had to leave then because we all had stuff to do soona fter (we wanted to stay longer but we couldnt). Shadow left and me and arturo went on the T cause we were heading in the same direction). I got to know more about him. He told me he was 100x more scared than me when he first started out, but it eventually died down. We talked about all sorts of stuff when a girl HB6.7 got on the T with her friends. She had a necklace with a guitar pick on it. Perfect opportunity.

Me: What type of guitar do you play?
Her: Acoustic and electric.
Me: awesome! how long have you been playing
Her: Umm..about 3 years. Do you play guitar?
Me: Yeah i play the flamenco guitar.
Her: Awesome! I've played classical a bit but not flamenco
Me: Yeah its pretty tough but i love it.
Her: Yeah I'd love to try it sometime
Me: whats your name?
Her: ____
Me: Like the beer?
Her: Yeah ahahah but its spelled differently. Whats your name?
Me:______ so do you go to school around here?
Her: Ive actually graduated. Im working now, What about you>?
Me: yeah, i go to BC.
Her: Awesome (the T stopped and it was her stop). Alright it was great meeting you, bye!
I should have asked for the number. I knew i would have gotten them. But it happened so fast and i guess i got intimidated cause she was at least 3 years older thanme. Nevertheless that is no escuse. When i looked back at Arturo, he was smiling. He told me he knew she was interested because when i asked for her name she immediately gave it to me, as if she was an excited little girl. Again, incredible observation by a PUA.

Alright thats all so far. Feel free to comment/ give advice. I appreciate any and all advice

 

[Microphone Fiend]

no critique as of yet. Cant really judge off the last one or two approaches... Nice to see you are writing more indepth of your approaches so we can get a better feel though. Keep us updated.

 

[Brak86]

Alright guys, I have another update for you all.

Sunday October 16th: I met up with thefonz at the prudential mall. He is a cool guy and I admire his commitment to the game. We both have decided to push each other and to sarge with each other so that we won't get lazy. We actually proved to be a good partners because we excel and lack at different aspects of the game.

What we both agree on, however, is that for both of us, Direct Openers are a lot less intimidating and easier to do. I know, this is odd, I'm sure most guys here would find it easier opening with an asexual Opinion Opener, but speaking for myself, its a lot easier to just tell the girl that I find her cute. I feel that if I approach a girl (especially during the day), she knows that I must be attracted to her, so I find that covering up my intent is useless. It's hard for me to try to talk to a girl that I just approached without showing my true intent. I don't know why, but I find Direct Openers to be a lot less nervewracking (i don't have to stay there long if i don't attract her, i just get right to the point).

One part of me says that I should do what feels most natural and most comfortable to me. But the other part says that I'm a newbie and that nothing really feels that natural to me as of now. I don;t know if i should spend more time practicing other types of openers or trust my gut and keep doing Direct (of all the Master PUA's, I like Juggler the most, for his natural style and his genuine interest in other people). Then again, maybe I need to start by using all types of openers. I would love advice here.

Nonetheless, I decided to use only Direct Openers this time (Not word-for-word. I forget exactly what i say even right after I approach).

I saw a girl working at one of those booths in the middle of the mall. She was folding shirts at her booth when I approached:

Me: Excuse me, but I saw you and thought that you were cute. I wanted to meet you and see if you are nice, too.
Her: (she smiles warmly and speaks in strange accent): thank you (then she goes back to folding her clothes)
Me: Where are you from?
HBNepal: Nepal
Me: Ohhhh cool are you a Buddhist?
HBNepal: No
Me: My friend just came back from Nepal...whats the name of the capital?
HBNepal: Katmandu
Me: Yeah. He studied Buddhism there for a year and loved it
HBNepal: That's good (still folding the shirts)

I ejected but she was very nice about it. Actually, all 4 girls that I approached with this opener were very nice to me)

I then saw a girl shopping in a women's clothes store. I decided to walk in there anyways and approach her.

Me: Hi, I noticed you shopping here and I thought that you were cute.
Her: (smiling and blushing) thank you very much (she also has an accent! Weird).
Me: (noticing that she is not hot up close, as a matter of fact, she is fugly) You're not from here!
Her: hahaah yeah
Me: let me guess, are you from Germany?
Her: No, I'm Bulgarian
Me: Ohh my philosophy teacher is bulgarian, too
HBBulgarian: What's her name?
Me: Antonia (at this point I was kind of walking with her outside the store, i ejected but she asked me some other question as i left so I gathered it was it was a IOI)

I went to the food court and thought that it would be better for me to approach here because girls cannot really walk away from you (hahaah yea, i sound like a creepy bastard). I noticed a really hot girl, much hotter than the other two i just approached, even though she had no make up on and was wearing a baseball cap and sweatpants. I'd have to say she was around an HB 8.7

Me: Excuse me, but i noticed you sitting here and i thought you were cute. I wanted to talk to you and see if you're also cool.
HB 8.7: (she smiled) Aww thats nice, I have a boyfriend, though.
Me: That's ok, can i sit here for a bit? I'm meeting my friend and he isn;t here yet(sitting down)
HB 8.7: Sure! So what do you do?
Me: I'm a student, and you?
HB 8.7: I'm an accountant at (insert some firm here)
Me: (smiling) Ohh so nbasically something boring
HB 8.7: ahahaha nooo
Me: (for some reason i didn't stay in the set, i guess i'm just primarily working on approaching, so i ejected) Well, my friend is here so i gotta go, it was nice meeting you though
HB 8.7: Nice meeting you too! (Even though I probably opened with not enough of a strong presence, i think she respected my confidence to just approach her. It's weird, my fears are like the opposite of most other guys. It seems easier for me to approach hot girls with direct openers, while harder to do a non-sexual opener to an average girl).

I was walking with fonz and i saw a decent girl talking on the phone. I walked past, wanting to approach, but interrupting someone while they're talking on the phone seems weird. Anyways, thefonz convinced me to do it anyways, so I walked back:

Me:Excuse me, but I think that you are cute and I wanted to meet you.
HBCellPhone: (smiling) Thanks, but I'm talking to my boyfriend on the phone right now.
Me: ahahah alright, tell him I said hi.
HBCellPhone: ahahah i will.

Yes, I know I didn't do well, but all I wanted to do was overcome my approach anxiety. The more that I do it, the less nervous I will be and the more confident i will become. My voice projection, posture, and wit will come in time with practice. I am thinking of substituing the word attractive for cute because I cute isn't sexual/direct enough. I dont know why I don't like opening with anything but a direct opener. I guess I just I can't stand the time while I'm conversing with a girl. I feel that she knows my intent so it feels very tense to just strike up a conversation with a girl without stating that I think she is cute/attractive.

Alright, thats all i have for now. More to come.