"BPD's make better lovers!"

[TheSomberlain]

Very true Somberlain.

Because I couldn't see her too often I spent so much time fantasizing about her that I idealized her.

Though I haven't seen her in 3 months I still dreamed about her just last night (after sleeping with a hotter girl just 3 days ago).

No woman could ever compare to the one I imagined her to be - especially not her.

I slept with two hotter women (though the BPD was still very beautiful) after the fact. Even attempted to date one for a few months. However, there is something to be said about brain as the predominate sexual center. The passion and (false) love spell they put you in (and perhaps their lack of boundaries and ability to be in tune with your desires) leaves a lasting mark that typically outshines any one-night stand. I went to bed with one girl and woke up thinking of the other. Add the element of anticipation of being together and being built up with phone sex, the idealization, etc., your experience is not uncommon.

 

[BettorOffSingle]

The woman (and many guys here) are talking only about the best-case scenario with a BPD, which is when she actually goes through with the sex. FAR more common is that they will lead you on to get you hooked, then put up LMR at the end. Sex is definitely a weapon to them, as they use it to get attention, and to maintain dominance over men, since most of them are punishing the world for what their abusers did.

When women behave this way, BPR or not, the line I use is simple:

GET IN THE GAME OR GET OFF THE FIELD.

When they bring up their "issues" they are essentially saying they want all the benefits of playing fair, even as they break the rules. Smart men RUN from women like this. When I think of "Le Club" (the "Ace of Clubs" I write about), she NEVER played those games. On the other hand, some of my ONSs (particularly SHBBartender) probably had a degree of it, as she showed up unannounced at my apartment after our first sexual encounter.

For the most part, however, I avoid women who behave as BPD women do, but do not try to psychoanalyze them. Bad behavior is bad behavior, without regard to mental state. There ARE women out there who play fair, and who are still sexy. A man with options (like a PUA) should have no difficulty screening out women like this, though dominating them (BPDs are easily dominated) can be fun, and sexually rewarding. Not long ago I passed on one specifically because of the drama she attached to relating to me. One second she'd hate me, the next she'd love me, etc. I just didn't need the sex so badly that I'd endure that type of volatility at that age.

The men in this thread have shown an exceptionally deep understanding of women.

 

[5string]

If you are a soldier, you have a rifle. You'd learn ho to use it very well, would you not?

A bpd's primary weapon is sex, that's why they are so proficient at it.

 

[queenbee88]

ignorant and narcissistic... look in the mirror

As a woman with BPD I can proudly say that I am ONE OF THE sexiest brightest self confident woman I know. Statistically 85% of men who are attracted to woman with BPD have a narrciss complex stemming from an internal need for emotional confirmation due to insecurities unbeknownst to the poor man whos plagued by this equally traumatizing disorder the only difference is that men with a narcissistic personality disorder don't have the entice of sexual allure and generally are pretty bland in bed....just saying. Any woman who is diagnosed with BPD and is actively seeking therapy or some form of treatment will not tend to be drawn to men of this specific classification and can generally have successful healthy relationships as well as sex life's. Its a common misconception that woman with BPD are "damaged goods" while in fact if diagnosed and actively treated these woman can provide a rare and exotic allure that many woman dream of possessing. With an intensity that last and a sincere emotional connection that endures the most profound hardship. Maybe instead of judging woman with BPD you should do some research and educate not only yourself but the woman who's DIAGNOSED.

 

[foreverAFC]

As a woman with BPD I can proudly say that I am ONE OF THE sexiest brightest self confident woman I know. Statistically 85% of men who are attracted to woman with BPD have a narrciss complex stemming from an internal need for emotional confirmation due to insecurities unbeknownst to the poor man whos plagued by this equally traumatizing disorder the only difference is that men with a narcissistic personality disorder don't have the entice of sexual allure and generally are pretty bland in bed....just saying. Any woman who is diagnosed with BPD and is actively seeking therapy or some form of treatment will not tend to be drawn to men of this specific classification and can generally have successful healthy relationships as well as sex life's. Its a common misconception that woman with BPD are "damaged goods" while in fact if diagnosed and actively treated these woman can provide a rare and exotic allure that many woman dream of possessing. With an intensity that last and a sincere emotional connection that endures the most profound hardship. Maybe instead of judging woman with BPD you should do some research and educate not only yourself but the woman who's DIAGNOSED.

thats cool n all, but i think ill pass

 

[plate's_empty]

They do.

Mine, yes she was BPD and was also seeing a therapist for it (but it wasn't doing sh1t). She couldn't get enough. We'd have sex five times in one day. Then I'd go to bed hoping for much needed rest only to wake up at 5am with her going to town on, borderline abusing, my man tool.

Bottom line: The sex is what kept us together.

 

[bluenorther]

Shrink4men.com has a current article describing how she'll use the sex as bait to ultimately put a noose around your neck. First, though, she has to wean you off the sex, until there's no more at all. That's when you hear "All you ever think about is sex!" By the time you hear this, she's already moved in with you, and sold her place, so she can't leave. You are doomed.
The women I know usually give me the "All you ever think about" a lot sooner, which means I'm able to get free of her hook before any damage is done.

 

[expos]

Shrink4men.com has a current article describing how she'll use the sex as bait to ultimately put a noose around your neck. First, though, she has to wean you off the sex, until there's no more at all. That's when you hear "All you ever think about is sex!" By the time you hear this, she's already moved in with you, and sold her place, so she can't leave. You are doomed.
The women I know usually give me the "All you ever think about" a lot sooner, which means I'm able to get free of her hook before any damage is done.

This accurately describes my experience as well with a BPD. They will also give in to sex during dry spells just to keep the charade going so you don't bail. At this point, they just lay there while you pound away. It's all false hope.

 

[Bible_Belt]

85% of men who are attracted to woman with BPD have a narcissistic complex.

I must be in the 15% minority, because I am way too awesome to be narcissistic

 

[darksidesomething]

My BPD sex life:

All I can do I suppose is tell my own story, I am a 28 year old female with BPD, was diagnosed around the age of 22/23. I have been in a relationship with my partner (29 year old male) for the past nine years and I'd just like to point out before I go into any details that neither of us are forced into doing anything we don't want to do by the other, we are both bisexual and open to most things. He enjoys watching me get off - which gets me off.

I suppose I should start from the beginning of my sexual experience, when I was 16 I gave my first boyfriend a ******* and he told me afterwards "Well you've obviously done that before"... I hadn't.
Throughout the years guys have told me time and time again that they've never had a sexual experience like the one they had with me, I don't mean to blow my own trumpet - for the longest time I thought everyone ****ed like I do, until I was told otherwise. I've been described as "The best", "Amazing", "Out of this world"... "I've never seen a girl take **** like you do", "You give head like you're going to die if you don't", "I don't need to rape your face because you do it yourself" etc etc.

The things I've done over the years I suppose it's easier if I just list the ones I can remember... obviously all the usual stuff, anal, oral, I've ****ed girls, I ****ed a girl in front of her boyfriend and mine with a strap-on and all the other lesbian stuff you do with a woman (lol) I had her sit on my face while my boyfriend ****ed me and she sucked her boyfriend off... I have regular threesomes with two men, spit-roasting, double penetration, double vaginal penetration, double anal penetration, stuffed two ****s in my mouth at the same time, been pissed on, drank piss straight from a guy's **** because he wanted to stop ****ing and go to the toilet but I said he could just use me as a toilet, I've put malteasers up my ass and had them eaten out of me, I've had two guys wank on my face (during a threesome with two men one of the guys seemed to be happy wanking by himself just watching and I took great offence telling him "You could at least wank at my face!" - he found this highly amusing and it is still a joke between us to this day haha. I enjoy getting ****ed so hard that I feel like I'm going to black out - I bounce on **** when they get to tired to pound me any more... I grind and squirt and scratch and bite and enjoy getting the same treatment, I enjoy strangulation. I've experimented with scat and I enjoy watching beastiality videos (never tried it but that's probably because nobody's suggested it to me) I enjoy watching gay/lesbian porn, hardcore porn, large insertions... pretty much anything I'll do or at least try once (nothing with minors obviously but everything else)

I have also worked as a pole/lapdancer for the past six years so yeah, I consider myself as a sexual deviant and all round sexy sex person.

Also have text/phone/webcam sex just for ****s n giggles

So yeah, that's my BPD sex life.

 

[sylvester the cat]

it is my experience that everyone has some form of BPD.

If you do not agree with what i say, i will assume you have BPD.

the only person i met who did not have BPD was a corpse.

 

[D Wolfgang]

but something I noticed no one writing into your site pointed out yet is the fact that women with borderline personality disorder are probably a lot better in bed than a woman without. As a woman with BPD I can tell you that I am a fantastic lover

This is qualified BS. It comes from dumb people thinking, "Hmm, when a girl is eager and takes initiative in bed she is sometimes called 'crazy in bed'. Therefore, a girl who is crazy must be crazy in bed!"

Those suffering from the condition that gives rise to the word used in a metaphor must be like that which the metaphor describes. Good God. The stupidity you encounter when people open their mouths.

Let's not leave such people alone with a fox. Since they are sure to have heard sexy women described as "foxy", they might be tempted to some bestiality.

 

[munmun]

I dated a BPD woman last year. She was flipping awesome in bed. The best! She went home with me the night i met her. Next morning she asked me about fantasies. I said sex clubs and swinging. She said it was her fantasy too and that she would make mine come true if I remained emotionally exclusive with her. I could have as many women as I wanted physically while with her. We started our new lifestyle and it was awesome and fun! What man wouldn't love that? Plus she loved the attention she got from men too. We were two crazy sluts in that place. Eventually I tired of her craziness and ended it. But she kept coming back. Would show up at my place saying she was upset about something or other. She would end up taking me to bed. After sex, I would declare that was a one time thing only. She would fly into a rage only to return a few weeks later again. This went on for a year. She has now disappeared calling me an insensitive prick.

I guess I used her thoroughly for sex. But she was asking for it. Using sex as bait to hook me in. What else is a poor boy to do?

 

[Dgwizdal]

As a woman with BPD I can proudly say that I am ONE OF THE sexiest brightest self confident woman I know. Statistically 85% of men who are attracted to woman with BPD have a narrciss complex stemming from an internal need for emotional confirmation due to insecurities unbeknownst to the poor man whos plagued by this equally traumatizing disorder the only difference is that men with a narcissistic personality disorder don't have the entice of sexual allure and generally are pretty bland in bed....just saying. Any woman who is diagnosed with BPD and is actively seeking therapy or some form of treatment will not tend to be drawn to men of this specific classification and can generally have successful healthy relationships as well as sex life's. Its a common misconception that woman with BPD are "damaged goods" while in fact if diagnosed and actively treated these woman can provide a rare and exotic allure that many woman dream of possessing. With an intensity that last and a sincere emotional connection that endures the most profound hardship. Maybe instead of judging woman with BPD you should do some research and educate not only yourself but the woman who's DIAGNOSED.

Straight from the delusional wh0rses mouth. You BPD girls are all ticking time bombs doomed for self destruction one way or another. Period.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[Infern0]

My bpd is awesome in bed, she's not too bad in other regards too as long as you stay on your toes.

Here...... comes. ..... the. ......hate

 

[munmun]

My bpd is awesome in bed, she's not too bad in other regards too as long as you stay on your toes.

Here...... comes. ..... the. ......hate

Hahahaha! But will she cook naked for you? Mine would if I asked nicely. Extra nice and she would go and find another woman for a threesome. I asked her to be my FWB recently. Sadly she called me insensitive and turned me down. Apparently she loves me. Hahahaha!

 

[SmooveMooves]

Surely Sosuave has to have more intelligent men than this. This thread is retarded, and it just one "But MY BPD girl did..." circle jerk.

Cognitive dissonance. "THERES GOT TO BE SOME REASON I KEEP LONG TERM DATING FEMALES WITH "MENTAL DISEASES". I KNOW! ITS CAUSE SHE'S GOOD IN BED!!

And like I say in every in every "BPD" thread. Most of you guys didn't even really date BPD chicks. You just got manipulated and rationalized it away to her being ill. People actually diagnosed (by a real doctor, not your internet expertise) with BPD don't often have successful long-term relationships or. They're to busy Self-harming and contemplating and/or Making attempts on their lives to be bothered.

You guys need to research "BPD". Like seriously, read a scientific journal or something.

 

[BrainDamage92]

If you want to do "pornstar hardcore as fast and hard as you can" sex with her shes golden for the job.

If you want to make love to her you will have to break alot of walls down. Walls that have been built for years. Its not an easy task to do so, and you may find your self in a situation where youre having sex or trying to make love to a statue. A person who is not there. Is not feeling it. Its amazing how everything can be going more than well then something snaps and she is no longer feeling it and you just sense how shes doing it as an obligation, just so your balls can be empty so you dont cheat or smth.

I think the term BPD is tossed too freely, but girls with problematic background are not for everyone, not at all... You need to be a man of the strongest kind to handle it or a complete psychopath\kiddo who has no feelings for that matter.

I have thought more than I am confortable to admit on these matters and there is no onesided answer. In the end, some people are strong enough to start living in the present, while some remain tangled up in their past.

I realised with time how wrong it is to call these girl offensive names and the hate towards them in general. Its sad. Thats all it is.

I was with a girl pretty much like that for 3 years (my first and only really serious thing), and from my observations, basically they pull the same stuff other women pull and its no different. I know she still got love for me but only because I left her whren she was starting to lose it. I wasnt feeling it anymore for that matter too so it works both ways.

I was just a dumb kid and she was just a hurt kid when we met.

The difference is you got someone who has been through **** you havent been through so thats a barrier.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Surely Sosuave has to have more intelligent men than this. This thread is retarded, and it just one "But MY BPD girl did..." circle jerk.

Cognitive dissonance. "THERES GOT TO BE SOME REASON I KEEP LONG TERM DATING FEMALES WITH "MENTAL DISEASES". I KNOW! ITS CAUSE SHE'S GOOD IN BED!!

And like I say in every in every "BPD" thread. Most of you guys didn't even really date BPD chicks. You just got manipulated and rationalized it away to her being ill. People actually diagnosed (by a real doctor, not your internet expertise) with BPD don't often have successful long-term relationships or. They're to busy Self-harming and contemplating and/or Making attempts on their lives to be bothered.

You guys need to research "BPD". Like seriously, read a scientific journal or something.

You seem to miss the point time and time again that there are a number of indicators in her life that are outside of how she "manipulates" you that indicate clear signs of BPD. It is beyond her sh!tty behavior and being a wh0re. I've been with plenty of girls to know the clear difference.

I agree that some guys on here misuse the term especially the newbs but for the educated, experienced guys on here - there's no mistaking them. You don't need to come on to every BPD thread and a say your 2 cents when you've never been involved with one to know better let alone chastise people who MAY have and want to talk about it. Quite frankly, you look like a moron. You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about when you try and say a BPD chick is just a chick who manipulated you and then you blamed it on an illness. You aren't even scratching the surface to what their character and mental state is. And once you find out - you'll steer clear of the obvious signs.