BPD Women - They actually give hints.

[Yorkex]

After a gym session today , I met a new guy friend and we were talking about past relationships. He goes on to talk about how crazy her last ex was and he is just starting to get his life back together. He mentions something called " BPD Women " which to my surprise was something I was not even aware of ( fairly young )
Anyways, I came home and decided to so a little more research and my goodness did this make everything clear to me now.
From how my ex was able to move on so quick and how she still kept in touch until I decided to disappear completely.
The funny thing is I decided to match every thing I'm learning with her behaviour. After I broke up with her , she sent me this long emails one night. First one was along the lines of how she can't live without me and even though she betrayed my trust she still loves me blah blah blah, she behaved like a slvt and I have the right to be hurt.
Then the second one came about 30 mins , how she feels that she messed up but she is not a ***** , calls me controlling , manipulative , selfish , immature , prideful ...then admits that she played a huge part in how I started to behave like that. After all the name calling , she finishes of the email by stating that she wants to be with me .." My spirit is restored and I have forgiven myself. I have learned from this and from you so what ever you say or do won't Crack my spirit "

Fast forward to when she found a new body to manipulate , she kept calling me to meet up. I cracked one time and met up ...the night ended with a blow job in the car. Afterwards she panics about what happened and what she will tell her new bf , I can assure you by the time I drove her to her place her mood changed again to normal. Later that month I got a call from her that she was stuck with her mom downtown and they needed help. Knowing I work downtown I offered to help ...she actually got a hotel room and we ended up having sex , afterwards she called her bf like nothing happened.
I went on a month of calling her to hang out which ALWAYS led to blow jobs , one time her boyfriend was on the phone while she was giving me a hand job.
Suddenly , she went ghost after I told her this is not right. She posted birthday pictures of this new guy " the love of my life and man of my dreams"
I was shocked at first , then I decided to forget about everything and delete her from everything.

Sometimes these crazy women TELL us they are crazy but because of emotions or getting some puxxy we fail to pick it up.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Typical bottom b**ch behavior. Those types are very toxic, typically BPD, and are forward with the way they are. There's no masking their true colors like other types do.

 

[Stugots26]

Do you realize how rare BPD women actually are? This is just how WOMEN IN GENERAL are these days. But if you ask Roissy, and I have to agree, it may have something to do with the frame you established from the very beginning of your interaction with this girl.

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/03/05/bpd-women/

 

[Yorkex]

That 2 percent seems WAY off. Plus, that is the Stat of the women who actually went in for treatment.

Frame wise , I was confident because I had plates before meeting her. She always talked about how many girls I he around me. In such I actually cut ties with most of them ( stupid me) Then I got dragged down this spiral that I believe only those who have experienced it can relate.

Right now , I'm single but content. I just started to r again a lot of aspects of my life back and she knows I know how she is thus she doesn't want to confront me.
It's like a drug , similar to quiting cigs or alcohol.

 

[skinnyguy]

Many BPD women are hot which is why men will always tolerate it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Many BPD women are hot which is why men will always tolerate it.

Yes. Mine is. But there is also the crazy-girl sex. The last time she came over, we fvcked five times. Then she picked a fight about nothing; I got mad and called her a crazy b!tch. Then in the middle of fighting, she decided we had to fvck again. Thirty minutes later, she wanted it again, and I had to tell her, "sorry, we just did it six times; I am worn out."

 

[Yorkex]

I agree the 2% stat is way off. I have read as high as 6% - and you have to remember, those are DIAGNOSED cases. There are many undiagnosed.

More importantly, due to their nature, 6% can do alot of damage. I would estimate a BPD smashes through AT LEAST one relationship per year, leaving a trail of broken men in her path.

Take 6% of the population crushing one man per year .....that is alot of damage.

FWIW - the one I dated was widow. I asked how her husband died, and she simply said "asphyxiation"

so.....I would assume that was suicide by rope or exhaust fumes?
I suppose it could be choking...but I am inclined to believe he did himself in to get away from her. They have a way of beating you down, removing every shred of self-worth.

If he choked on food, she would simply say that.

I won't be surprised if he killed him self , considering he married her for however long. At one point I started considering maybe I was the crazy one. Everyone around her sees her as some angel but I managed to see through her. I remember watching the movie Gone Girl with her & how her eyes lit up , waiting to see what the girl was going to do next. Crazy girls idolize other crazy girls.

 

[GS750]

The trick, in my estimation, is to learn as much about these BPD chicks as you can. You may be able to spot one early on that will set off alarms in your head..."BPD - ABORT ABORT". Thankfully there are sites like this one with guys (myself included) who have had an experience with a BPD woman. If I came across another one of these whackos I think I'd see the signs. Here's a few clues: Stage 5 clinger, way into you way too early, badmouths her exes, attention wh0re, super insecure, and they are usually super smart. Be on the lookout bro's. They are out there. 7.2 million strong...according to mauser's numbers. I'm still a little traumatized haha. But I'm wiser.

 

[BrainDamage92]

First if you fall in love with a BPD, your arent truthfull with yourself, couse this whole thing is smoke and mirrors from both parties. Now Im no saint so I dont judge the girl nowadays. I just packed my bags and left when I realised I cant keep her in check anymore. And keeping a BPD in check means treating them like **** despite the fact that it breaks your heart. I kinda balanced between *******\nice guy but its not worth it. I didnt know about this condition before, but apparently instinctively I did all the right things to make it as "not ugly" as possible.

The worst thing left after loving a BPD is questions like:

Did they care at all or was it a big phat lie?

DO they have a heart at all?

Can an emotionally disturbed person really be held accountable for his actions?

Mine was a very beutifull person at the heart I believe, and this to this day makes me cry, because this is how these girls are - a very big ambivalence which ****s with your brain. But I had to leave her, no other way, she would REK me just like she rekt her ex before me. And Im strong psychologically, but I dont thing anyone is strong enough to keep a girl like that in check for like 10 years, I did it for 2,5 years almost lost my mind. I like to think about exactly how she painted me black, but she came up with something, but her family knows Im a good person Idk, AND THE FAMILY IS ALWAYS FULLY AWARE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG, if you meet a girls parents and they look at you with sympathy and abit of pitty RUN.

So she is wanderfull. But that lasts exactly 5 minutes. Then something very minor happens, which puts her in a bitter state. This bitter state doesnt go away, in a normal person thoughts go like this:

"Oh I feel annoyed couse I overslept for work" - done deal

In her its like:

"Oh I feel annoyed, it cant be because I overslept, this is so minor, and I feel so BITTER, there should be something else, oh ye I forgot, my ******* boyfriend it all comes from him."

So you kinda get blamed that the Earth is round in the end.

And you get a generally unhappy grumpy person, not because of you, but because of themselves, so that kinda puts weight on stuff with time.

And Ive read and heard horrible stories with BPD girls, basically I know if you turn into full doormat mode youre done for. They give the phrase "walk over your head" a new dimension. Deal with them if you think you can handle it, but damn, you gotta be like... Idk a psychopath? Or maybe I was weak, who knows...

 

[sylvester the cat]

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The trick, in my estimation, is to learn as much about these BPD chicks as you can. You may be able to spot one early on that will set off alarms in your head..."BPD - ABORT ABORT". Thankfully there are sites like this one with guys (myself included) who have had an experience with a BPD woman. If I came across another one of these whackos I think I'd see the signs. Here's a few clues: Stage 5 clinger, way into you way too early, badmouths her exes, attention wh0re, super insecure, and they are usually super smart. Be on the lookout bro's. They are out there. 7.2 million strong...according to mauser's numbers. I'm still a little traumatized haha. But I'm wiser.

And this...

First if you fall in love with a BPD, your arent truthfull with yourself, couse this whole thing is smoke and mirrors from both parties. Now Im no saint so I dont judge the girl nowadays. I just packed my bags and left when I realised I cant keep her in check anymore. And keeping a BPD in check means treating them like **** despite the fact that it breaks your heart. I kinda balanced between *******\nice guy but its not worth it. I didnt know about this condition before, but apparently instinctively I did all the right things to make it as "not ugly" as possible.

The worst thing left after loving a BPD is questions like:

Did they care at all or was it a big phat lie?

DO they have a heart at all?

Can an emotionally disturbed person really be held accountable for his actions?

Mine was a very beutifull person at the heart I believe, and this to this day makes me cry, because this is how these girls are - a very big ambivalence which ****s with your brain. But I had to leave her, no other way, she would REK me just like she rekt her ex before me. And Im strong psychologically, but I dont thing anyone is strong enough to keep a girl like that in check for like 10 years, I did it for 2,5 years almost lost my mind. I like to think about exactly how she painted me black, but she came up with something, but her family knows Im a good person Idk, AND THE FAMILY IS ALWAYS FULLY AWARE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG, if you meet a girls parents and they look at you with sympathy and abit of pitty RUN.

So she is wanderfull. But that lasts exactly 5 minutes. Then something very minor happens, which puts her in a bitter state. This bitter state doesnt go away, in a normal person thoughts go like this:

"Oh I feel annoyed couse I overslept for work" - done deal

In her its like:

"Oh I feel annoyed, it cant be because I overslept, this is so minor, and I feel so BITTER, there should be something else, oh ye I forgot, my ******* boyfriend it all comes from him."

So you kinda get blamed that the Earth is round in the end.

And you get a generally unhappy grumpy person, not because of you, but because of themselves, so that kinda puts weight on stuff with time.

And Ive read and heard horrible stories with BPD girls, basically I know if you turn into full doormat mode youre done for. They give the phrase "walk over your head" a new dimension. Deal with them if you think you can handle it, but damn, you gotta be like... Idk a psychopath? Or maybe I was weak, who knows...

...both perfectly describe this girl I've been seeing. I thought it would be simple to eject but no, she had two bags worth of stuff at my place that would always be used to get her foot back in the door. Or if I just ignored her she would turn up at my door unannounced. Thankfully that stuff is now gone so she has no leverage.

And before anyone says sack up and grow a pair, you have no idea just how manipulative these girls can be. It's amazing. They will twist everything you say and turn it around to make you the guilty party. You really have to give them credit. YOu can try to use logic and reason to show just how bad they've been but they will not have it. They are the victim and you are the evildoer. Kind of remind me of certain posters here actually now I mention it. Anyway, last night she 'forgot to call me', flaked on me for a tv programme, and didn't call after the show as promised. This was all after her chewing my ear off for an hour during her lunchbreak earlier in the day where she poured her heart out about her 'troubles' at work. Thankfully I dumped this girl in my mind a long time ago and might have been upset had I not. This girl actually thinks she is still in a relationship with me.

 

[stevo]

Yes. Mine is. But there is also the crazy-girl sex. The last time she came over, we fvcked five times. Then she picked a fight about nothing; I got mad and called her a crazy b!tch. Then in the middle of fighting, she decided we had to fvck again. Thirty minutes later, she wanted it again, and I had to tell her, "sorry, we just did it six times; I am worn out."

Haha and that right there is how millions of men get hooked.

Lawd, those girls are usually hot as fire and they fcuk in a way that makes you confuse common sense from danger.


Is it worth it to trade an ok sex with a normal girl with no BPD tendencies for a mind blowing session with a BPD chic?


My big head is telling me no but my small head, my small head is telling me Yeeeeeaaahh :rockon:

 

[Zarky]

Keep in mind that there's a continuum of crazy. It's not like "5% are BPD and the rest are normal." There are plenty of nutty, dangerous broads out there who might not be diagnosed BPD (or any other pathology) but will still make your life miserable. I think that's more like 50%.

I'm beginning to think that chicks see these "reality" shows where people (mostly women) bicker literally the entire time, and then think it's normal. What the draw is to sit there and watch people argue is beyond me, but I know a lot of women who like them.

And I know that TV/movies influence behavior. I saw a few episodes of "Deadwood" several years ago and, after each episode, I found myself swearing like a f*cking sailor. It blew my mind how much my own behavior changed -- so much so that I remember it to this day.

But whatever the cause, I think crazy is the new normal Having said that, there's no reason you should 1) tolerate it, or 2) take it personally.

 

[dk1990S111]

The trick, in my estimation, is to learn as much about these BPD chicks as you can. You may be able to spot one early on that will set off alarms in your head..."BPD - ABORT ABORT". Thankfully there are sites like this one with guys (myself included) who have had an experience with a BPD woman. If I came across another one of these whackos I think I'd see the signs. Here's a few clues: Stage 5 clinger, way into you way too early, badmouths her exes, attention wh0re, super insecure, and they are usually super smart. Be on the lookout bro's. They are out there. 7.2 million strong...according to mauser's numbers. I'm still a little traumatized haha. But I'm wiser.

perfectly describes my ex haha

 

[Thefakeslimshady]

I went out with a crazy chick for 1 year. I don't know if she was BPD but everything you guys describe here is exactly how she was with me. She's the reason I found this site. She was like a little kid stuck in a gown women's body. I feel
Like she sucked my soul and ate it for sustenance. I couldn't even make eye contact with people after she was done with me. It was like constantly walking on eggshells. I had to run mock conversations in my head and weight out all the ways she could react before actually saying anything to her. Just incase she might blow up. Her way to flip the script was just amazing. I was always the bad guy and she was the saint. I remember one time while we weren't together anymore I ended up staying over her house and sleeping next to her. In the morning I start feeling her up and start rubbing her pvssy. She straight up was like "NO I am not having secs with you EVER!!!". Then 5 minutes later she asks me if I give her a 10 sack of weed she'll fvck me. I agreed because I was already laying next to her naked and I was gonna smoke her up anyways so what's the harm. Man was I wrong. The secs was good but it made me feel horrible and used. The whole time she tried running the show and was making comments jabbing at my selfesteem "when's the last time you fvckd someone else, seems like you lost your touch". "Make sure not to *** in me or you'll have to pay for the abortion". "I thought all guys watch porn" hinting that I suck in bed. This is the same girl I was fvcking for a whole year where the secs was amazing for both. Then she gets even CRAZIER. Asks for more weed than we agreed upon after we were done. So at this point I'm like NO either pay for it or I'll give it to you if you suck my d1ck. She freaks the hell out. Saying how she's not a prostitute how dare I offer her things for secs. I'm thinking wtf bich this whole thing was your idea. Then She starts throwing stuff at me, swinging at me and hitting me. Like straight punches at my head. I tell her to fvck off and head to my car. I realize that I left my bag in her house so I walk back in and she's just sitting on her bed combing her hair and asks me if I'm hungry and want to go get something to eat together?!

I'm pretty sure she was just the devil reincarnated into a hot women's body.

 

[expos]

I think the correct term for these women should just be "Cluster B". BPD is just one of many forms of Cluster B behavior.

I think the hard thing about these women is how they make you feel about yourself. In my personal experience, I've had a lot of people try to take me down - everyone from family, to co-workers, so-called friends, and bosses. At no point during these wars did I ever lose my sense of worth or self. I had no issues with confidence.

With Cluster B, they are somehow able to project their problems and insecurities on to you. They somehow infect you. If you are one of those types who is used to diffusing situations, pleasing others, etc, you will find yourself completely baffled as to why you can't make them happy or maintain a happy relationship. You (and they) will make you out to be a problem.

I think the hardest thing isn't dumping them, it's the fallout from them hooking up with someone immediately after you are done with them. I took me so long to get over that and feeling inferior to my replacement. Then, somewhere done the line you realize that you've been in some nasty fog - manipulated, deceived, and cheated out of a good relationship. It was never you, it was always them.

 

[GS750]

They hook up with someone so soon because they can't be alone. They have orbiters on tap, or an ex that's trying to come back (same as an orbiter IMO) and they jump to a new d*ck. But be aware, when that relationship fails or starts to go bad you'll be hearing from her.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Look how mine did it, I packed my bags and left her.

4 months we kept contact like, phone calls and all.

Around new year she calls to invite me to visit her "I need to see you". And me, despite realising perfectly she has prepared some **** went to see her.

Ofc 4 days after I went back home, she calls to say shes seing someone new but she still wants to talk to me Ye, sure, like that will ever happen, I cut contact then completely. The feeling is not nice though, like a cobra just bit you, like a scorpion just stung you

gotta love her ways So evil you have to admire it. Laugh it off and dont take stuff personally, its about them, not you, as someone pointed out.

:crackup: no this was very classic I cant help but admire it nowadays like how does she come up with these ellaborate revenge plans and at the same time making completely retarded decisions regarding her life. Once you have solved her riddle it will all become better so dont worry and if you can understand the "logic" behind BPD, you understand the logic behind all women so thats a +

But dont stick around trying to make her happy when disrespect arises. Just dont this is the most ***** move and you will get dropped on your head, much like my ex's ex, poor guy, at least I just got stung, it wasnt brutal, she didnt have me by the balls to make it brutal :}

 

[Yorkex]

I held my self strong for 3 years. I even got her to admit " I lie alot I don't know why , sometimes I just do it without thinking"
And about fighting , I rarely accept things unless I can compute it logically. When we used to fight , I learned to disregard my emotions and hit her with logical facts. When she knows she can't win she would physically hit or grab me up ; in total she tore around 6 of my shirts on different occasions. Now if this was a typical hot tempered man , he would've hit her back and ended up in jail for nothing.
One occasion we got in an argument because she had a party and invited her ex and his friends to the party...she didn't tell me nothing about it till I got to the venue. I played it cool until she started to make me jealous , she completely left me with her work friends that I know NOTHING about and was sitting in a cycle with her ex laughing for almost an hour. After a while I ran out of things to talk about with her work mates , I mean I couldn't hit on them so I kept it casual till it ran out.
She comes in the car with me and and start grabbing me that she won't let me leave , her friend tries to grab her back she disagrees. I decide I had enough and started to drive while she was in the car , in the middle of the road ...she pulls the gear from Drive to Park ...and the car comes to a halting stop , luckily no cars were behind us.

Right now I know she knows I figured out her game , she is parading her new host around and stopped phoning but I know once they finish the honeymoon phase and the fights start or the guy leave her ..she will be back blowing up my phone. I have bookmarked everything I learned about BPD , when she reaches out I will email her the link and tell her to seek help.
To me what's messed up is after everything , YOU feel like you were not good enough and maybe something is wrong with you. But in fact the way you behaved in the relationship was the cause and effect or her sick game.
" Oh he gets mad and makes me feel when he talks" - to my mom.
Then I think about it , why did I get mad? Because you are lying about something I have already caught you in the act. You can't lie against facts. It got to a point , I made sure to take pictures or everything I found out or voice record , just to have concrete proof.

I will say , what helped me overcome some of these feelings were thinking back to the person I was before meeting her and the first few months of the relationship. Until she started to bring her ex in the picture and her other "possible replacements". Beats down your worth as a man , and when you react she goes " I wish things were how it was at the beginning"
As stated , if you can pull out with a BPD for 6+months , after her wreckage if you learn to get your self back to normal ...you basically know how to handle every woman on the planet. I'm actually grateful I met mine at such a young age & she didn't master her wicked skill yet. I actually feel sorry for the next man now. After detachment , I will turn her into a plate though , they are soo easy to bed when you know how to deal with them.

 

[Thefakeslimshady]

Why even go back to an ex at all. especially if she treated you like this. You won't even be able to enjoy her as a plate and she'll be constantly trying to manipulate you and pull her old sh1t. Coming from someone who did try to keep his old (im pretty sure BPD) as a plate it will just blow up in your face. I thought I would practice my game on her, but they are not normal, so it does more damage to your game and inner-self than help it. I'm pretty sure your still gonna go for it though. I get it. Everyone has to learn on their own. But it's just not worth it.

 

[dk1990S111]

Why even go back to an ex at all. especially if she treated you like this. You won't even be able to enjoy her as a plate and she'll be constantly trying to manipulate you and pull her old sh1t. Coming from someone who did try to keep his old (im pretty sure BPD) as a plate it will just blow up in your face. I thought I would practice my game on her, but they are not normal, so it does more damage to your game and inner-self than help it. I'm pretty sure your still gonna go for it though. I get it. Everyone has to learn on their own. But it's just not worth it.

Exactly. I started banging my ex (definitely BPD) for a while and all it did was **** up all the progress I made getting over the sh1t she put me through. I am pretty strong psychologically but she had no problem messing with my head even after telling myself I was the one using her.

not worth it but ya, we all do what we want.