BPD ex keeps coming back..

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Where do I start?? It's been 2 years since we seperated because I got sick of her lying, cheating, and abuse.. and this freak keeps sending me messages on messenger.. under her name I block it. Then she makes fake accounts and messages me again.. I block them.. now her Fu***Ng nutjob friends are messaging me.. need some advice.. I'm entitled to have a Facebook without being constantly harassed. What do I do?
 

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Report to facebook and request they block her IP address
 

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having a bpd bmama, no winnning, at all. they'll keep coming back until your dead.

you prob want to ball her again and chit.
fvcking nuke her ass out of your life and run
 

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BPD’s lack a fully developed common sense about reality and emotionally think like children in their personal lives. Don’t be surprised by anything they do, and it will likely not make any sense to you…
Brush it off completely like just another unexplained phenomenon that you will never know the answer to because a crazy immature Ex is not worth you thought process anymore…
 
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They always come back lol. I got a Facebook message from mine the other day saying she dreamt i had died and wanting to check i was ok.

I haven't had anything to do with her for over 2 years now but she always pops up here and there.

You have to understand you are dealing with someone with ****ed emotions.

Block if you can't handle it, me personally I don't care anymore "hey nah im not dead thanks for checking" and carry on with my damn day.

It shouldn't have any power over you anymore.
 

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You can always track the harassment, keep records of everything, and then get a restraining order on her. As part of this tactic, you need to very clearly tell her you would like her she is harassing you and you wild like her to STOP ALL CONTACT. Do it over Facebook messenger and let her reply to that message.

When she doesn't stop, take that all and get a restraining order. You have the right to a peaceful existence
 

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You have to get them to hate you for them to stop coming back. Some of them will disappear forever. IMO the ones that keep coming back are the most dangerous ones. Thankfully the one I dated is the ghost forever type. Just hearing her name now makes me uneasy. I can only imagine the mind phuk if she were constantly trying to contact me.

BPD's thrive on power, control, attention and chaos. That's their lifeline, without it they will die. They keep contacting you to see if they still have control/power of you. Even if you tell her to F off, she knows a reaction means she's still in control of you. If you ignore her enough she will give up and leave you alone. No contact is and always will be the #1 way to deal with these pos.


I got a Facebook message from mine the other day saying she dreamt i had died and wanting to check i was ok. Block if you can't handle it, me personally I don't care anymore "hey nah im not dead thanks for checking" and carry on with my damn day.
She had a dream you died (probably lied) cause she wants you dead. Why even give her the pleasure of a response after all she did? I know you and some others or over them and can handle grey rocking when they pop up. I do not recommend even saying a word to them. They don't deserve a reaction or response. Always know if they do contact you, it's NEVER about you, it's all about them!
 

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You have to get them to hate you for them to stop coming back. Some of them will disappear forever. IMO the ones that keep coming back are the most dangerous ones. Thankfully the one I dated is the ghost forever type. Just hearing her name now makes me uneasy. I can only imagine the mind phuk if she were constantly trying to contact me.

BPD's thrive on power, control, attention and chaos. That's their lifeline, without it they will die. They keep contacting you to see if they still have control/power of you. Even if you tell her to F off, she knows a reaction means she's still in control of you. If you ignore her enough she will give up and leave you alone. No contact is and always will be the #1 way to deal with these pos.




She had a dream you died (probably lied) cause she wants you dead. Why even give her the pleasure of a response after all she did? I know you and some others or over them and can handle grey rocking when they pop up. I do not recommend even saying a word to them. They don't deserve a reaction or response. Always know if they do contact you, it's NEVER about you, it's all about them!
Bro it just doesn't matter to me anymore. I'm not interested at all, she doesn't have an in with me so she's harmless to me now. And she knows it
 

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You have to get them to hate you for them to stop coming back. Some of them will disappear forever. IMO the ones that keep coming back are the most dangerous ones. Thankfully the one I dated is the ghost forever type. Just hearing her name now makes me uneasy. I can only imagine the mind phuk if she were constantly trying to contact me.

BPD's thrive on power, control, attention and chaos. That's their lifeline, without it they will die. They keep contacting you to see if they still have control/power of you. Even if you tell her to F off, she knows a reaction means she's still in control of you. If you ignore her enough she will give up and leave you alone. No contact is and always will be the #1 way to deal with these pos.




She had a dream you died (probably lied) cause she wants you dead. Why even give her the pleasure of a response after all she did? I know you and some others or over them and can handle grey rocking when they pop up. I do not recommend even saying a word to them. They don't deserve a reaction or response. Always know if they do contact you, it's NEVER about you, it's all about them!
They sure do love power and control, my ex didn't have that with me, I don't do well with control freaks, as much as she tried to control me it didn't work. Her and I had some pretty nasty fights, she liked the drama, she was the one that instigated the fight 90% of the time. Fighting with her was like fighting with a child which I found out later as I learned more about BPD's they have the mentality of a child. I watched her manipulate people she loved that bragged about how she could get what she wanted. Glad I never hear from her, if I do hear her name or see somebody that looks like her it gives me the shudders. Getting them to hate you is the key you have to cause them pain when they think about you, they can't handle it, works in your favor.
 
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