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A few weeks ago I wrote a post called "Shelf Life of a Woman". Since then, I've started thinking about boys and what their progression is like as compared to women. I don't think boys are as linear as women when it comes to their development, since the elements of their development overlap much of the time and occur during a more generalized and shortened time-frame. Here's my breakdown of the developmental elements as pertaining to boys...
Age 0-6
Learning to walk, talk, learning what their limits are and what they can get away with. Girls are always pushing their limits when it comes to other people, even in their adult years. Boys seem to become more set in their ways much earlier, at least until age 17.
Age 0-16
Boys are more interested in testing their own limits as opposed to the limits of other people. This age range consists mostly of what appears to be "self-pleasure" although it's really them testing their own abilities. Girls don't really do this. Girls generally require someone to lead them to their abilities.
A boy never really quits testing his own abilities, but this age range is where a LOT of his learning comes from and peaks out when puberty begins to hit. If the boy was raised without a strong male role-model, then he's going to have this suppressed by his mother because she doesn't understand that boys need to test their own limits. His mother will smother him with "be nice to others" and "pay attention to feelings". He's not allowed to go out and kill small animals, play with guns, or learn to defend himself in social situations.
This entire phase is somewhat equivalent to a woman's "party phase"
Age 15-21
Boys don't really start to take an interest in women or sex until this age range. Many won't lose their virginity until after high school. They don't develop the same kind of emotional crushes that women do. Boys are instead driven by their hormones, and having a girlfriend can conflict with testing their limits in other activities such as social situations. Social conditioning also causes boys to repress the ability to test their limits with their sexuality.
Age 17
This is very much a transition age. From 0-16, boys are constantly testing their own limits. Sometime during age 17, their priorities transition from seeking self-pleasure to seeking the achievement of goals. By age 18, many boys are ready to enter the work-force and continue to test their own limits, but in a more "adult" environment. This is where many people will see that boys have "matured" past their "childish behavior".
Age 18+
The newly developed MEN are now ready to enter the work force and build careers for themselves. They are no longer pushing their limits by way of "immature and destructive behavior" and therefore are "mature" enough to take the workplace seriously.
Age 20+
As the male progresses in pushing his limits and setting goals, he will become more financially independent, gain useful skills, and become more valuable as a leader in a woman's eyes.
Now, after thinking about all of this, I've realized a couple of things...
Maturity
Boys don't really begin their journey of progressive "maturing" until much later than girls. Girls really start the "maturing" phase around age 7 or so, but boys won't start until their mid-teens. However, boys have a much shorter journey in maturing than girls. Age 16-18 is when boys will do the majority of their "growing up" while women are constantly doing it from age 7-23.
School
The fact that school generally ends when a person hits age 18 leads me to believe that the school system was originally designed around a boy's process of "growing up". The actual methods of teaching, herding children, and even the curriculum have since been modified to cater to the needs of girls.
If we were to truly cater the school system to the needs of girls, children wouldn't be graduating until around age 23 when a woman is truly finished "maturing".
My thoughts on all of this?
If we were to make schools that fit the needs of children, we should have individual schools for boys and girls. A boys school would have challenges that were more suited to pushing and testing their own limits, and graduation would occur at age 18.
Girls would have schools that would cater to their own emotional development and needs, while at the same time leading and guiding them to figure out what their own strengths and weaknesses are. Graduation would occur at age 23.
And what about the genetically defective gay children? HOME SCHOOLING.
However, none of this will ever happen because men and women should be treated as equals in today's society.
What do you think?
Age 0-6
Learning to walk, talk, learning what their limits are and what they can get away with. Girls are always pushing their limits when it comes to other people, even in their adult years. Boys seem to become more set in their ways much earlier, at least until age 17.
Age 0-16
Boys are more interested in testing their own limits as opposed to the limits of other people. This age range consists mostly of what appears to be "self-pleasure" although it's really them testing their own abilities. Girls don't really do this. Girls generally require someone to lead them to their abilities.
A boy never really quits testing his own abilities, but this age range is where a LOT of his learning comes from and peaks out when puberty begins to hit. If the boy was raised without a strong male role-model, then he's going to have this suppressed by his mother because she doesn't understand that boys need to test their own limits. His mother will smother him with "be nice to others" and "pay attention to feelings". He's not allowed to go out and kill small animals, play with guns, or learn to defend himself in social situations.
This entire phase is somewhat equivalent to a woman's "party phase"
Age 15-21
Boys don't really start to take an interest in women or sex until this age range. Many won't lose their virginity until after high school. They don't develop the same kind of emotional crushes that women do. Boys are instead driven by their hormones, and having a girlfriend can conflict with testing their limits in other activities such as social situations. Social conditioning also causes boys to repress the ability to test their limits with their sexuality.
Age 17
This is very much a transition age. From 0-16, boys are constantly testing their own limits. Sometime during age 17, their priorities transition from seeking self-pleasure to seeking the achievement of goals. By age 18, many boys are ready to enter the work-force and continue to test their own limits, but in a more "adult" environment. This is where many people will see that boys have "matured" past their "childish behavior".
Age 18+
The newly developed MEN are now ready to enter the work force and build careers for themselves. They are no longer pushing their limits by way of "immature and destructive behavior" and therefore are "mature" enough to take the workplace seriously.
Age 20+
As the male progresses in pushing his limits and setting goals, he will become more financially independent, gain useful skills, and become more valuable as a leader in a woman's eyes.
Now, after thinking about all of this, I've realized a couple of things...
Maturity
Boys don't really begin their journey of progressive "maturing" until much later than girls. Girls really start the "maturing" phase around age 7 or so, but boys won't start until their mid-teens. However, boys have a much shorter journey in maturing than girls. Age 16-18 is when boys will do the majority of their "growing up" while women are constantly doing it from age 7-23.
School
The fact that school generally ends when a person hits age 18 leads me to believe that the school system was originally designed around a boy's process of "growing up". The actual methods of teaching, herding children, and even the curriculum have since been modified to cater to the needs of girls.
If we were to truly cater the school system to the needs of girls, children wouldn't be graduating until around age 23 when a woman is truly finished "maturing".
My thoughts on all of this?
If we were to make schools that fit the needs of children, we should have individual schools for boys and girls. A boys school would have challenges that were more suited to pushing and testing their own limits, and graduation would occur at age 18.
Girls would have schools that would cater to their own emotional development and needs, while at the same time leading and guiding them to figure out what their own strengths and weaknesses are. Graduation would occur at age 23.
And what about the genetically defective gay children? HOME SCHOOLING.
However, none of this will ever happen because men and women should be treated as equals in today's society.
What do you think?
