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Belmar2009

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Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
 

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Some will and some won't.
However, remember this - if she leaves him for you she will also leave you for a guy whom she perceives is more valuable to her.

Avoid branch swingers if you are looking to get in an LTR.
 

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Belmar2009 said:
Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
That's asking the wrong question.

The real question is "do you think that most men aren't able to make their girlfriends want to keep them?". The answer is YES.

Very few men are completely confident, make their women feel secure about their looks/self, don't lose their cool and say emotionally cruel things, aren't clingy, have other girls that are itching to be his girlfriend, has a drive to accomplish things, and most importantly: always demands respect at all times from everyone.

Women don't dump boyfriends like that. They get dumped.
 

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think of it as a continuum: on one side of the spectrum you have a brancher swinger (momentarily) tied up with an AFC, who she will leave for a better deal in a heartbeat. On the other side of the spectrum you have a high quality woman dating a high quality man, who will stand by his side through thick and thin.

Most relationships fall somewhere inside the gray area, which means you have the power to influence how your girl will treat you by being really careful in your choice of a girlfriend, and by maintaining your status as a desirable MAN during your relationship.
 

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No, when a woman leaves her boyfriend it's rarely because she's found somebody better. Typically it's because she's grown tired of him. She may hang around for a while in order to keep her ego boosted, but when she becomes fed she'll leave regardless of whether she's found somebody else or not.

Remember it's a man's job not to let a women grow tired or fed up with him.
 

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I don't know, seems most girls are insecure and NEVER want to be single.

There are alot of attractive girls out there with toolbag boyfriends who could do alot better and you would think they would leave him for a better looking, more confident dude in a heartbeat.
 

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Belmar2009 said:
Don't you think most women will leave their boyfriend for the bigger better deal?
It depends on how good her current relationship is. If she's unhappy, it could very easily happen.
 

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I've been dealing with these sorts of thoughts myself. It's amazing how many girls seem to have boyfriends, yet flirt like mad given the right cues.

There is the ethical issue in my mind of making the moves on a girl with a BF. And I agree, for the most part, that a girl who gets with you by cheating, may do the same to you in the end.

But it does seem that most attractive girls, who have their lives together, have boyfriends. I've noticed that many girls seem to waste very little time between relationships, and have seen first hand a girl "hop" from one guy to the next, breaking one and beginning another. Personally, I view this as a sign of emotional weakness.

I myself though don't seem to stop from flirting with girls with BFs. I figure I ought to learn to be charismatic to all women, it'll help me likely in more ways than one.

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One thing I'd like to add, is there is the situation of a woman having an abusive or straight up ******* BF. It may be dangerous ground to get mixed up in a certain thing, but I do believe there are situations when a girl cheats simply because she is desperate to get out of some situation that she is otherwise too weak to confront directly (big angry men).
 
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Hot Babes have been known to kill their best friends to run off with their husbands, thats my answer to the question. :eek:
 

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I feel inclined to say 'yes' to your question. However, from my experience, ive seen MULTIPLE cases of the girl clinging onto a lame bf for whatever reason. Perhaps they are insecure about being able to find another guy. Perhaps they are just idiots!

but yeah i would say that most (average value females) are likely going to leave for the better deal... altho as i say, ive seen the exact opposite of this happening all the time... which tbh confuses me a bit! altho i dont really care cos these girls im talking about arnt exactly high class!
 

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The most attractive of women will do this.

If they're clinging to an ugly guy, he probably has loads of money. Money equals beautiful women, guaranteed.

Also, emotions don't lie.
 

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But it does seem that most attractive girls, who have their lives together, have boyfriends. I've noticed that many girls seem to waste very little time between relationships, and have seen first hand a girl "hop" from one guy to the next, breaking one and beginning another. Personally, I view this as a sign of emotional weakness.
I can't fault a girl for branch swinging to move up in value, but if a girl is unable to stay faithful to any boyfriend then I see that as a sign of weakness. She is unable to control her desires.

I have noticed women tend to waste very little time between relationships, but I think this is because it is usually pretty easy for a girl to get another boyfriend, and also because they usually have the next chump in mind before they dump the old one.

I agree with nismo-4 that the most attractive women are more likely to branch swing. They have little to lose by doing this, because they can have their pick of whatever guys they want. It's not a risk for them. And also because they have more options, they are more likely to be tempted. This is why I don't think very attractive females make good LTRs.
 

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zekko said:
I have noticed women tend to waste very little time between relationships, but I think this is because it is usually pretty easy for a girl to get another boyfriend, and also because they usually have the next chump in mind before they dump the old one.
People who are around a cluster of single guys will see it that way. Clusters of single girls will think men jump into new relationships faster.

But, the math doesn't work out at all since there are just as many men in relationships as women at any one time, for the same amount of time.

So, we can't have "the average time a man stays single is 2 months" and "the average time a woman stays single is 1 month". That would be exactly like saying women get married twice as fast as men do....who are those women marrying?

Actually, that's assuming there is an equal number of men and women. This is not the case in the united states. There are slightly more women so women do spend (on average) slightly more time between relationships.

ie: It's slightly easier in the United States for a guy to get a girlfriend than a girl to get a boyfriend.
 

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ThatMysteriousGuy said:
It's slightly easier in the United States for a guy to get a girlfriend than a girl to get a boyfriend.
Hell no. It's easy for a pretty girl to get a boyfriend and it's easy for a rich guy to get a girlfriend, because they are guaranteed to have one no matter what.

Everyone else has to try hard.

Thanks for reading my 800th post!
 
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Aw, dammit!

The majority of beautiful women go with whoever has the best deal at the time. If you're uninteresting or not attractive enough, you'll get smacked with the boyfriend line.
 
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