I was visiting family in Arizona(from Florida) for Thanksgiving. I went on POF to see this girl. She drove 20 miles to see me. I meet her and she is a HB9 and we clicked so much. She begged me to come back out for Christmas to see her. She said the worst that can happen is that your parents and family are here. So, ok. She has a point. I dont see my parents much--maybe once every 4 years.
I flew back to florida with--thinking to myself---this girl is different and what if? What if she is my next girlfriend? She is single, cute, no kids, and a great attitude. You just sense things.
I mulled over my 3 options for two days.
1.) Stay home for christmas by myself again this year, celebrate New Years alone, and be bored for 2 weeks by myself. Yes, I go on dates here. But the women here in florida generally s*ck. Not your typical relationship types. Divorcees with kids, psychos, and beach party goers.
2.) Spend another $360 to buy a plane ticket to go see her again. She is picking me up at the airport and Im spending a few days with her. Then back at my parents for christmas then, out with her again for New Years. Plus she is taking time off for work to see me. She wants a relationship and we talk everyday. She is really interested and nice too.She has been honest with me so far telling me what she is going to do and has it all planned out. She wants to watch football, take me to my parents on sunday, then pick me up again on wednesday.
3.) Worst case scenario. She blows me off. Women tend to get flakey sometimes. I met this girl on POF. And POF girls are sometimes distrustful. But this girl wants a relationship badly. She is tired of meeting trashy guys. But POF girls all across the country are not created equal. There are better quality girls in Arizona and Illinois than in Florida by far. If she blows me off I lost $360 bucks. But it is not just a bootycall I am seeking. I am seeking fun, food, friends, and good times with her. I always got my parents place to stay at in case things dont work out. So not all is lost. I might be humilated if she blows me off. If she lived in California or some other state, then no, I wouldnt be flying out meet her. Plus, I got a chance to meet with her for 3 hours and we talked. We just really hit it off. I do have ties to Arizona and I may be moving out there or chicago(something I planned a few months ago) within the next year. She loved hearing that. She says if she likes me enough and we get into a relationship she would move to chicago with m without question. She also said she wants to buy a plane ticket to see me in March. Well, thats fine and dandy...but im the one paying to go out there first. I asked her to buy half my plane fare. She said she took a chance on me. Do the same for me. In which she did. She was vulnerable about meeting me. But I finally convinced her.
The only thing that bothers me is that women are supposed to fly to see the men.I feel desperate because im spending money to see her. But I really dont want her coming to florida to see me because florida is a crappy state. I would much, much rather go out there to arizona. So much more to do out there and more fun. Im a little embarrassed by this state. I count the days before i leave this state. I have been here 11 years too long. Im done with it. Im either moving back to Arizona or Chicago. Both great cities with lots to offer.
Anyway, she emails me everyday and does show very high interest. I just have to keep the momentum going for the next 3 weeks before I fly out there. She texted me from a club last night and said lot of goodlooking guys here, but they all want one night stands--i dont wnat that---i want a relationship. She said I want to be with you and I cant wait for you to come out to see me! Our first date was great and I like your emails. Your so sexy and handsome, etc etc. bad sign she is at a club with her friend. But positive text.
So it looks good so far, she seems honest, but things can change. I am tryign to be slightly aloof.
Was I smart to buy another plane ticket? What do I have to lose? Rejection is better than regret? She might be my future wife. Who knows?
I flew back to florida with--thinking to myself---this girl is different and what if? What if she is my next girlfriend? She is single, cute, no kids, and a great attitude. You just sense things.
I mulled over my 3 options for two days.
1.) Stay home for christmas by myself again this year, celebrate New Years alone, and be bored for 2 weeks by myself. Yes, I go on dates here. But the women here in florida generally s*ck. Not your typical relationship types. Divorcees with kids, psychos, and beach party goers.
2.) Spend another $360 to buy a plane ticket to go see her again. She is picking me up at the airport and Im spending a few days with her. Then back at my parents for christmas then, out with her again for New Years. Plus she is taking time off for work to see me. She wants a relationship and we talk everyday. She is really interested and nice too.She has been honest with me so far telling me what she is going to do and has it all planned out. She wants to watch football, take me to my parents on sunday, then pick me up again on wednesday.
3.) Worst case scenario. She blows me off. Women tend to get flakey sometimes. I met this girl on POF. And POF girls are sometimes distrustful. But this girl wants a relationship badly. She is tired of meeting trashy guys. But POF girls all across the country are not created equal. There are better quality girls in Arizona and Illinois than in Florida by far. If she blows me off I lost $360 bucks. But it is not just a bootycall I am seeking. I am seeking fun, food, friends, and good times with her. I always got my parents place to stay at in case things dont work out. So not all is lost. I might be humilated if she blows me off. If she lived in California or some other state, then no, I wouldnt be flying out meet her. Plus, I got a chance to meet with her for 3 hours and we talked. We just really hit it off. I do have ties to Arizona and I may be moving out there or chicago(something I planned a few months ago) within the next year. She loved hearing that. She says if she likes me enough and we get into a relationship she would move to chicago with m without question. She also said she wants to buy a plane ticket to see me in March. Well, thats fine and dandy...but im the one paying to go out there first. I asked her to buy half my plane fare. She said she took a chance on me. Do the same for me. In which she did. She was vulnerable about meeting me. But I finally convinced her.
The only thing that bothers me is that women are supposed to fly to see the men.I feel desperate because im spending money to see her. But I really dont want her coming to florida to see me because florida is a crappy state. I would much, much rather go out there to arizona. So much more to do out there and more fun. Im a little embarrassed by this state. I count the days before i leave this state. I have been here 11 years too long. Im done with it. Im either moving back to Arizona or Chicago. Both great cities with lots to offer.
Anyway, she emails me everyday and does show very high interest. I just have to keep the momentum going for the next 3 weeks before I fly out there. She texted me from a club last night and said lot of goodlooking guys here, but they all want one night stands--i dont wnat that---i want a relationship. She said I want to be with you and I cant wait for you to come out to see me! Our first date was great and I like your emails. Your so sexy and handsome, etc etc. bad sign she is at a club with her friend. But positive text.
So it looks good so far, she seems honest, but things can change. I am tryign to be slightly aloof.
Was I smart to buy another plane ticket? What do I have to lose? Rejection is better than regret? She might be my future wife. Who knows?
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