the girl that brought me here, the girl i just posted a pic of in the other thread. treated me like utter dog **** for 6 years. stood me up, had me buy her ****, would push / pull with me, would pull me in when i got to far and push me away when i got to close. it was hell. then one day she got drunk got in a car with me and gave me a lapdance while i was driving and told me "you're never gonna get it" lol. and started laughing.
so that was it. i had moved on at that point. that was the last straw. to make a long story short, one thing lead to another, i did my 100 day goal list thing, she finds a reason to check up on me and i'm like 30 pounds lighter, more confident, and have mutliple plates, and most of all want nothing to do with her.
So she finds a reason to keep coming around and one saturday night she makes up some bs excuse to come over my house and i had just cancelled plans with someone else so iw s like sure why not **** it. we end up going at it and she really likes me. she even apologizes for "not realizing how great of a guy i am" in the past. she tells me she know she treated me bad at times.
anyway, ot make a long story short, i knew i wasn't going to seriously date her and i had other plates and she was atching a serious case of the feels so i just started ****ing with her. i would cancel dates for no reason lol. i let her best friend catch me out with another chick and i knew it would get back to her and it did.
she called me almost crying and she was like this is not the backbreaker i know. the backbreaker i know is sweet and aring and rightn ow you're acting liek a jerk.
and you know what, i had all the justification in the world to act like that.. but i felt like ****. that's just not me. it never will be me. not saying not spinning plates, but doing it like that. doing it and making sure she found out.. that's childish ****. i wanted so bad to make her feel how i felt, but once i had that power, i could not do it. i basically told her that i wasn't gonna date her, that ship had sailed, and she would be better off finding a man who would. She respected me for being honest with her though she did not like it, she understood that some things can't be undone and we moved on. We talk to this day still and this was 8 years ago.
My point being, that's just not me. The best revenge is living well. 48 laws of power, distain from the things you cannot have. FEeling good about dissing a chick that did you wrong gives her the power beuse it showed she had the power in the first place.
i dated this girls friend before i met her and she cheated on me and let everyone know at my school and her school about it as well, for no particular reason and years later when I found out she was strung out i went out of my way to get her to an NA meeting and spend some time with her. I don't wish ill will on people. Life is hard enough as it is.
You've moved on? tell the chick and wish her well. and mean it.