Boring dates.. You have to give them a FOMO factor with dates

[WitnessGR]

Cuz a couple hundred bucks ain’t a lot of money, ya know?

Get your money right. That's what I live by.


I never say anything is too expensive anymore, if I do, I was never even considered to buy whatever it is anyway.

I don't think you have to spend 200 necessarily, but I think 50-80 dollar range is definitely attainable a couple times a month. If I don't go Dutch it costs me that anyway.

I agree with cola, spend some money and have some damn fun. One note, however just make sure its something you want to do and she's just there for the ride, don't spend good money on **** you're not interested in

 

[Von]

Alright few bugs to squash but Cola s thinking. He s a Gentleman. I'm impressed I thought they died out because they didn't get to breed.

Please consider this from some angles because I think there is a merit here. Leveraging gurus Point as an older guy I can't always do coffee or drinks after so many dates I just get too bored. So why not go with a cluster strategy. How about a bar or cafe that's close to an old book shop or an ice cream place, market antique shop. Now if there are buying signs you can jazz up with a venue shift.

I have a lot of these set piece date ideas ready to go. The option is there but u control the spend.

Agreed, you can have a action date or interactive date without going for dinner,coffee, drinks.

Let's say a walk within a festival area? Some boating in the city that can actually be free? Festival, open air concerts, book club, music show etc...

You want to interact and build a kino, you only need a place that allows that.

Also, the advantage of doing something ''outside of drinking and coffee'' ... She's a woman... so you probably the 1000 date offer on coffee and drink she get offered... so you are ''not'' special... also if you bad or she's boring... you feel at an interview.

You don't have to spend, find the free activity, mingle in open air with her, be active and leviate kino... the drinking could be the closure to the date and likely at your place

If you go for coffee and drinking... in my personnal approach.. I went looking for the ''out of the ordinary places'' coffee shops with cats or dogs or with a certain kind of crowd/art/music... the drinking... wine bar that give you a 3 set glass with food options in a cozy lighting with lounge music etc. Find a place that will make her say ''never been here before for this''

 

[ubercat]

Agree. Unfortunately the beach scene in Melbourne isn't much and then summer forget it it's too bloody hot. But we do have an ok River. So if I meet a girl for coffee it's at an environmental centre / Community Garden or 1 of the 2 boat houses. So you can grab the coffee and walk by the river and there's plenty of park areas near the river if a make out session is in order. And if you are older I would thoroughly recommend the public makeout session. Woman have often complained to me that older guys have been hit with the boring stick. Manufactured or not a bit of youthful passion helps loosen the panties.

 

[That_dude]

I've had some "out of the box" dates in NYC that were amazing. I recall walking thru Central Park on an early summer evening.. Stumbling upon the paddle boats and hopping on with my date. Totally unplanned. Nothing made me more happy, then paddling the women I was totally into around that pond Very romantic and fun!

That's just 1 of many

 

[ubercat]

And it can be part of your screening too if like most guys you are just happy with a steady girlfriend. I'm a sporty guy so If I am more interested in the chick e.g. I know her thru friends or other social circles I will take her on some semi sporty action date. Like Golf Driving Range, kayaking etc. And you guessed it these fit in with my set pieces. The golf driving range is near the river and market. Both boathouses hire kayaks.

If she isn't into that I'll still shag her if she is pretty I'm good that way but there isn't going to be any other potential.

Obviously some net chick will get what she deserves.. a few shots on board and a knee trembler in the carpark up against the pub wall. @deesade you will have to explain to me sometime why English chicks like that one so much it's happened on so many dates with them that it seems almost compulsory.

 

[Von]

English girls have such a bad rep, don't they? I don't think that it's entirely justified.

Don't get me wrong, they make sh*t girlfriends and wives. Latinas, Eastern Europeans, and Asians are far better in that sense.

But if we're talking anglosphere, I'll take an English girl over what you colonials have to put up with anyday

There is no beautiful English woman in England... non-existant

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Yeah I disagree completely with OP. This amounts to nothing more than using money as a crutch in order to get chicks to go out with you. If some ugly a$$ dude had tickets to the right concert, of course women would be tripping over themselves to go out with him.

If you continue to rely on this mechanism of getting women, and suppose you find one or two that you really like, then what do they expect for dates 2 or 3? Private jet to Paris? Then fly back to penthouse in Manhattan? Next week launching in a Soyuz to dock with the ISS? It sounds exaggerated I know but I've seen with my own eyes the levels of narcissism in women that men are dealing with these days and it's pathetic. No way will I invest that amount of money in a chick on even the first couple of dates. Once she's proven she can cornhusk my balls after a few sessions, then I'll consider it.

 

[RangerMIke]

If you are spending too much money on any one chick you REALLY need to evaluate where you stand. I don't know about others here, but when I find myself spending too much on a chick, it's because I'm trying to compensate for her low interest. If I'm spending too much it's a red flag that I'm working too hard... and need to back off.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Depends on what stage the association is at. Am of the opinion these days that activity dates are really for when exclusivity has set in, or at least interest level is high for both parties.

Put it this way. Years ago, I took a hottie on a full fledged date; drinks, comedy, Italian afterwards. Probably dropped a metric ton. Result: peck on lips at the end of the night. Text next day, no response, full stop.

Fast forward Thursday last, met girl locally. One drink each, back to mine with wine (which she bought). Result: fck til 3 am.

Too much material investment early on is a psychological crutch for both parties. I prefer to nurture attraction through interaction. Play dates are for those situations where mutual attraction is proven.

But, each to their own. If I earned a fortune, Id probably spend more generally anyway. No hard and fast rules. If it's an event you're going to anyway, no harm done.

 

[ubercat]

Meh English girls American girls Australian girls haven't got much use for them anymore you know my tastes. They just all look too large to me now.

@deesade I love a good cheerful slvt as much as the next man. I was just curious what the hell this affinity for doing it up against the pub wall was. I mean if you thought about it for one second even a chick could work out that that Wall has been pissed on hundreds of times.