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Don Juan
For quite a while now I've been trying to become a DJ in a half-assed way. I've just been reading threads here, and trying to apply that knowlege whenever I hit on a girl. At first this worked because I was such an AFC that I was improving more and more each time I hit on a girl. Now I've finally got off my ass and begun the bootcamp.
Yesterday I finished week 1. I thought getting 50 hello's would be harder than it actually was. Since I'd already done a lot of work on my own (and with some success) I had only a small amount of tension when I began greeting people. After I got the first few though, it was really easy and even pretty fun.
I also made eye contact with a ton of people. I wouldn't be surprised if it was over 100.
I also hit on 2 girls:
In a grocery store, I saw an HB7 that I'd eyed for a while but never talked to. I'm a college student, and when I lived in the dorms last year she used to work at the front desk of my dorm building. I got in the cashier's line behind her and started talked to her. The conversation flowed pretty well, but when I asked her if she'd like to have coffee next week, she said she had a boyfriend. The thing about this is that I COMPLETELY forgot to give her any more eye contact than I normally would.
Later that same day, there was another HB7 on the bus. (Most would probably rate her an 8 or 9, but she was too skinny for my taste). I was checking her out for a while, and she was staring out the window, so I knew it was unlikely I could get eye contact before talking to her. I moved to a seat that was closer to her (but not like right next to her - still outside of her personal space). Before moving, I thought of something to say to her, which was, "You know, those are really thin flip flops." (Her sandals were REALLY thin; I don't know how anyone could find them comfortable). I talked to her for a while, and got decent eye contact, but the conversation was broken and stilted. I think she wasn't comfortable talking to a stranger on the bus, or she was shy. I asked her if she'd like to meet me for coffee, even though I knew there was almost no chance of success. She was like, "Um, probably shouldn't do that."
There was also a guy at a bus stop that I'd seen at a party before. I talked to him, something I normally wouldn't have done.
I also had a job interview today and noticed that I was MUCH more calm and confident. The position was for teaching computer programming and/or software testing at a place that I'd describe as kind of like a private community college. I didn't get much eye contact at first, because 99% of the questions were technical, not personal, and I was always looking off somewhere while thinking. However, after a while the interview changed to just conversation, and I was able to get a lot of good eye contact there. The interview went pretty well, but I still have a second interview, which will probably be done over the phone since it takes me 3 buses (about 1 hour) to get there.
Yesterday I finished week 1. I thought getting 50 hello's would be harder than it actually was. Since I'd already done a lot of work on my own (and with some success) I had only a small amount of tension when I began greeting people. After I got the first few though, it was really easy and even pretty fun.
I also made eye contact with a ton of people. I wouldn't be surprised if it was over 100.
I also hit on 2 girls:
In a grocery store, I saw an HB7 that I'd eyed for a while but never talked to. I'm a college student, and when I lived in the dorms last year she used to work at the front desk of my dorm building. I got in the cashier's line behind her and started talked to her. The conversation flowed pretty well, but when I asked her if she'd like to have coffee next week, she said she had a boyfriend. The thing about this is that I COMPLETELY forgot to give her any more eye contact than I normally would.
Later that same day, there was another HB7 on the bus. (Most would probably rate her an 8 or 9, but she was too skinny for my taste). I was checking her out for a while, and she was staring out the window, so I knew it was unlikely I could get eye contact before talking to her. I moved to a seat that was closer to her (but not like right next to her - still outside of her personal space). Before moving, I thought of something to say to her, which was, "You know, those are really thin flip flops." (Her sandals were REALLY thin; I don't know how anyone could find them comfortable). I talked to her for a while, and got decent eye contact, but the conversation was broken and stilted. I think she wasn't comfortable talking to a stranger on the bus, or she was shy. I asked her if she'd like to meet me for coffee, even though I knew there was almost no chance of success. She was like, "Um, probably shouldn't do that."
There was also a guy at a bus stop that I'd seen at a party before. I talked to him, something I normally wouldn't have done.
I also had a job interview today and noticed that I was MUCH more calm and confident. The position was for teaching computer programming and/or software testing at a place that I'd describe as kind of like a private community college. I didn't get much eye contact at first, because 99% of the questions were technical, not personal, and I was always looking off somewhere while thinking. However, after a while the interview changed to just conversation, and I was able to get a lot of good eye contact there. The interview went pretty well, but I still have a second interview, which will probably be done over the phone since it takes me 3 buses (about 1 hour) to get there.