BootCamp week #3

[IS|Reinhart]

Alrighty i was a little busy over this weekends and you guys needed time to complete your week 2. So week 3 comes right today! Wensday febuary first. Here is reading matirial:

Introduction to week 3

All right... we're in our third week now!!

After completing last week's lesson, you should now be much more comfortable speaking with strangers. This is a powerful skill that will serve you for years to come in many areas of your life. Now, let's take this skill to the next level...

Purpose of this lesson: At this point, we now have learned to maintain eye contact and greet and hold brief conversations with strangers.

Now, for this week, we are going to hold conversations with strangers, but this time the strangers will be women we would consider dating. This is the final step before we go for a number close, and by the time this week is over, we will be even closer to our goals!
Reading Material

Article 1 - How to cut down on your rejection rate by 99% (by Jake Steed)

Here's a quick and simple strategy for approaching girls. By following this strategy you'll know before approaching a girl if she would be interested in talking with you.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16763
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16353
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16648
While last week we went out and spoke with ten strangers, male or female, young or old, this time our weekly exercise is to go and hold a short conversation (2 – 10 minute each in length) with women that you would normally be interested in dating.

Now, this may seem a little daunting for some people, but when you stop and think about it, there really is no difference between a drop-dead gorgeous babe and middle-aged guy, at least when it comes to holding a brief conversation.

To be successful, just keep everything in perspective... humans are humans. Do this and you won't have any more trouble with this lesson than you did with the one from last week.

Also, in addition to the reading material from this week, you might want to refresh on the reading material from last week since those articles will be just as useful.

After each conversation, write the results in your journal. After completing the assignment, report back to the response thread and share with us one or two of your encounters.

You have until this time next week, to finish this lesson. As well, keep on practicing the skills you learned in the previous two lessons, so that you don't lose them.

And don't forget the 3-second rule discussed in the previous lesson. You'll find that it will be ten times more powerful now, since it will force you to overcome the fear that often develops when you think too much about approaching an attractive girl. Here's a copy-and-paste of the 3-second rule from last week...

"Also, a tip that might help you with this lesson, and the next few lessons, is the 3 second rule (You can find it on ASF). What this means is that when you find someone you might be interested in approaching, don't give yourself more than 3 seconds from the moment you are able, to approach them. Anything longer than 3 seconds highly increases the chance that your nerves will work against you, and that you'll chicken out. Even if you have nothing planned to discuss with them, you'll find that you'll amazingly have something to say if you can only force your feet to propel you to the person."

Okay DJs, let's keep up the momentum. We're getting closer and closer!

 

[IS|Reinhart]

the members are so far:
Shocker, Brian20o2, IS|Reinhart

 

[mrswabe]

I was beginning to wonder what happened to the bootcamp.
I did one of my own approaches since I thought everyone had quit

In school, a girl an 8 was sitting alone in the library. Approached her and smiled. Did the "Who Lies More" opener and proceeded to have a good conversation with her, she was laughing and giggling most of the time. I made sure that I give eye contact to her as I was talking or when she was talking to me. She even invited me to sit with her. I had to cut it short since I had another appointment.

I got her number by asking her ---
Me: ( grabbing my cellphone from my pocket and typing ) So is this how you spell your name?
Her: No, this is the correct spelling ( she took my phone )
Me: I see, so why not just put your number there as well.
( She complied )
Me: ( I'm now standing ) I really got to go. Thanks for the good conversation. ( I touch her shoulder for a second. then left )

I'll be going to Manila for four days tomorrow, that means I'll be far away from my home town and into the big city full of strangers. I'm sure that I can get those nine approaches there.

 

[mrswabe]

Forgot to mention this other approach I did today.

I was in line to get my college tuition's assessment. Ahead of me was a small pretty girl with chinese eyes ( a 9 ).

I read from her statement that her name was Mae. So here goes:
Me: So is your name Mae?
Her: Yes.
Me: Let me guess. You were born on the month of May?
Her: No not really.
Me: So when were you born, June July August ( I enumerated the months here, trying to be funny )
Her: (giggling) I was born in April.
Me: Oh! So how come your named Mae?
Her: ( giggling but no answer )
-- Fluff talk continued but after completing her business she left saying goodbye --

No number this time. I did not see her with a mobile phone so I assumed that she does not have one.

 

[IS|Reinhart]

nicely done so far! I'll probably get 9 approaches this week. here is one of mine:


Me:Hey can u teach me plz?
Her:WHat?
Me:You are walking too damn fast!!! U past me like i was a little kid.
Her laughing: Yeah i walk fast.
Me: where u going now?
Her: dinner with my GF blah blah
Me: haha so u are faking u have an incentetive to walk fast. I bet u are not walking that fast on a class!
Her: no not really.
Me: dang u girl u really need some motivation in school other wise u would be one of those who quitted College and will be serving food in the restaurant to the nerds in the glasses like me.


and so on conversation was like 15 minuts. i didn;t want to number close her cuz i felt she still was not ready. she would have given me her number but respond to it - i doubt!

 

[Brian20o2]

Hey. Im a week behind but Im not giving up. Going to the mall in a few. Gonna say Hi and try and have some convos I have 2/10 as of now.

 

[Shocker]

I havnt done anything yet, and to be honest this week has been quite busy for me. I was planning on going to the bar this weekend and talking to some *****es there but the girl I am seeing wants to do something that night, so maybe I will get some action.

I had no problem doing the hi's at work, (only counted them as half) but I dont think having conversations at work should count. So if I do this I dont think I will be able to get to 10, which really sucks because I want to, its just a matter of time.

Guys: Any suggestions where I can go to meet maybe 5+ women in a day.

I know I know, they are everywhere, but I want somewhere good, I have only been going to the mall. So any suggestions would be great!

Shocker

 

[Brian20o2]

3/10 normal convos

Where do you go to meet open social people?

 

[Shocker]

got one convo, short but nothing too special. In an elevator and she waved goodbye when she got out.

Sat im going to a house party, so if everything goes well I can get at least 5+ convo's. They will be short, but i guess that is sort of the idea.

I dont know about the rest of you, but I find that I am already in a better mindset then before, nothing huge, but a bit of an improvment.. Anyone feel the same?

Shocker

 

[Brian20o2]

5/10

Meeting new people in my new classes is easier than going out to the mall and stuff.

Feeling awesome! more social, charming, confident etc.

 

[Shocker]

Oh, meeting ppl in class is too easy man.

-hey, you got a pen
-whats the homework
-did you just fart?

And just take it from there, just make sure you sit in different places all the time to meet new ppl

Shocker

Originally posted by Brian20o2
5/10

Meeting new people in my new classes is easier than going out to the mall and stuff.

Feeling awesome! more social, charming, confident etc.

 

[Brian20o2]

Originally posted by Shocker
Oh, meeting ppl in class is too easy man.

-hey, you got a pen
-whats the homework
-did you just fart?

And just take it from there, just make sure you sit in different places all the time to meet new ppl

Shocker

Good class openers. Unfortunatly all my teachers let us choose a seat but then we have that seat forever unless they change it.
In one of my classes my 2 buddies left for a diff class, leaving me surrounded by girls. But being pretty much the only social guy in that class I am now the center of attention. Good vibes from a few chicks.

 

[Brian20o2]

6/10
Im ready for the next week.
Reading up now.

 

[Shocker]

So I really havnt had time to do this weeks bootcamp. So, seeing how things are starting to be busy for me I think I am out of the bootcamp. I wish this was not the case, but I really have no option. I still plan to do the things discused in bootcamp just not right now, but even up to this point i think it has helped me.

I will check back and check on everyones progress. good luck guys

Shocker

 

[Dying4Life]

Ive Had a great week.

I don't remember how many convos. but, a few good ones too I got numbers. Im hookin up with one of them tonight.

I also whent DT a couple times. Took one girl out to the parkin lot and fooled around with some girls the other night.

Got numbers, got girls, a great week all in all.

-High Lighted Convo-

Im in a coffee shop and I see this girl hb 7 maybe 8. Ive seen her around, she works at another coffee shop.
So, shes sitting down drinking a coffee. I walk over and sit down at her table and with a big smile I say "Traitor"
She Looks up at me all confused.
Me: "You work at "the other place" and your drinking coffee here whats the deal?.
Her(blushing): Oh I can't drink coffee there I can't relax.
Me:" Well Im telling."
she laughs. then starts going on about all the BS in her life.
(yawning in my head) I just keep sayin "oh yeah", "cool", "yeah"
Then I got her talking about school and traveling (nice change).
We talked for like a half hour.
Told her I had to get going. But, Id see her around. That was that. Im saving her for later.

Anyways good luck boys. catch you next week.

 

[Brian20o2]

Its ok man thats how I felt about a week ago. Just keep up what you learned so far and then join back in when you can. Just dont get rusty.

 

[Brian20o2]

Originally posted by Dying4Life

-High Lighted Convo-

Im in a coffee shop and I see this girl hb 7 maybe 8. Ive seen her around, she works at another coffee shop.
So, shes sitting down drinking a coffee. I walk over and sit down at her table and with a big smile I say "Traitor"
She Looks up at me all confused.
Me: "You work at "the other place" and your drinking coffee here whats the deal?.
Her(blushing): Oh I can't drink coffee there I can't relax.
Me:" Well Im telling."
she laughs. then starts going on about all the BS in her life.
(yawning in my head) I just keep sayin "oh yeah", "cool", "yeah"
Then I got her talking about school and traveling (nice change).
We talked for like a half hour.
Told her I had to get going. But, Id see her around. That was that. Im saving her for later.

Nice work! Lets keep it coming. Week 4 (3 for me) here we come.

 

[Dying4Life]

Hey Brian

Man I wish I knew what I know now back in High School.

Here is My advise for you. first read All the Kino stuff you can handle then read Gunwichs part 1 in Speed Seduction.
Now forget trying to have sex with the girls your in high school (you can't perv like he's talking). Use his tricks to get as much kino as possible going, with as many girls as possible.

DO NOT get pervie. Only casual stuff. like small of the back, arm, soft hand shakes when you meet new girls, and quick hugs with your closer GFs (don't linger). things like that.

Next thing is act like its a big deal when your talking or hanging out. NEVER let on your trying to get further with them. Be as cool as posible. When ever their doing all that annoying girl stuff IGNORE it.

if they don't notice you, if say stupid stuff to you, anything, its no big deal. The Guys that react too much are AFCs.

DO NOT stare too much at girls in class. catch some eye contact smile, don't get to into it, maybe wisper somthing like this is so boring. stuff like that.

Next step, do not fall "in love" with any of the girls your starting to get kino with. First, you have to raise your value. let the girls see you have lots of other girls. They will start to notice that lots of girls are close to you and like you. Your value will sky rocket.

Work on your social skills get the girls laughing (don't use tacky jokes) ****y funny, and storys. Stories are the best. gossip. Tell em funny storys about you and your friends. After the weekend you should always have some funny story to tell them. (so start doing more stuff on the week ends).

next thing is developing your after school skills find the girls that live around you.
start asking them to come over.
But always for a reason. (a snack, home work, check out something new you just got.) But also have other fun things to once they are there. (Funny movies, new music, downloading stuff with her "what should i get?", MSN)

Never Hunt the Girls down. to come over let it happen naturlly. only ask if you run into them or if they came over to talk to you. And, only if you've been getting good signs, kino, good eye contact, smiles, laughs.

Then Work on your Kino With the Girls your gettin over. KINO KINO KINO. still DO NOT perv. that will scare them off.

If you can manage to keep this up for a while. It will happen naturlly you and one of the girls will start making out. (don't worry about sex for a while( a long while)) I wouldn't rush it.

Remember Alot of the stuff you'll here the older DJs talkin about doesn't really work the same in High School. things like Number Closes just don't really fly the same when the girls your talking to are the same ones your going to be same ones youll see all year.

short recap.
Confidence. Raise your Value. Lots of Kino. Nothing Pervy. Get your Head straight. Social SKills. Be cool. Don't let them Phase you. Keep Busy. Work on developing good storys to tell. Don't Obsess over one girl. Don't Hunt for girl around school you have plenty of natural meetings to take advantage of Don't force it you have all year.

LOL, so I sqeezed that out all in one sitting, might be alittle disorganized (i only edited it once). But, those tips will help for sure. Good luck.

Take Advantage of your High School years there the Best.

 

[Brian20o2]

Thanks Dying4Life. All that stuff makes sence and I have been practicing most of the stuff you said already at school. Also casual kino is starting to come naturally to me. All year I have been enlarging my social circle and making friends,one of whom is kind of a natural himself. Hes got alot of ideas and things I learn from him. I now have tons of friends and potential GFs.

 

[Shocker]

I agree, I wish i knew some of this stuff back in high school but what can you do. But those are some good points you brought up.

Originally posted by Dying4Life
Hey Brian

Man I wish I knew what I know now back in High School.

Here is My advise for you. first read All the Kino stuff you can handle then read Gunwichs part 1 in Speed Seduction.
Now forget trying to have sex with the girls your in high school (you can't perv like he's talking). Use his tricks to get as much kino as possible going, with as many girls as possible.

DO NOT get pervie. Only casual stuff. like small of the back, arm, soft hand shakes when you meet new girls, and quick hugs with your closer GFs (don't linger). things like that.

Next thing is act like its a big deal when your talking or hanging out. NEVER let on your trying to get further with them. Be as cool as posible. When ever their doing all that annoying girl stuff IGNORE it.

if they don't notice you, if say stupid stuff to you, anything, its no big deal. The Guys that react too much are AFCs.

DO NOT stare too much at girls in class. catch some eye contact smile, don't get to into it, maybe wisper somthing like this is so boring. stuff like that.

Next step, do not fall "in love" with any of the girls your starting to get kino with. First, you have to raise your value. let the girls see you have lots of other girls. They will start to notice that lots of girls are close to you and like you. Your value will sky rocket.

Work on your social skills get the girls laughing (don't use tacky jokes) ****y funny, and storys. Stories are the best. gossip. Tell em funny storys about you and your friends. After the weekend you should always have some funny story to tell them. (so start doing more stuff on the week ends).

next thing is developing your after school skills find the girls that live around you.
start asking them to come over.
But always for a reason. (a snack, home work, check out something new you just got.) But also have other fun things to once they are there. (Funny movies, new music, downloading stuff with her "what should i get?", MSN)

Never Hunt the Girls down. to come over let it happen naturlly. only ask if you run into them or if they came over to talk to you. And, only if you've been getting good signs, kino, good eye contact, smiles, laughs.

Then Work on your Kino With the Girls your gettin over. KINO KINO KINO. still DO NOT perv. that will scare them off.

If you can manage to keep this up for a while. It will happen naturlly you and one of the girls will start making out. (don't worry about sex for a while( a long while)) I wouldn't rush it.

Remember Alot of the stuff you'll here the older DJs talkin about doesn't really work the same in High School. things like Number Closes just don't really fly the same when the girls your talking to are the same ones your going to be same ones youll see all year.

short recap.
Confidence. Raise your Value. Lots of Kino. Nothing Pervy. Get your Head straight. Social SKills. Be cool. Don't let them Phase you. Keep Busy. Work on developing good storys to tell. Don't Obsess over one girl. Don't Hunt for girl around school you have plenty of natural meetings to take advantage of Don't force it you have all year.

LOL, so I sqeezed that out all in one sitting, might be alittle disorganized (i only edited it once). But, those tips will help for sure. Good luck.

Take Advantage of your High School years there the Best.