BlueChillies Approach Journal : gain enough skills to see if I can win

[BlueChillies]

basically i am not an attractive guy so if i wait until IOs it would be for ever so what i do is that i started just opening up girls with , or "are you single ?"... as long as you smile , didn't have a bad reaction ...sometimes they have given an IO but i haven't recongized it and I open them up anyway

there is a difference between my last outing and now, i was more interested in making conversation and talkig to them.i am even more seious in trying to gett a girlfriend.... I think my motivation was to talk to them is my next great step ....i've regained my confidence and began leading and ordering girls around..and then I finally

I spend a **** load of girls asking are you single maybe like 10 but then there was 1 hot girl that finally said she was ...
but THEN I have to hit myself on the head FOR NOT TALKING TO HER long enough to number close , but i ended up talkin to every girl that came in my range so to speak.

it gets a bit depressing of ths after a while but you have to keep going ;

1#

me: i have to compliment u on ur shirt, ..
her: should say warning sexy
me; are you single?
her: yes
me; tell me about you yourself , which college, where ya from
her; mercy , bronx
me ; thats cool i used to goto bronx
me; listen we should get to know each other more whats you rnumber ( TOO SOON !!)
her; let me take yours
me; 3303--
her cousin: what ?
me; thats a bull**** number, i don't give out my number ( STUPID THING TO say , I was trying to make it such that I have too much alpha for that ) i m too good for that
I SHOULD HAVE said i know how that goes, you never going to call
ends with me walking bye f******

and a **** load of "are you single approach"

#2 girl next to sunglasses

her"i m too young for you "
me: "really how old are you ?"
her"16"
walk away

#3 an india chick , where you from
'south india '
'are you single'
'married'
'then suddenly out of the blue'
'are you trying to pick me up '
'yes'

#4 girl in gap gives me a BIG smile back
'where can i find mens jeans'
( didn't pursue but will try to next week)


girls I ask are you single to( not counted as didn't lead to conversation):
blonde returns my smile near escaltor
black hair near checkout line
make up line girl

missed a chance with a girl i was talkin by outside the gap and
there was thing one chick with her mother I wanted to sit next to near the food court and chat her up
but her mom was there.

, the thing is the foundation is Built and clear.
I have confidence to go up to girl and chat them up, not only that but I actually want to talk to them because
I want to bang them.. I hope its only a matter of time or something to that effect...

 

[greenlake]

good job. i can see u following the footsteps of jwhite. i like the indian chick aproach. "r u picking me up" "yes". hahahah

 

[GamePlan]

'are you trying to pick me up '
'yes'

I loved it, too! haha

I gotta say reading other guy's approach journals sort of helps stay motivated. Just reading yours just really made me wanna go to town and continue my journal.

 

[afc_2_dj]

BlueChillies, nice to hear from other guys who struggle with no IOI's for girls!
I will be reading your FR's with great interest!!

Tell me, do you ever do clubs/bar, ever have success depsite not intial interest/attraction?

 

[ElStud]

Good to see a lot of people are starting to go out in the field and posting approach journals. Good luck man!

 

[GamePlan]

@afc2dj / Blue Chillies:

Have you guys tried working out..building some muscle and losing some weight?

I know it's probably been said before, but I'm really not exaggerating at all:
Until I was like 18 or so chicks never really went for me (unless like in the 5th grade and in elementary lol). But at 16/17 I had started working out..and once I had a lean and sort of muscular body & wore the right clothes to show it a little (Im not talking overly tight stuff, but just not baggy shirts) and started using hair product, etc....the change was really extreme.

I'm not saying a guy just has to work out a bit and in 6 weeks chicks will drool over him, but I really can't stress how incredibly working out/dressing better/nice hair style has helped me.

 

[greenlake]

yea i agree with gameplan. go take some times to look good for yourself. look don't matter but the way you dress does. seriously, i can feel 10 times hotter when i dress my best. thus, it will make you more confident when you walk up to the girls. because your body language play a huge role.

 

[GamePlan]

seriously, i can feel 10 times hotter when i dress my best. thus, it will make you more confident when you walk up to the girls.

I second that. Maybe in reality dressing nice just makes you look somewhat better (which is still important), but in your mind that can make a huge difference. Like when just everything's right. I dont wanna sound like a metrosexual, but when you know your hair looks good and you're wearing nice clothes, I just feel way more comfortable and better about myself than if it's raining and the wind is blowing my clothes and hair are all wet and I also got some tiny pimple on my nose or whatever LOL..exaggeration, but I guess you know what I mean.

 

[greenlake]

hahah i actually went through that before. pimple on nose, clothes and hair are wet? trust me, i can't even look at my friends.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

"Are you picking me up?"
"Yes"
lol! Gold.
Nice to see more Journals are being written.

 

[BlueChillies]

May 10th,
3 days masturbation free

yo afc, we ugly mother****ers are going to have it TOUGH... there was no respite from the storm
THere were 3-6 girls that gave me an IOI but I just didn't open them up so I can't completely blame everything on looks.

All day I think I was ignored, or said no to countless times or given that look where they aren't attracted to you
. Not one success all day even though my talking was so smooth even melted butter couldn't be laid down so nicely. Fcck... I mean things were so depressing,
what a ****ed up life that born unattractive you might have to alone and single for the rest of you life is a scary thought but
one that might become very real if I don't succeed at this. If I can show 1 sucess then

Yo Afc, I dont think we should be worrying ourselfs with trying to fcck 100 hundreds, i think our ugly asses should just
worry about trying to just get 1 LTR for a year and then take it from there. I am not even aiming for the super hot girls just
the basic girls I should be getting like other Brown Girls and HB 5-7...

It just totally sucks that my greatest wish or desire is to get a gf ,yet GOD made me so unattractive that Its pretty damn hard to achieve
my mission. I know how great it is being attractive, I was on the other side of the tail I know how GREAT it is Having LOOKS on your Side

My background:
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when i was 22, i pretty much lost all my hair if i gelled it up you 'd see nothing right through it.
when I was 24 I got a hair transplant , it didn't give me much hair but was left with a linear scar around the back and sides
of my head. when I cut it short i get more interest but at the same time i expose my scar.

my skin color is brown, my features are from south india. Its the worst combination ever to have
you have big lips and the rest of the face looks causasian but the face is brown. Just not very attractive
features.. made worse potentially by this scar .,..

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TOday was totally different , I was not trying to just throw out flying darts like I usually do I was taking my time and trying
to talk to each and every girl that I came across for a few more minutes but things seemed very depressing today.


#3

i thought this chick gave me an io so I follow her to classroom its empty

me: hi , which class is this ?
105
i don't think we've met before, i am new to campus, whats your name?
hb5
nice, you in the nursing program ? how is that goin ?
more of the same,
,
,
,
,
bahbahbah
hey listen hb5, we should have some coffe sometime, do you have a email or myspace ?
oh sorry I have a boyfriend
walk away

#4
hb 8 ( know shes got a bf)
girl sittin in the library

me: hi what syour name ?
hb8
me; cool, you know what you look familiar? do you work at jjs ( i overheard her phonecall)
yeah toally
me; how s it working there
blah
blabh
alright nice talk to 2 u and walk off ( Shes got a bf and I know shes not going to leave him as
she said I love you )

#5

on my way out, i smile to this chick but she doesn't return at all ,
but I was walk and Shes Just keeps looking at me..
so I say
me;'youve got nice earings '
I could have continued but I didnt' have the energy to waist really pursue a non IOI candidate

#6

in the shoe store, seea doomincian chick hb 9
she returned my smile

: you know what you have lovely eyes ..
nice what s you name
blah
but then shes not so interested me to answer my question
i ask her " Hey thats cool, I used to live up there, how do you like it there ?"
and she doesn't respond
I walk away "it was nice talking to you " that one I didn't like that she didn't
just respond

#7

another chick I see in target, she returns my smile , shes not attractive so
no big deal
but as I walking back to her and say 'excuse me', she doesn't respond she
was probably just scared and was afraid of strangers

#8

a 16 yr old girl we talk up a bit for a few minutes at the store
until i realize that shes not interested in anything relationship shes doesn't
give me any myspace

#9

chat up another shop girl whose bored FOR 5 minutes, but shes semi-married with bf

#10

talk to another lady while going up the escalator but shes responds to me as a 'stranger'

A ****TY DAY all in all, I think when my beard grows up a bit, I always have a better time
so I will try to have a good convo with a chick right then and there and never show her
my shaved llook today hehe.

ANother thing is my ex who i called up , shes talking to her date i guess, but doesn't realize
that the phone is really on ..she said some stuff about me, I didnt' realize that she didn't think
we were that close , that i look back, that perhaps all this time, she's keeping a distance from me
if she isn't close to me, then I will try to find one that IS close to me and I will try to make the
most of it....I think she was just probably trying to raise her own value to this date by saying
some of these things but I 'll find out tomorrow

 

[greenlake]

i don't know if i should give up on u. u just ignore all our advices and continue blaming on your look. to tell you the truth. i have white hairs by the time i was in 5th grade, pimples and now scars, stretch marks all over my body, loose skin, yellow teeth and finally big nipples. but just look in all my psts, do u see me complain about how i look? u know why? cause i know complaining about it won't help. just take care of urself, have longhair if u must. btw, did i told u i have a huge pimple on my nose every freaking year?

did u know why u fail? ur approaches are weak. u have nothing interesting to talk about. when u finally have one u let it drop.

 

[afc_2_dj]

Have you guys tried working out..building some muscle and losing some weight?

Well, I am not overweight, just the opposite, I have a ectomorphic build I think, that is, I don't put on weight, even when I trained hard at gym during studying/school I cut nicely but dont bulk. I do go to gym now, and dont look bad [body], for me its bad facial bone structure, long/thin/high forehead with thinning hair exagerating it, so it doesn't help me unfortuantly.

Maybe in reality dressing nice just makes you look somewhat better (which is still important), but in your mind that can make a huge difference.

I thought so too, I was quite dissapointed last weekend, I went clubbing, even with friends for once, after a dinner at the sailing club, so I looked pretty sharp, but still no real IOI's. I agree though when I am dressed sharp you definitly like the coolest guy there!

u just ignore all our advices and continue blaming on your look

Thing is, and I am sure BlueChillies will back me here, everyone is getting girls, yet no girls find us attractive. Theres gotta be something wrong, but its tough isoloating exactly what. It sounds like you overcame not being attractive. How do you compete though, when every guy is better looking than you to some degree, and everyone knows that on average most guys are fun enough to meet, that is unless you have a supreme personailty what stops the girls from first wanting to give the better looking guy a chance?

 

[greenlake]

yea, there got to be something wrong. it could be look, but if u let that get to you then u'll never get girls. instead of focusing on something u can't change why not focus on things that u can change. tell me what kind of method or approaches you use. plus to tell bluechillies the truth, he need to work more on his game. it's still weak. i dunno if u have ever heard of Badboy, but that dude also have a huge scar on the back of his head and add on to that he's also disable. but look at him now, he's the best pua in Europe or atleast second best.

 

[BlueChillies]

greenlake & guys who post on this thread. THank You for support i am gratful

, you are right on your advice I hope you will stick around on this thread for a few days....( at leat til end of month) as thats how much i think I can put into this.

like I said before, I am not trying to shoot "are you single" at every girl that passes
like Jwhite anymore..or blindingly asking for numbers
I made an improvement where I
try to chat them up with good convo for as long as possible ..

theres some progress here ;

I have done 3 approaches today {WHERE I AcTUALLY talked more than 5 Mins}
and will have the full report on the good ones Saturday ...
1 was for like 10 minutes convo and the second one was walking some babe to
her car and the third one was some indian chick in the hallways...
"like a bird learning to fly"
1 was hot and she was seriously starting to reveal alot and talk to me


Onwards and Upwards, Gentlemen, Victory is all..

 

[GamePlan]

Ill definitely stick around your journal for a couple of days

 

[Luke Skywalker]

"Are you picking me up?"
"Yes"
lol! Gold.
Nice to see more Journals are being written.

An opener "Hi, I'm picking you up."

 

[Luke Skywalker]

BlueChllies,

Good progress on approaches and convos. It looks like there are going to be some bad days and good days on this. It felt like a losing battle in reading some of your journals, but I felt encouraged that you had some convos, or some sort of reciprocation from the women you managed to approach afterwards despite your looks. I'm look forward to see updates on your journal.