Blown off...think its legit, or to NEXT her, again!

DJ_Johnson

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Ok, here's the deal. I met this incredibly hot girl several months ago. At the time, she had just broken up with her boyfriend and it seemed perty obvious that she didnt want to be broken up with him and I'm sure she was still talking to him alot. Anyway, we went out to a club one night, she seemed to have a great time, and started talking like she was wanting to go out more and such. I had said that I really didnt want a girlfriend just in normal conversation, which shortly afterwards is when the wanting to go out more stuff started. The girl was attractive, and from what I know/knew of her she seemed fun and interesting so I decided I would see her again and see what happned. We made a few plans to get together and do stuff, but she blew me off, I kept my cool about it (I'd say 99% probally because of her ex-boyfriend). No big deal though, she got nexted.

Friday I was in the mall on my lunch break buying a watch and she walked up and was standing beside of me when I wasnt paying attention. When I noticed her we talked for a few, she made sure I got her new number, told me to call her after I got off of work, and when I got home I had an e-mail from her that was sent about the time she should have gotten home from work that day. So I waited until Saturday afternoon when I had a break from the days activites to call and she said she wanted to do something sunday evening after work. So when she called Saturday night when I was goin to the club with my friends I didnt answer, she left a message "just to say hey", so I called her today about noon or so, and she said that she wouldnt be able to do anything tonight because she had to help her friend with wedding stuff or something because they hardly ever have time off together (the friend is getting married soon). Again I played it cool like whatever you arent that important anyway.

So what should I do when she calls back, should I be like go f*ck yourself and quit wasting my time (which I dont think will get me anywhere), or be like call when you can do something, or what?

I'm not looking this as a LTR possibility, just something fun! And so far I think I've done a perty good of not acting like an AFC too, mostly thanks to the little bit I have gotten to read on this website!!

Thanks DJs

Mike
 

Helter Skelter

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Chicks can be flake-ee that's for sure.
Could go either way.
Lets see what the other DJ's have to say.
 

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Alright man, this is a bad sign because you havent even gone out with her and shes already playing games.

Handle with care, be firm, let her know whats up. Take control and tell her to drop whatever she has planned and come have some fun with you.
 

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she wouldnt be able to do anything tonight because she had to help her friend with wedding stuff or something because they hardly ever have time off together (the friend is getting married soon).
quit trippin!

give her the benefit of the doubt....this time...
 

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She just wants the attention, nothing more. I bet you will never get her out anywhere that would be considered a date. You will always hear one of the following: I can't, We'll see, I have to cancel, maybe another night when my head feels better, etc.....

She will drag this on until she eventually meets another guy she actually likes, or it'll end when you stop showing any interest. What you need to do is not call her, let her call you. Also, let her know you are seeing someone but it's nothing serious.
 

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Time to play ganji games on this one. Like Mr. Perfect said, you have to draw the line this time around, otherwise she will believe that she can jerk you around. Don't call her anymore and if and when she calls you, don't give her anymore attention than you would a casual acquaintance. The less interested you appear, the better. Ignore her for a good couple of weeks. If she contacts you, set a date for a definite time and place. If she flakes again, then you know for sure that shes just into games and must be put on the permanent nexting list.
 

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This has happened to me many times to know to ignore this chick. When she asks you out for dinner, YOU say you are out with the boys. She is not worthy for your time. Drop her now!
 

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Dude, don't put up with this ****. Don't attempt to contact, return her calls only if there is intent ON HANGING OUT.. not "Oh, I wanted to hang out with you.. but you didn't pick up the phone" - NEXT HER.
 

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I'll be sure and let you all know what turns out!

The thing is, before I actually did blow her off to go out with the guys (or the girl that lived down the street from her a couple times) because she would call after I already did make plans and I wouldnt blow off my friends. She called me probably 80% of the time before, and if it doesnt end soon thats the way it will be.

Think I will throw in some stuff about the other girls I'm casually seeing, although they are only friends and "contacts" she isn't girlfriend material at all so she'll never know.

THere isn't any feeling here so I do have an upper hand in that I cant be hurt. It has become a personal challenge because I cant figure her out and I wont learn anything or be getting any by nexting her.

THere is also the remote possibality that this is legit, she did tell me when her next day off was this week so we'll see if I can play this one as it goes...:D
 

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not sure but,

Well, if she TELLS you that she's not available on this day, but is available another time, that doesn't sound to bad to me. Don't be to quick to next.
 

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I don't know about you guys, but I want a woman who has a high IL in me. I don't want to have to feel like I need to entertain her, impress her, work with her schedule only, etc. If the girl is into you, then you'll know 100%, unless she's playing games. If she is and you don't care that she's playing games, then cool, it's your life. If a girl wants to play games with me, then she's out - I don't care how hot she is. It's not worth the mental anguish that it puts me through.

Also, how old are you and she?
 

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Originally posted by intel200
What ever happened with this???
Hopefully he's screwing her so much he doesn't have time to update :)
 
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