Blown my chance?

[uly55]

Ok today I went out to my local shooping center to buy some tickets for an event I'm going to. I was walking past a jeans shop (that I had previously brought nearly a complete new wardrobe at), and looked in and saw this chick that had served me about 3 months ago( I have been back maybe twice after that).She gave me a big wave ( I was a good 50m away).I stopped and went into the jeans shop, and had a bit of a conversation. Apparently I have made a big impact in this jeans shop as all the staff know me, most by my first name ( I have only been in there about 3 times, the first time one of the other staff chicks was hitting on me). Anyway this chick was talking to another male staff member. I started the chit chat with both of them, and after 5 mins the guy staff member went back to doing his work.

I continued talk to the chick who was very happy to see me and said "I haven't seen you for ages"." I said yeah, I hadn't been down this way for ages, I also asked where the ticket office was, and told her about the event I was going to.She then showed me some of the new shirts, jeans they just got in ect. anyways we talked some more, but it started getting to that arkward point, and she and I couldn't think of anymore to say. So I say "I got to go and get these tickets".I said I'll be back in a couple of weeks to get some more clothes off you. I left feeling pretty good.

I went and got my tickets,did some more shopping and went and brought a new, New York Yankies beannie. As I was leaving the center, I went past the jeans store again.This is where I think I buggered things up.I went in and the store manager chick (who is also a hottie) She says"Hey (my name), how are you?".I smiled and said hi back. The First chick butts in and says did you find the ticket office ok. All of a sudden, I went back into AFC mode. I said yes and explained where the ticket office was, but in a very nervous tone of voice. All conversation after that was in that nervous tone.

For some reason I decided to show her the new Beannie I brought and a going away card I got for a mate that's moving interstate. I felt like alittle kid, showing off my new stuff. I then said " I just thought I 'd show you my new beanie.....to get your opionion of it"?(beacuse she's in the fashion industry) I felt like an idiot saying that. She said she loves beanies and it was cool.

Beacause I felt like such an afc I ended the conversation and said cya......cya in a couple of weeks, bye bye (how lame is that)! and I left. As I was saying my last sentence, we were looking into each others eyes, but she was giving me this weird look.....As if to say why are you showing me all this stuff or why aren't you asking me out yet?

Ok so I didn't know she had any interest in me before today(or does she?).I haven't had any promblems chating with women except for this one that I really like.Why did I get so god dam nervous? Did I make myself look like an Idiot. Will she be thinking this guy in not the confident man I thought he was (I've always been confident when in the jeans shop with the ladies).Have I ruined any chance with her and If so can It be fixed.

I must have made a big impression on the staff at the jeans shop the first time I went there, for them all to remember me?

Well, anyways on the way home, I got whistled at by some chicks, which built up my confidence again lol (I've never been whistled at by chicks b4)

Still I'm doing ok for a guy who wouldn't even talk to chicks a year ago.

Uly

 

[Oscar Wilde]

"Hi again! I was so enraptured by talking to you yesterday that I forgot to get something <big grin>" (gotta be C&F confident or saying something like this will be too AFC)

Her: "Yeah, what was that ?"

"Your number of course!"

 

[confused_girly]

(from a female perspective)

Go back - See how she behaves towards you

If she's all happy to see you, go for it.

(if a woman thinks you are cute, any nervousness just becomes part of being cute)

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I agree with the girl...

Originally posted by uly55

I must have made a big impression on the staff at the jeans shop the first time I went there, for them all to remember me?

BS - you made an impression on one or 2 of the girls there who talked about you to the rest, so now they all know of you (as "that guy"). So don't waste this opp.

What's the worse that can happen? You need to find a new jeans shop - big deal.

 

[deeman]

yep I agree, there is someone or some poeple in that store that is talking about you/interested and its most likely the one you were talking to. You havent screwed things up yet, she probably wondering why you haven't asked 4 the #.

I would say wait a couple of days (not weeks) go back to the store solo or with a friend. If you manage to get her in a convo, make it brief and close for the #.

Make it seem as though you and you friend were passing through and he wanted to check out the store.
KEEP US POSTED ON WHAT HAPPENS

 

[uly55]

Oscar Wilde - yeah mate I was thinking of saying something like that! But I think I have a good chance of stuffing it up, because I'm so nervous around her now. Yeah there are 4 main staff that worked in that jeans shop.The first time I went there I brought over $400 worth of clothes (so I thought they were just being friendly cause of that). I had all 4 healping me select clothes.The hottie manager, the blonde (the one I get nervous around), The brunette (she's left now) and a guy. The 1st time I went in I was interested in the manager chick, but I felt like she was just friendly and wanted to sell clothes by being great with the customers.The brunette, was hitting on me. she found out I am studying massage, and was begging me for a massage.She even told me to come to her new store.I did that, couldn't find her.she wasn't really what I wanetd anyway. And the blonde.she was very quite the 1st time I saw her. 2nd time we had a good conversation and now the 3rd time I get nervous round her. I think I realized I like her more than I thought.

confused_girly - ya know a female friend of mine said the same thing to me a few months back. She loves it when guys get nervous , when asking her out. I think my chick from the jeans shop was as nervous as me, looking back at it. That's why we had a hard time haveing a long conversation. Thanks for your point of view - much appreciated!!

deeman - yep will do that. yeah And yep will keep you guys posted.

It really annoys me that I got so nervous round her, I thought I was over that.The first time I went and brought clothes there, I was in top form and had them all laughing there.The manager chick was getting me to try on some jeans, I said to her "do these jeans make my bum look fat"? (this line is related to a funny tv ad here in Oz) She lifts up the back of my t shirt and takes alook at my butt. Then calls the others in the chicks in the store for there opinion.

ok will keep you guys posted as to what happens!!

Uly

 

[dionysius_d]

Just go back and ask her if she wants to meet up after work one day.. be straight to the point.

 

[uly55]

Ok guys here's the update for u............

I was hanging out with a good mate of mine today telling him about the Jeans shop chick! He said well lets go over there now. I said ok. I decided I had to ask her out.....it was now or never.

We got there and she was the first one to greet us as we came in.I said my mate is here for a new shirt. He went and browsed around the shirt section while I was chatting to her. After a couple of minutes I said......"I was wondering If you'd like to go out sometime" (not the smoothest, but good enough considering I was still nervous). She says......"Oh, sorry I have a boyfriend at the moment." Then there's an arwkward silence.I said " well thats not a problem, he can come out with us too!!".....She starts to laugh.I said while laughing"just kidding".....She laughs some more! She says " I'm really flattered that you asked me!" I said "no worries". Then I start talking to my mate and looking at some clothes. After a couple of minutes, my mate says there's nothing I'm interested in here. I walked up to the chicky and said good bye to her. Adding that I'll be back in a few weeks to buy some summer clothes.I then smiled, looked her in the eyes and said cya, cya next time. and we went!

Ok the funny thing is that I don't fell shattered like I used to when I got rejected. I feel really good and full of confidence!Considering that I was afraid of women 9 months ago, to this I think I have made some awesome progress! She made it easy too, by saying that she was flattered (wether she was or not is another question).

So this has been a positive experience. I couldn't have done this without the DJ site and all you guys......So thanks guys!!!

Uly

 

[vdk]

Which Brisbane shop is it? I live in Brisbane city and noticed all people here are nice. My cousin works in a clothing store in Myer Centre and she told me that most of the time they are forced to act super nice and since most shops are small, the managers can easily keep an eye on them too. Funny thing is she earns $AU10.50 an hour while I get $15.30 as a c*****y clerk in a bank office

Maybe we should meet up, since I dont know where all the good nite clubs are....

 

[uly55]

vdk - we went to these night clubs........The Adreneline Sports bar, Aurroras, That club above the train station (some place else?)and the Casino.I thought the Casino would be for oldies, but there were heaps of 18+ chicks there. Just sit out front for 10mins and you'll see what I mean. In the valley there are surposed to be some excellent clubs, but I haven't been there to check them out. I would also recommend that you go over to Chermside Westfield and check out all the chicks there. Heaps will be around 18 or 19, which is a good age for you. As long as your comfortable doing approaches in a shopping center.

Ok Dj's Question......After I asked her out and I made my joke ect the first thing she asked me is where do I work and what do I do there? Why did she ask me that?

Uly