This pattern runs here on the forum from time to time. There is absolutely no helping this guy. He got tremendously valuable advice in this thread, but he is entirely unable to learn because his ego is standing in the way. He cannot fathom that it is one thing to hear advice, and another thing to use it with nuance and calibration.
It’s like telling someone that driving to the store is easier and more effective than walking, and he blames you and your advice because on the way he got into an accident.
OP, here’s a hint, which you will not accept but others reading this thread will: Women say stupid and ridiculous things on the regular. If they directly disrespect you, then it’s appropriate to put them in their place. If they just rattle on about random things and feelings as they are prone to do, it’s up to you to change the subject matter in a firm but playful manner.
Woman is the stormy ocean, with waves crashing to and fro. Man is the rocky shoreline which contains the woman and provides her with form and substance. Water without a container spreads out to infinite thinness and evaporates. But water also conforms to the shape of any container.
What the OP needs to do is to examine his own execution of the advice he gets here instead of simply decrying its effectiveness due to his own clumsy handling.
