Blind date last night....

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Well it's been about a month since my breakup and I'm still kinda in that ****ty feeling. I am noticing that there are a lot more better days than sh!tty ones.
Anyhow the dude that cuts my hair tells me there's this hot blond he wants to fix me up with. So I agree and it all went down last nite. He meets her at a bar and then i show up. Well it turns out this chick dated one of my employees about 20 yrs ago! I recognize her when i walk in. Anyway the hair guy leaves and its just me and her. This is the first chick i've really talked to since my breakup other than long term friend/girls i know. Well the whole time all she talks about is Ex-husband, how worthless he is. Then she starts talking about her ex boyfriend, whom she just broke up with a month or so, about how worthless he was! I mean this chick seems pretty cool and is about an 7-8 and I don't want any LTR right now but maybe a first plate. But the longer I talked to her the more I was ready to get out of there.

The bar finally kicked us out and she handed me her business card and wrote her cell phone # on it. I didn't even have to ask for it! I texted her this afternoon and asked if she made it home ok and she texted me back apoligizing for getting so drunk last night and she hoped she didn't talk too much.

It just seems like thats all chicks like to talk about is their x's. I'm going to give her a call tonight and maybe pursue it a little further.
 

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PTC said:
...It just seems like thats all chicks like to talk about is their x's. I'm going to give her a call tonight and maybe pursue it a little further.
:nono: Beware of becoming "The Rebound Guy."

Besides, it sounds as if you aren't quite ready yourself.
 

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Pump her and dump her....

may as well get some as5 in the bargin riught?

just realise this chick has a real negative slant on guys.
 

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I don't think it's that big of a deal. It just indicates a little cluelessness. Talking about exes is the sort of thing any of us might have done before finding this site.
 

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Making the same mistakes. mistake one. texted her to see if she made it home ok. That's the "rescuer" coming out in you. The rescuer in you is what got you in trouble last time. Second is calling her tonight the day after you went out with her. It's amazing that you discovered so many red flags with her yet you plan to solidier on anyway because, well, that's what we do.
 

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If you just met up with her last night why are you calling her tonight? This chick is going to lose all interest in you by the end of the weekend.
 

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CGE333 said:
If you just met up with her last night why are you calling her tonight? This chick is going to lose all interest in you by the end of the weekend.
The guy that hooked us up called me the day after our little meeting. He said that she had called him and told him she was afraid I wasn't going to call her. She then told him that i didn't even call that night to see If she made it home! So yeah I texted her yesterday and she texted me right back. I called her last night and tried to keep it short but she talked forever! She didn't even talk about her ex's.

And yes I am aware of the rebound guy but it's been over a month for me and I'm just marking this one as a possible first plate!
 

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PTC said:
The guy that hooked us up called me the day after our little meeting. He said that she had called him and told him she was afraid I wasn't going to call her. She then told him that i didn't even call that night to see If she made it home! So yeah I texted her yesterday and she texted me right back. I called her last night and tried to keep it short but she talked forever! She didn't even talk about her ex's.

And yes I am aware of the rebound guy but it's been over a month for me and I'm just marking this one as a possible first plate!
She's SUPPOSED to be afraid your not gonna call her! Your a high value man and she's suppose to be winning you over! Make em sweat for you...don't sweat her. He's her girlfriend, not you! She's suppose to whine to him about you. You don't have to explain or respond to any "pressure" from her corner.

Good to know she's still has high interest. Just don't go all weak willed on us eh?
 

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Warrior74 said:
Just don't go all weak willed on us eh?
Hehe,....believe me I've learned my lesson. Yeah,...we've heard that one before! LOL! Life is too damn short especially when your my age!

Oh and by the way she's already texted me today. So there must be some interest there? We'll see...
 

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CGE333 said:
If you just met up with her last night why are you calling her tonight? This chick is going to lose all interest in you by the end of the weekend.
This is a fallacy perpetuated by the so called "Don Juans" to magically give HOPE to all the failing AFC's and provide suggested wisdom as a result of their gold medal performance in being unsuccessful. The only truth is you are just not good enough.

A Man of Value has no need for tricks and techniques because he realizes his worth. The women who recognize his value, surrender to his frame with intent of capturing this PRIZE.

Tips and tricks only work for the BORDERLINE prizes who are AFC's covered in PRIZEWRAP. As soon as the wrap unfolds, you have a naked AFC yearning for the next trick because he secured a second date.

Bottomline,

Call whenever you want. Call that night, next morning , 3 days from now. It does not matter. If you want her to surrender to your frame which is inevitably the only way for it to work successfully, you better bring VALUE to the table.

Good luck.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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