I never got into the whole 'pill' thing and don't really know exactly what they all mean, but I agree with what you said. I'd say i'm very 'black pilled' but then I'm also nothing like what many 'blackpillers' seem to be.
It seems most are just depressed, bitter guys who don't approach or get laid and just like to talk about how you need to be very very good looking to get laid without paying for it so just don't try at all.
Whereas I'm a pretty happy guy in general. Good social circle, and I have a decent sex life i'm very content with etc - yet i'm still 'blackpilled' to the point that I know that looks is basically everything when it comes to getting laid with very hot, very young things (especially from cold approach). They're as 'superficial' as we are! haha. As you rightly said, going out with very good looking friends will surely convince anyone. (i wrote many FR's back in the day when I was more of a PUA and would often go out with my wingman at the time who was a very very good looking guy! It was brutal. The Sh1t I saw! lol. Would be impossible to NOT be blackpilled after seeing that)
The people who think otherwise are usually just much older guys who are out of touch, don't have the sort of sex life with the sort of girls i'm even interested in, and likely never did. They wouldn't have a hope in hell of attracting the sort of girls I want, yet they still are like 'girls don't care about looks. They like me because of my masculine frame blablala'. Kind of deluded and for sure invisible to the girls I'm after. OR they're basically paying for play etc.
But My thing is always, instead of getting upset about it and spending all of your time moaning, get as good looking as possible (gym, fashion, even SURGERY if you can afford it. I've seen some outstanding results of people going from 'ugly' to good looking with well researched (and very expensive) surgery who went from incels to slayers). Also, never ever forget that even though looks are basically everything, not every girl has identical taste. There are outliers out there. I've always advised approaching loads so that you can find them! You need thick skin of course as you are going to be told to go away or get ignored by hot 18 years olds a lot if you aren't her type. Move on. I learnt this fairly early on when working in an office of young girls. They'd spend all day not working but browing insta, looking for hot guys to DM or flirt with, and usually they'd all go for the same guys (tall, young, facially handsome etc) but there was one (probably thje hottest of them) who always chose guys I the other girls thought was ugly. She just had different taste. And I feel like it's been confirmed over the years when i've managed to bang a fair few very hot girls who made it easy for me (as they do with guys they think are hot) and i'm no oil painting!
As is always said, it's a numbers game. You can't negotiate attraction. Don't waste money on PUA rubbish. NLP verbals and whatever else as there's a 'skill level' you can get too where you can somehow brainwash girls lol. Fantasy. Sher decides in about 0.5 seconds. Find the girls who decide in your favour