BlackMos' Field Report Log

[BlackMos17]

Whats up everyone! I am going to start a log to post my field reports since I want feedback on what I'm doing correctly and incorrectly.

Why? Basically, I want to be good enough to approach any woman I want when I want. With no fear, no hesitation, or going blank in the moment. Lastly, I want to have fun with it. Since November of 2009 I have been devouring this DJ information. Pook, Senor Fingers, BondJamesBond, j0n, and many more of you have helped me come a long way since 09. But now its time to apply this knowledge to the real world and get over this silly hump that has plagued me for so long.

I have already pledged to myself that my second year of college (which starts next week) will be the best school year of my life. I've always been bad with conversation, specially so when I talk to girls im interested in. Time to change this sh!t, because im sick of it.

Ill update regularly, whenever I can.



Monday Jun 30th:
Me and my friend went to Kohls and Walmart to practice approaching. I b!tched out of the few approach opportunities I had. Felt like sh!t. After the first 20mins or so we didn't see many decent females at all for the rest of the day.


Tuesday Jun 31st (today...well yesterday now)
Me and my friend went up to the mall.

I saw a girl who was in one of my classes last semester working in a jewelry store.

Me: Hey, weren't you in one of my classes last semester?
Her: Yeah, Econ wasn't it.
Me: Yeah I think so.
Her: *brings up that she's transferring after this year*
Me: *I ask her where and all that stuff...don't remember specifics*
Her: Blah
Then the convo kinda dies and I tell her have a good day

I was really nervous and I could tell that she picked up on that vibe as well, the whole convo was about 3 mins long and awkward. I didnt even remember to ask her name, didnt give her mine either. WTF! I blanked. BUT I was happy afterward because at least I went up to her, still it was pretty fail.

Later on me and my friend were chillin, resting our legs when I saw a girl I knew from High School (over a year ago) working in a store across from where we we're sitting. I immediately enter, almost no hesitation.

Me: Hey, how's it been Smallfry (not her real name, thats what Im calling her for you guys)
SF: *smiles* hi (and some other stuff I dont remember)
Me: You dont remember my name do you?
SF: Sorry no, but I remember your face. *her other coworkers leave to grab food from food court*
Me: Don't worry I dont remember anything from HS either. How long have you been working here?
SF: *walks from around the desk and starts to talk to me and my friend about the store*
I am standing behind her while she talks facing my friend, who is trying to keep the convo going for me because its dying out.
Me: Are you guys hiring? (desperation to keep the convo alive)
SF: *looks towards me and continues talking while my friend mouths the work "KINO" to me.*

I completely blanked, I forgot what Kino meant. I would say lol but no its actually very sad.

About a min later some customers come in and SF handles them as I grab a seat, my friend asks me what the fvck I was doing messing up that badly in the convo. Honestly, I couldnt think of anything to say...Geez wtf. As SF takes care of the customer for a few mins me and my friend just dip from the store. I feel like **** and dont approach anyone for the rest of the day. I never even told her what my name was in retrospect...

As me and my friend walk towards the other end of the mall an HB8 eyes me and I look back and smile. She smiles back, as I turn around to get over to her I decide not to for some reason. As of right now I still feel terrible about it.

Ugh...I did awful today. We're going out to the mall again later today, because I dont want to keep these failures on my mind. If there is one good thing I can take away from this, is that I did actually approach (although awfully) two girls and I kept eye contact during the conversations.

In the words of J0n, "I hope you guys do better than I do."

 

[BlackMos17]

Update

Went to the mall again today. Wasnt many HBs at all today, I opened a pair of HB9s

Me: Excuse me, Can you tell me which of these shirts I look better in?
HB9: *Calls HB9 black haired friend over in a happy voice* And says she liked the black one (I had a black and red one)
BHHB9 (Black haired HB9 friend): Hold both of them up
Me: *hands one of the shirts to my friend*
After I hold both of them up
BHHB9: I like the black one!
Me: Thanks! *they kinda start to walk off as I say it but I interrupt before she turns all the way around*
Me: Im BlackMos by the way (shakes hand)
BHHB9: Im so and so

Then they walk off before I can really say anything else, in hindsight I should have had them hold up the other shirt, not my friend. Also I was a bit nervous and didnt have steady EC. But at least I did something today. And to be honest...It really wasnt hard at all. Geez, I've been freaking out over this??

Im gonna keep trying to improve

I hope you guys do better than I do

 

[BlackMos17]

Today I went up to this club thing at the college and a whole bunch of freshmen were there.

I chatted up one of the female coordinators that we're telling the freshmen where to go

HB6: Are you looking for the auditorium? Because its right over there.
Me: Nah, im just looking for my friend. Oh and im a sophomore haha
HB6: Oh sorry (embarrassed)
I post up on the wall near her
HB6: *asks me some question I forgot*
Me: Yeah im just waiting.
HB6: Well this isnt going to be over for about 30 mins
Me: Really? Okay then.

and I left. I didnt even think about opening her at the time, in retrospect I'm positive she wanted me to. How do you get to be where you're always focused on opening girls. Because I straight up wasn't even thinking about it today.

About 45 mins later after I met up with my friend, I walk down the stairs and see HB6 and she says "Hi" to me again and smiles. I just say hi and keep going. Geez im a dumbass.

I noticed I got plenty of EC from some girls today, most were HB6's and 7s though.

As I walked to my car I saw a girl from HS, I said Hi as she walked by and she turned around and said "Hi! You look really different!"

Me: "Yeah, I look way better now don't I!" *as I continued walking towards my car backwards*
She laughed and keep going forward



So many missed opportunities today, Its weird I just didn't feel "in it." Almost like I couldnt focus and forgot to approach. Everything was just mutually casual.

Hope all of you do better than I do

 

[londonzen]

not being rude but you sound like you need to get basic convo levels up 1st
and also i wouldnt of kino the girl your friend told you too either what was u gonna do ,im no expert but 1 thing i know is no akward/halfhearted kino it makes you seem wierd.

if your shy get them talking about anything even girls your not chatting up then soon it will improve your conversation skills.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I didnt even remember to ask her name, didnt give her mine either. WTF!

Dude, this isn't a bad thing and I recommend that you don't start doing it. I never a a chick my name, nor do I ask for hers. Why Rex? Well since, I started with this material, I'm into giving or volunteering any to female. Everything, a female gets from me HAS TO BE EARNED! If she wants anything from me she'll give me an indication that she wants it or she'll just out and out ask. If a chick wants to know my name, she'll ask for it. If she wants to know hers, she'll tell me. I read in "The Game," (and this were I got this from,) for a chick to volunteer her name or to ask for yours is an IoI.

I'm proud of you dude. Along with school, you've taken a huge step towards being the man you eventually want to be. Keep at it and don't get discouraged. Engage in conversation with everybody, not just chicks. Good luck.

 

[BlackMos17]

@londonzen: No offense taken man. I already know that and believe me I have been working on it just about everywhere. The weird thing is, I just accepted about what Pook said about letting yourself fail. If stuff doesnt work out then whatever, just try your best. Its working wonders.

@Maximus Rex: Thanks bro

Back from first day of college. A few HB9s in my Public Speaking course, unfortunately road work caused me to be 15mins late to class so couldnt sit next to them.

In my coding class its pretty much all guys and HB3s lol however the one girl im sitting next to is kinda cool. Not gonna smash or anything but im not gonna judge someone before I know them, sh!t at least I can get some convo skill practice.

Im walking around today full of confidence, good body language the works. Im seeing so many AFCs walking around, all these girls are mine for the taking! Im gonna keep enhansing my skills, OH and I got a job!

Great stuff is happening to me over and over!

Hope you guys do better than I do.

 

[joe henny]

Do you get laid using this ****? Honestly it seems like you approach a lot of hoes and waste alot of energy chasing women and bed only a small amount. You can't make a female who's not interested in you like you. Just like if a fat ugly chick tried to talk to u. Nothing she says will phase you. So lesson find chicks interested in you.

 

[BlackMos17]

I am cold approaching to get my skills up. So when I do see a girl who has an ioi you dont fvck up. Plus its fun.

You'll never find those girls who have ioi if you sit on your ass all day. Believe me when I say I get ioi all the time, ive just been so damn shy forever so im trying to break out of it. I see what your saying Joe, but you're taking this waaaay too seriously. 98% of the time a girl is never gonna just walk up to you and initiate unless she's on some bullsh!t or trying to play you.

Edit: Man I know you didnt you just compare me to a fat girl lol. Im 5'9" 135lbs

 

[joe henny]

I am cold approaching to get my skills up. So when I do see a girl who has an ioi you dont fvck up. Plus its fun.

You'll never find those girls who have ioi if you sit on your ass all day. Believe me when I say I get ioi all the time, ive just been so damn shy forever so im trying to break out of it. I see what your saying Joe, but you're taking this waaaay too seriously. 98% of the time a girl is never gonna just walk up to you and initiate unless she's on some bullsh!t or trying to play you.

Edit: Man I know you didnt you just compare me to a fat girl lol. Im 5'9" 135lbs

Okay your taking my words the wrong way. If you like it than thats good. I thought you were the tpe of guy who approaches and bugs every chick you see. I see you only talk to chicks with "ioi". We play the same game just a different style. Yours PUA mines being a player. I approach women to but only when I see they're interested and want me. I don't believe a girls going to just approach me lol, although it does happen for me (especially in clubs).


Im 5'9" 135lbs[/QUOTE]

You need to gain some muscle mass man. Your women meter will go thru the roof if your a confident guy whos also in shape. TRUST ME. Besideds that good job man :rockon:

 

[BlackMos17]

Haha im working on it. Im pumping Iron at least 4 days a week, push ups and stuff on off days. Thankfully I got a job now, so I can start buying some food to eat because theres never anything in the house so I live off of bread and water. Im kinda one of those guys where I look skinny but if I took off my shirt people would see that I have defined muscles.

Anyways day 2 of new semester. When I was walking to grab some grub I saw this girl from last semester who I know likes me a lot. She looks pretty good actually its just....I dont know. She melts when she sees me but...I dont even know. She seems to be a nice girl but all I really would want to do with her is hit it and be on my way.

 

[BlackMos17]

Updates.

No I havent been able to go out and sarge lately but...

Lately Ive been feeling great, im just ultra confident when im at college but when I go to work its like im a shell of myself. I know its only my second day but its like im shy against my will. Im fine talking to female customers, but around my coworkers im just meh. My vibing is off, they are all friends and im the new guy in training so I dont know how to to sh!t. I mean they're all cool, but I cant open up even though I want to. I really hate saying that I "cant" do something, but as of the first two days its really how it feels. Im gonna break this habit its killing me socially.

Back to college, there is a fine girl with a booty like whoa working at the pizza place at my college. I want her. No one-itis or anything but you know what I mean. Problem is, shes usually making the pizza behind the counter so I never see her face. The one day she handed me my pizza she was looking downwards even after I said thanks. Geez...either she's really into her work or shes a bit shy. Even if she does one day work the register I have no clue how to open, specially when there is people in back of me in line.

Ill just keep working hard and hope things come into place. There are a few more girls I got my eye on in some of my other classes, mainly speech. Its a good class to show my confidence so im gonna do the best speeches I can and practice them.

Hopefully you guys do better than I do

 

[BlackMos17]

Update

So...during my lunch break I went to Pizza Hut, the waitress showed me a few IOIs and I didnt do anything about it.

During work one of co workers who is training me told me I gotta work on my customer service skills. Im too damn reserved....

Im tired of this sh!t and I dont know how, but I will find some way to change this. I hate being like this. Im a prisoner to my own mindset.

 

[BlackMos17]

Major Update! (and no I didnt forget about this thread)

Ive had a major breakthrough. I realized what the source was behind all my social problems. Oddly enough that same week was crazy with negative things happening to me everyday, like the world didnt want me advance from my problems, but I broke through all the walls that blocked me that week and now im on the other side.

At college im chatting up girls in the elevator, sitting next to them when they sit alone in the food court, etc. They moved my position at work from salesmen to cart b!tch (happened during negative week), but I actually dont mind it too much. Made friends with everyone up front at work. Plus my legs are getting toned as hell lol.

Actually while at work today, 2 HB9s came up to me and asked for a picture! Well there BFs were in the pics as well but i didnt care I still put my hands around there GFs they aint say nothin lol.

Everything is just going great now. Im still a bit shy but Ive broken through bring a prisoner in my own mind now, im letting myself fail. The next step will be to actually start opening sets from the "Hows your day going" stuff. I coulda had a ton of GFs in high school, and im talking about good looking ones who liked me but I was such a ***** and afraid of rejection that I never took chances. Now im taking them and I see my potential, and im gonna reach it. No more regrets.