Biterness Towards Women

[In2theGame]

#1
Why would you let a woman know you would marry her if she has not even moved in? In my eyes you are bending over backwards for her and this is never a good thing. It just shows you don't have options. This leads us to #2

#2
A woman can never think she has all of your love and appreciation. You have to neg them every once in a while. There have to be situations where you make her feel worthless and that you are angry at them. She has to be kept thirsty for your approval. This is the best thing for HER! Trust me she will live a happy life in this state of mind. If you would have been doing this look at all the hardship you could have avoided her? Think!

When it comes to love i'm a Sith, only through suffering can their be happiness!

I understand totally what your saying here but after being together for 5 Years and our relationship getting more serious, I did see a future with her and i didnt just "go with it", I had thought about it for a while and after her treating me so well and us getting along greatly... I decided i wanted to make her my Wife.

As for #2) i was like that at the start of the relationship, I set the frame strongly but again,.. after many years together I wanted to be more mature about things and felt i should be more loving to my future wife but that doesnt work with women of today. I actually find it kind of disturbing that you have to treat Women like filth for them to be kept in check. Its no coincidence that when ever i have treated some Women like sh!t they kept on comin after me like a Bum chasing a gold nugget.

I just thank God that i didnt have kids with her or had to go through a messy Divorce.

 

[In2theGame]

To tap on another thing here also is ive seen some guys asking questions like "How to be more of a Alpha bad boy" or "How do i not care and be an azzhole?" ...

Its not HOW you can act & be those things... That attitude comes from being burned and crazy experiences that shape you that way. As mentioned in my first post here... The source of these "bitter" Men come from somewhere and thats bad experiences. Take a guy who has been cheated on multiple times badly and a guy who has not. If a girl tries to manipulate them.... Whos more likely to tell her to "Get the FVCK out of here"? The guy who has been burned before. He knows about the deception and he wont let it happen again. Women will know they cant bullsh!t him too much and will feel drawn to him more.

Women complain that so many men are becoming jerks and such controlling azzholes..... But whats the source of that attitude? Just look at the mirror ladies.

 

[Malcontent]

Well, OP, I can't offer advice, but can say I am in the same boat with the way I feel right now. My last relationship was traumatizing as well. I'm very bitter. Hopefully we can move past it and be more discerning in the future. "Learning is painful," I've been told.

 

[Zunder]

Int2thegame: If it makes you feel any better, this is what is happening to Brad Pitt with the fruitloop manjaw he married. They just stay together to keep up the Hollywood fairytale. She fuks girls too. There's naught so strange as folks, and that crazy bytch would have been a hell on earth to be married to. But I get the bitterness, and fuk me I would be bitter as fuk too.

 

[logicallefty]

Well, OP, I can't offer advice, but can say I am in the same boat with the way I feel right now. My last relationship was traumatizing as well. I'm very bitter. Hopefully we can move past it and be more discerning in the future. "Learning is painful," I've been told.

You got that right.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I understand totally what your saying here but after being together for 5 Years and our relationship getting more serious, I did see a future with her and i didnt just "go with it", I had thought about it for a while and after her treating me so well and us getting along greatly... I decided i wanted to make her my Wife.

As for #2) i was like that at the start of the relationship, I set the frame strongly but again,.. after many years together I wanted to be more mature about things and felt i should be more loving to my future wife but that doesnt work with women of today. I actually find it kind of disturbing that you have to treat Women like filth for them to be kept in check. Its no coincidence that when ever i have treated some Women like sh!t they kept on comin after me like a Bum chasing a gold nugget.

I just thank God that i didnt have kids with her or had to go through a messy Divorce.

You can attribute whatever negative reasoning to treating a woman the way she NEEDS to be treated that you want. As a present day human being at the pinnacle of our evolution I like to think that my actions can be more outcome dependent, and less dependent on what I want to do at that very moment. Am I being a bad person if at the end of the year she is better off for it? You know in the end your girl suffered blowing all those dudes... much more than if you would have kept her in check from the beginning.

All you're really doing is instead of getting that immediate gratification of for example saying yes ill marry you <smooch>, to getting a more real gratification a little on down the line by seeing how stable your relationship is. Maybe you don't really have faith in the teachings here? I know I do.