bit confused, dont know which way to turn?

[ink_wizard]

Hey guys,

Just have a situation i need you to analyze & give me your opinions on and what i should do next because i dont have a clue myself....

About 3 weeks ago i started chatting to this chick on facebook, who at the time happened to be single, anyway we talked quite abit, had a great connection going on and defently alot of interest going on, saying how she really likes me, thinks im cute and would love to get to know me more so we suggested to organise to meet soon...but then last week she happened to get back together with her ex who shes been with for 8 months "she's still inlove with him and wants to be with him but said she likes me alot too and would like to be with me also"

So we decided to meet up last night, we went to dinner and things were going well, she seemed very interested in me, wanted to know what i was all about and we were just getting to know eachother more....then we went back to her house and watched a couple of movies which was nice, we cuddled and spooned and i couldnt help myself but i kissed her cheek and then her lips and we started kissing for about 7 secs.....however after that i noticed her getting abit distant with me and deciding after 30mins she was "tired" and wanted to goto sleep...i think she felt bad about doing it.....we didnt end up ****ing and i could tell she wanted her space when i slept in her bed, although i pecked her on the neck abit an she didnt seem to mind??

Anyways this morning she was still fine with me, still gave me hugs but started talking about her bf quite abit and how she wants to move closer to him as they live an hour a way from each other bla bla so i decided to go home because at this point it started to piss me off and confuse my feelings quite abit....so we hugged and she said she'd call me later....im still waiting.....

So my question to you boys is what do i do with this one? i feel kinda bad kissing her but in another way i dont and i dont know what to do with her or what to say to her when she decides to call me/text me.....HELP!!!! should i just forget about her or do you think i have a chance with her?

 

[Ease]

Sleeping over in her bed with no action is a chump move. Girls sleep over in eachothers beds.

Who knows what she was thinking, she clearly likes the guy but also clearly is willing to slut around with other guys.

When competing with a boyfriend you are fighting a different kind of fight. The boyfriend has both a handicap in that he has already become boring, but also an advantage that she has somewhat of a moral obligation to him. While you have the advantage of being able to play the super-a-hole game without having to worry about her feelings, because she is a filthy ***** for cheating. She is also a lot more receptive to a-hole game and your attention because she is already bored of the boyfriend.

The type of thing that would have won her over, was making a forceful move and making out with her and then ****ing her that night. She would protest a little, but she was obviously open to it if she was inviting a guy around for the night. There's two types of relationship girls, those that are in love and those that want to be rescued. She wants to be rescued, even if she says otherwise.

 

[PapiChulo]

what he said ^^^^

Make sure you get laid and after that who cares....

 

[ink_wizard]

well i wanted to fu*k her but i just felt after we kissed, she was starting to feel abit guilty hence why she got a bit distant with me later on and i didnt want to make her feel uncomfortable yet she had no problems with me spooning her and feeling her tits up even though shes so "inlove with her bf" as she says....

And how do u mean by playing the a-hole game?? should i text her and thank her for a good evening or wait to hear from her? i dont know what to do, i really like her though

 

[Kailex]

I really hope it isn't THIS girl:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=175843


If it is, you were warned. And even if it isn't the same girl, GUESS WHAT, it's pretty much the same situation.

Girl with a b/f.

Fine, you wanted to get with her. You wanted to have sex with her.
Let's get to your post then:

About 3 weeks ago i started chatting to this chick on facebook, who at the time happened to be single, anyway we talked quite abit, had a great connection going on and defently alot of interest going on, saying how she really likes me, thinks im cute and would love to get to know me more so we suggested to organise to meet soon...but then last week she happened to get back together with her ex who shes been with for 8 months "she's still inlove with him and wants to be with him but said she likes me alot too and would like to be with me also"

Her translation: I'm not completely sold on my ex, since he's a safe bet, so I'd like to test you out and see how that goes. That way, I can keep both guys and string them alone until I see which one of you is better than the other.

So we decided to meet up last night, we went to dinner and things were going well, she seemed very interested in me, wanted to know what i was all about and we were just getting to know eachother more....then we went back to her house and watched a couple of movies which was nice, we cuddled and spooned and i couldnt help myself but i kissed her cheek and then her lips and we started kissing for about 7 secs.....however after that i noticed her getting abit distant with me and deciding after 30mins she was "tired" and wanted to goto sleep...i think she felt bad about doing it.....we didnt end up ****ing and i could tell she wanted her space when i slept in her bed, although i pecked her on the neck abit an she didnt seem to mind??

You watched a couple of movies?
Brother, you shouldn't have even gotten halfway through the first one. You wasted HOURS of your time on what?

Cuddled and spooned?
Boyfriend and girlfriend behavior without even having gotten laid ONCE?
So then you actually finally kiss her, she gets buyer's remorse, wants to go to bed, and you STICK AROUND???

You slept in her bed?
After she decided she didn't even want to kiss you anymore?

WHY? What were you secretly hoping for?

Anyways this morning she was still fine with me, still gave me hugs but started talking about her bf quite abit and how she wants to move closer to him as they live an hour a way from each other bla bla so i decided to go home because at this point it started to piss me off and confuse my feelings quite abit....so we hugged and she said she'd call me later....im still waiting.....

You've been friend-zoned and you don't even realize it.
Of course she was fine with you.
This is why:

- You slept over. No sex.
- You woke up together. No sex.
- She gave you hugs. No sex.
- She talked to you ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND. No sex.
- You have feelings for someone who is a branch swinger, slept over, NO SEX.

Trust me, you're probably going to KEEP waiting.
You're just an orbiter now. She KNOWS she has you, without even having to give up any to you. She knows you are invested in her, enough to actually just sleep over and "hug" and "cuddle" and listen about her boyfriend.

So my question to you boys is what do i do with this one? i feel kinda bad kissing her but in another way i dont and i dont know what to do with her or what to say to her when she decides to call me/text me.....HELP!!!! should i just forget about her or do you think i have a chance with her?

What do you do?
It's too late to ask that now.
So you feel bad about kissing her but NOT about sleeping over? You've got this all wrong. You should feel bad about not sexing her and GREAT about kissing her.

Forget about her.
She F-zoned you.

Re-read your posts from this thread and see EXACTLY what you did wrong, which was pretty much everything starting from when you watched a "couple of movies".

 

[ink_wizard]

@ Kailex- no it wasnt that chick it was someone different...
I was going to leave after i realized she was getting cold feet after kissing me, but she lives and hour away from me and i couldnt be fu*ked catching trains at 2am and she wanted me to stay so we could 'hang' the next day...bad move i know, think i just got to hopeful? and i didnt want to seem like a jerk just leaving cos i didnt get laid.....which brings me to an update, she wrote me this text yesterday so maybe you can interpret this for me....

"Hey it was a pleasure meeting you yesterday, i had lots of fun. We should catch up again when were both free. Sorry i wasnt as sexual as you wanted...but im just really faithful to my bf & i do love him....
But i had a nice time with you, hope to do it again soon, have a nice day x"

Should i write back? or just completely go NC with her?? Oh and she keeps trying to set me up with one of her gfs who i dont even fancy in that way and its getting annoying and i dont know why shes doing it for?

 

[PapiChulo]

That text just confirms the above post by Kailex. You aint getting anything from this branch swinger. The only hope is that the boyfriend kicks her ass to the curb real quick, then you may get laid at least.

 

[Ease]

"Hey it was a pleasure meeting you yesterday, i had lots of fun. We should catch up again when were both free. Sorry i wasnt as sexual as you wanted...but im just really faithful to my bf & i do love him....
But i had a nice time with you, hope to do it again soon, have a nice day x"

Should i write back? or just completely go NC with her?? Oh and she keeps trying to set me up with one of her gfs who i dont even fancy in that way and its getting annoying and i dont know why shes doing it for?

LOL ! !

That is absolute genius, this girl is a legend. Just really faithful to her bf! Inviting guys she meets on the day back to her house, kiss and then sleep together.

She doesn't like you though, go for her girlfriend. If it wasn't for the fact that she was trying to set you up, i would have said go back and try your luck, but that's a clear sign.

Go for the girlfriend. Do it. Dont chase this girl anymore, she isn't interested in you, but she is on your side!

 

[Huffman]

bit confused, dont know which way to turn?

When I don't know which way to turn, I always turn to the left. Dunno if that helps though.