Birds of a feather flock together..

[Drewskie]

Ok, so I recently read a great article in which the author stated how hanging out with certain kinds of people will automatically make a person act more like them, which I believe to be 100% true. Obviously, applying this to Djing, if one can hang out with guys who ar good with women, it will help him sharpen his game as well. My questions are... first of all, how can I go about meeting guys who are good with the ladies?? Most of my friends are just the opposite and kill my game when I'm talking to a girl. How do I meet theses guys without looking like I'm trying to hot on them, or be "on their nuts". Also, since this is the mature man's thread, how old is too old to be starting to learn this stuff?? I wish i would have known about this site/idea years ago. I'm close to thirty and feel like most of the good years for meeting women have gone by. I know most of you guys got better as you got older, but how do you meet women when the girls at bars are all really young, and the 30 somethings are married, divorced, fat, etc.?? Thank you.

 

[Feek]

I'm close to thirty and feel like most of the good years for meeting women have gone by. I know most of you guys got better as you got older, but how do you meet women when the girls at bars are all really young, and the 30 somethings are married, divorced, fat, etc.?? Thank you.

Sorry for cutting up your post, but I don't know how to meet guys that are good with women because I've never really tried...they just seem to be around. How do you meet any guy and end up becoming friends with them?

However, I had to laugh when I read these last sentences. One of the biggest problems I find when talking to men who are reaching 30 is that they seem to think it's some sort of leprosy that repels women. This is just not the case at all. If you have the right frame and energy, you'll find yourself actually swearing off girls under a certain age. For me, it's 21 because a lot of the places I like to go with women tend to have some sort of alcohol and therefore age restrictions. I also tend to go for the younger ones (even my wife - she's 5 years younger than me) who seem to be single and more willing to play the field, but I also find some very interesting cougars that are unattached. Your age cutoff may be different than mine, but the point is that if you can attract a woman at a younger age, you can attract a woman at any age.

I don't generally go to bars and clubs to meet women, but then that was never really my scene. I'm trying it out more nowadays just to try it out, but I find it easier to just strike up a conversation with random people in that kind of environment where everyone's out to have a good time. The thing that works for me is to remember that I'm not trying to get anything out of my interactions with these people other than to have fun while I'm there. This attitude seems to work for me, but there again, what works for me might not work for you.

 

[Drewskie]

I hear lots of 30+ crowd on here say it gets a lil easier at that age because you truly don't give a sh!t anymore, which makes you more attractive automatically. I'm the same way, definitely have to be 21, but for some reason, it seems as though 23-24 year old girls are 100 times more mature than than the 21 year olds, so that's what I try to target. I just don't know how to meet some friends, or wings, without looking like a f-a-g. Thanks.

 

[Phoenix]

Age is nothing... I'm 19. My advice - join a gym and get into the group fitness classes. You'll get every type of girl and demographic (they're always alot of much more mature women too).

I'm with a 25 year old equestrian trainer at the moment... she's an awesome bird, the last one was a girl my age who went off to study nursing. Basically you walk into these classes and take your pick... and you already have a prize status because your one of very very few men that have the confidence to participate... most guys I've seen come and go just get to intimidated by the fitness level of the girls. I've got a short blonde, super tan, super fit 28 year old that wants to tear the clothes off me... she's married though and I don't touch on that... Alot of these girls will have attachments, but the ones that aren't are just gems.

 

[Feek]

I hear lots of 30+ crowd on here say it gets a lil easier at that age because you truly don't give a sh!t anymore, which makes you more attractive automatically. I'm the same way, definitely have to be 21, but for some reason, it seems as though 23-24 year old girls are 100 times more mature than than the 21 year olds, so that's what I try to target. I just don't know how to meet some friends, or wings, without looking like a f-a-g. Thanks.

I was going to respond to your post when I first saw it, but that first sentence up there really made me think and I had to bounce it around in my head for a little while first. I never really considered it, but there is some merit to what you say. I've been with my wife for 10 years, married 5, so I haven't had the issue of worrying about whether I picked up a woman or not for a long time. I always knew in the back of my head that I had a loving woman at home waiting for me. That being said, however, even though I'm only in my early 30s, I can say there's a certain inner control I have now that I didn't have in my 20s. Is that merely because I'm in my 30s now? I honestly can't say, but it's definitely something I'll be thinking hard on in the coming months. Thank you.

The age cutoff for me is more about where I can take a girl to have fun. I don't get much into the maturity thing, per se, because I'm more into the "friends with benefits" scene rather than looking for a relationship. With that kind of setup, I can keep things very light and don't have to deal with much drama, which is where maturity really plays a key role. It works for me, but the few I end up having a relationship with tend to be about the same age as my wife, which is to say about 5 years younger. Coincidence? Maybe, but my gut says "no."

I'm not sure I can give you advice on meeting friends because that process is very easy for me, always has been, and I don't know what I do to meet these guys. When talking to a guy you get along with, eventually you start talking about relationships and dating. Of course, you wouldn't want to get deep into that when you first meet them, because that'd be weird, but it does come up eventually. What they say and how they respond when you get to that point usually gives you an indication if this guy would make a good wing. Maybe you might want to try "The Wingman Forum" on this board and see if there's anyone around you? At least then, you'd have a common stated goal that might make things easier.

I don't really know what you mean by looking like a f-a-g, but then I'm known for just speaking my mind. My philosophy is like Popeye - "I am what I am, and that's all what I am." If people don't like it, there's nothing I can do to help that.

 

[Drewskie]

Bump..........don't want to start a new thread.