Bipolar

[Nn877]

Okay I'm pissed off and confused. My girl and i were watching tv tonight I recognize a girl I know on this show and make a comment about it. Like oh **** that's so and so that's hella crazy...she's attractive girl also, but is only a mutual friend of one of my friends girlfriend anyways....I notice instant jealousy from my gf. She even makes a salty comment about her and then just goes into her bedroom.

After 5 mins I go in her room and she's laying in bed under the covers going through her phone. I said that was rude to not say anything and just leave. Then we basically get into an arguement and says she's tired wants to sleep, I finally say eff it and just leave, arguement was getting worse and I wasn't willing to wait around for her to get more upset(It was her place) she was basically asking me to leave her alone so I wasn't going to keep trying to calm her down.

Being bigger person when I got home I texted her "still had a good time tonight thanks for dinner good night" she cooked and earlier we went to see xmas lights.

Her response was "don't talk to me" i haven't said **** been over an hour now.
Not even 24 hours ago she was saying I love you and this morning made me happy to "don't talk to me" lmao wtf? Any clue guys??

EDIT: Should i wait until she texts me or reach out?

 

[Meisterman]

It's a sh!t test. She says "don't talk to me" because she wants you to start freaking out and blowing up her phone "baby what's wrong? Talk to me! I'm sorry!" Etc... This is how she receives validation.

What to do now: DON'T TEXT HER BACK!!! Don't even respond to her saying "don't talk to me." That's how you pass the sh!t test.

Hint: If she REALLY didn't want you talking to her, or was cutting you off, she wouldn't respond at all. But the fact she says "Don't talk to me" shows she's still craving the attention, playing these stupid immature mind games and expects you to react a certain way.

If you mimic her frame in any way by reciprocating her poor attitude, you lose.

Now just go NC until she reaches out and apologizes for disrespecting you. Completely flip the tables on her and make HER earn YOUR respect back. Not the other way around.

Once that happens, you can decide for yourself if she's worthy of another chance or not.

 

[Genos]

@Meisterman I truly wish I had heard this advice earlier. So very much the truth, it's an utter **** test.

OP, don't initiate until she running back to you!

 

[Nn877]

I'll just wait it out today and see, she def overreacted and prob didn't think I would up and leave

 

[Nn877]

With Christmas around the corner would you try and resolve/reach out? Seems awkward to continue a fight into Christmas

 

[princess_124]

Okay I'm pissed off and confused. My girl and i were watching tv tonight I recognize a girl I know on this show and make a comment about it. Like oh **** that's so and so that's hella crazy...she's attractive girl also, but is only a mutual friend of one of my friends girlfriend anyways....I notice instant jealousy from my gf. She even makes a salty comment about her and then just goes into her bedroom.

After 5 mins I go in her room and she's laying in bed under the covers going through her phone. I said that was rude to not say anything and just leave. Then we basically get into an arguement and says she's tired wants to sleep, I finally say eff it and just leave, arguement was getting worse and I wasn't willing to wait around for her to get more upset(It was her place) she was basically asking me to leave her alone so I wasn't going to keep trying to calm her down.

Being bigger person when I got home I texted her "still had a good time tonight thanks for dinner good night" she cooked and earlier we went to see xmas lights.

Her response was "don't talk to me" i haven't said **** been over an hour now.
Not even 24 hours ago she was saying I love you and this morning made me happy to "don't talk to me" lmao wtf? Any clue guys??

EDIT: Should i wait until she texts me or reach out?

Wow, western girls sound a little rude and have attitude problems.

 

[Meisterman]

Above everything else man, just be polite. If she reaches out to you be respectful, don't hold anger or resentment.

Just because you're not texting her it doesn't mean you are mad at her. You're just complying to her wishes.

Realize she has problems + insecurities too. And she deals with them by behaving like this, hoping you come and keep trying to fix the problem.

But understand that this is an unhealthy mentality to have. So if you tried to fix the problem when she reacts this way, you're reinforcing that she does this more in the future. You have to treat women like dogs in a way. You reward them for good behavior and punish them for bad behavior.

When she gets mad at you, and you keep trying to fix the problem, it teaches her that she can do this more and more in the future. It's like giving a dog a treat for sh*tting in the house. It's not helpful, even if you like your dog.

Check your inbox too.

 

[Nn877]

Thanks meister, was thinking Abt calling tonight but will wait.

 

[cola]

Nah let her call you first bro.. She will. She just needs a moment. I would tell her that **** she pulled ain't cool and it turned you off a little. Don't threaten her just tell her "the way you acted turned me off a little" just like that.

 

[logicallefty]

With Christmas around the corner would you try and resolve/reach out? Seems awkward to continue a fight into Christmas

Are you saying he should try to reach out? Why not she? She said don't talk to me. He is respecting her ""wishes"" going NC.

 

[Nn877]

Still no call or text...it's crazy the stubbornness she has or pride issue. I want to reach out and squash **** but since she clearly said don't talk to me right after I tried to send a text to clear the air isn't worth it. We'll see

 

[EvilSpirit22]

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[Nn877]

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