I had an ADHD girl once. IT's messy. it really is, even with medication. You see these people cannot have discussions. Their entire life's they have been told they are weird/diffrent/they do things wrong.
For some reason as soon as she does something you do not like/appriciate, when you tell them, EVEN IN A CALM MATTER. They will explode, yell from the top of her lungs(even over small things). During her RAGE break out she will turn everything around and make you the BAD guy. I've tried going RAGE back at. I Tried letting her gettin it all out. and than talk when shes calmed down. The thing is it none of it worked for me.
When you would RAGE at her, she will go victim mode on you.
If you let her yell and everything, she will convince herself(and you in the long run) that you are the person at fault, and you will start apolegising for **** you dident even do. (you start going AFC, have emotional outbursts because you keep all the negative **** inside you, and at some point you pour it all out). And the worst part is, WHEN FOR ONCE THEY REALISE THEY WERE THE PERSON AT FAULT. They will simpely go: I have ADHD. They will blame it all on their "condition". They will make an excuse, they wont take responsibilty. NOR will they apolegise. Which will make you feel anoyed to serious extent.
She will only listen selectivly, and you will feel as if you are not even HEARD when talking /texting her. She will only respond to selective things, ussualy turning the tables against you, once again.
The problem is with these girls, they are often very attractive, and very interesting. And very fun to just be around with. They will also pull out all the white-knights in you. Because they are a danger to them selfs, they have issues concentrating, so for example when walking down the street and crossing it, you feel as if you're protecting her the entire way. Holding her back, puling her back if she randomly crosses when a car comes along, making you feel like a HERO. Also once they are in "normal" mode. They are extreemly fun. They are also very impulsive, which leads to fun situations and spontanious events. It can also mind **** you, They might grab you, kiss you, put their nails in you etc, get you all worked up to the point that you have no more blood in your brains because its all down in your penis, and then they will have a moodswing, leaving you dry and without sex. it's these moments that are like torture.
ADHD people, ussualy display BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER behaviour. They are prone to depression, and they LOVE(cant stress this enough) THEY LOVE drama more than "normal" girls. They will actually create scenarios, or do things so that people "react" in a certain way so that they can get their dosis of DRAMA. Something in their brain just goos orgasm mode on drama, and they cannot get enough of it.
I got all this information, after it did not work out with her. Because i did really enjoy the time i had with her(all the up's and downs), and should i run into a ADHD again i will know how to "act" accordingly. Mine was also very inteligent, 2 master degrees, beautifull, and her father was a milionair. So I was kinda bumd out afterwards, should have known all this before getting involved
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Apprently there are alot of ways and techniques to "handle" a girl with ADHD. For example on a ADHD forum for married couples. Things like sit down once a week(plan this) and talk about her responsibilties in calm fashion BEFORE you get an outburst so that your partner doesnt go into DRAMA-mode. ALSO WHEN THEY PSM. they will PSM the **** out of you believe me.
So as a DJ, my advise is this: If you are really into this girl. And you know 100% sure that you want her. Study up on ADHD. KNOW what you're getting into. Because a DJ goos for what he wants, and he goos in prepared. So if you want this WOMEN. Go for it. They can be great fun. They are LOYAL(most people who have ADHD and are aware of this, will block out all other plates/temptations because they know they cant resist so they take precautions) Beautifull, Inteligent. and you won't get "bored"of her. You will how ever, have to deal with mood swings, extreem drama(with her GF's/parents/at home), as they will have something to cry about weekly.
Your call.
