Big trouble

[sprinter911]

Ok i just got some horrible news... this girl i was dating who moved about 1000 miles away just called me today, i didnt talk to her or attempt to since she moved in Sept. The second the phone buzzed i got a weird feeling in my stomach. I answered it and she proceded to make small talk, then informed me that she was pregnant.....That she found out this week, my ****in problem is i had sex with her in Early Sept and the last time before that was in July...In Sept i double bagged it and there were no tear as far as i could see... i dont know what to do. She wants me to hop on a plane and fly to see her so we can discuss things..... i told her i wasnt sure if i could do it at this time. I dont mean to complain to much but this blows, i just took a good paying job, life is going good and i think she is trying to **** me over on this one.. I just dont trust her, can someone please give me some advice. I mean if it is my kid fine i will bite the bullet but i did double bag it as i said in Sept and in July... its not like i was doing her raw

 

[Big Pappy]

Okay, a little math... Early September. It's now late November. That's about 75 days, at least, right?

First, has she had a doctor confirm it? The ept's are generally correct, but I wouldn't make the trip unless I knew for sure.

Second, how old is she? Seems to me that she would have known she was pregnant before now. Not that it matters. She may not have known how to tell you.

Suppose it's yours.
When you dance, you have to pay the fiddler, sometimes. It's not that bad. Kids are pricy, but they're absolutely wonderful. If you make all your child support payments and visit regularly, single moms will melt in your presence.

Suppose it's not. The lengthy time for the pregnancy announcement seems a bit suspect to me. Find out the details first. Find out the name of her doctor. Call him and find out what the details are, if he'll tell you. In short, cover your six. Many a fine young man has been trapped by naughty women. Not saying she's up to it, she may have mistaken you for some other guy who did her after you did.

Best of luck.

 

[TesuqueRed]

I heard of some women extorting $$$ out of guys for an abortion (several guys--you just had to have been in bed with her..) I saw this once actually--it didn't work since 3 of the guys lived in the same building and compared letters (LOL)

Then I've heard of some women who did go to bed with a couple of guys and picked the one with the best job to be "daddy".

Those are extreme cases and this may not be either of them. All the same--keep yourself level-headed and don't make rash decisions. You may want to check with a lawyer friend (if you have any) and just get an idea of what rights you have, she has, the kid has. And avoid the "men get so reamed by women and society in America..!"--type of bytching. You don't want to bytch--bytching doesn't help you. You want to come to a good decision.

 

[CLOONEY]

Man this is tough. Although it sounds a bit wierd, takes her 2 months to find out! If I was you I would make sure she has been to the doc! Also if she chooses to have it, I would get the kids DNA to see if its yours! You know the statistics that a kid is not actually the partners baby are like 1/7 or something like that! But yeah stay calm and level headed, think logically, not just on your emotions at this moment, because your head is probably all over the place. I had a scare like this a while back, infact 2 girls have done this to me and it ended that NEITHER of them were pregas! Amaizing the lies some girls can tell!

 

[Walden]

F*** I hear your pain on this one.
No advice but you have my sympathy.

 

[sprinter911]

Hey thanks guys, i have gone ahead and talked to a friend of mine who is an attorney and he is going to hook me up with one of his lawschool friends who specialize in this sort of stuff. Ugggg, i feel for anyone who has to go through this, this girl called me yesterday and was very rude, pretty much saying she was going to have this kid and she was going to sue me for not flying down to see her and discuss the options we have. I told her from here on out i would not be discussing anything with her and that the attorney would. Its sort of ammusing this was my worse nightmare so i always double bagged it and a girl still calls me saying the kid is mine. I honestly think she moved away was lonely hooked up after drinking with some random guy and bam.... lets take it out on the 2nd to last guy she slept with