Big Man On Campus - HolyG's Self-Improvement

[HolyG]

Hello everybody,

I've been lurking on these boards for quite a while now, reading some fantastic information and always vowing to put it to use, but never getting around to it. Well now, things have changed. I'm tired of rarely getting any action from women, from being a beta male, from being a follower, not a leader.


Time to change all that!

This is going to be my self-improvement journey, in order to change into an Alpha male, the prize beyond all prizes. I want to balance school, clubs, and still have time for a real social life. I want people to be calling ME up on Friday and saturday nights, not the other way round- basically, I want to become the MAN.

So, from this year onward (this is my sophomore year at college), I'm gonna change myself into a far more popular guy (I'm not a loser by any means, just not where I want to be yet.)

In a day or two, I'll post and map out my goals and pathways to reaching where I want to be. All I'll say now is, I'm going to jump the bootcamp- a little too slow for my liking, but I will still use it to set benchmarks for myself.

I'll be working on my confidence, body language, voice tone, sexuality, and body shape/fitness. Oh, and above all, my positive outlook. I want to see the good in life, not the bad!

 

[HolyG]

Oh and,

These are basically the two articles I'm going to be focusing the hardest off of when it comes to play

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16671

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18392

And this for being social.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=118331

I've also read The Book of Pook and Carlos Xuma's Alpha male secrets.

 

[HolyG]

For the first week, my goal will be to have at least two random convo's w/ people I don't know, and at least ONE conversration with a HB which yields a # close, every day.

The point of this camp is to give me unstoppable confidence and that approaching mindset.

Alright, I start tomorrow!

 

[HolyG]

So today, I left Durham, where i've been visiting my bro for a week, and made my way to U of M for the new school year. Unfourtunately I arrived too late for Move-In, so I'll have to do that tomorrow.

Anyway, there were two flights. Unfourtunately, no chicks sitting next to me. However, I talked to my neighbors anyway. First dude turned out to be a scientist on his way to Rome for a convention. We talked about living overseas (I live overseas) and jet lag and things like that. I did my best to keep eye contact (no homo) with him. I'm trying to do that w/ all people from now on.

Second dude, I don't even really know who he was. After I talked to him about how tiring a day it had been, the convo kinda trailed off.


I stayed at my uncles grad frat for the night. They were having a barbecue/ party, lots of food and beer. So I got into the approaching mindset, talked w/ 3 different girls. HB1(an 8) Hb2(a 7) Hb3(a 7).

I talked to all 3 over the course of the night.

At first I was talkin to 1 and 2. The highlight of the night was when everyone was out on the porch, and I had both isolated and was talking to them at once. I impressed 1 by guessing how many beers she had lol. Plenty of eye contact to both, but too little kino, and I don't like my voice tone...too light. needs work.

Later on I played Guitar hero w/ 3. I bust on her for mistakes and stuff like that... but I was shown up when it came to my turn:crackup: she's a lot better than me. I did probably the best job on her over the course of the night.

Overall..I think I need more work developing vibing or rapport. The conversation stalled at points. I'm doing my best to treat everyone as if though they were already my friend.

Then I had to go to the store, so that was the end of that.

Tomorrow I move into my dorm!

 

[HolyG]

Great Success

Approach 1

I spotted an HB8 in the cafeteria. At first I didn't have the raw nerve to go up to her.
She picked a table in the cafeteria and sat alone. I sat at a nearby table.

Then, I reminded myself I was a DJ and A MAN, so I went up to her.

Me: Hi can I ask you something?
Her: Sure

Me: (Noticing her soccer backpack) Are you on the soccer team?
Her: Yeah

Me: Do you know where I can get tickets?
Her: (Explaining that you can buy them at the field)

Me: What's your name?
Her: Sarah (sticks out hand)
Me: I'm HolyG
Me: So what year are you?
Her: I'm freshman
Me: Oh cool, how do you like soccer
Her: Blah Blah its fun
Me: You live here in this dorm
Her: Yeah
Her: I don't mean to be rude but I gtg.
(She left the cafeteria)

She didn't really smile a lot...but she was nice enough. I'm getting there. Gotta work on vibing.


Approach 2

Fast forward to the night. Well since it was welcome week on my campus, there were parties everywhere, and I was ready to hit some up.

We went to a frat party, where I proceeded to drink for the 1st time in my life as a kind of experiment, to see whether I needed it for game or not.
Drinking, I realized, makes you care less. I decided not to drink again- as a DJ, I don't need some half-assed crutch to help me spit game.

I danced with at least 5 HBs over the nights course. Two I made out with. One I FINGERED, something I've never done before. Right there on the dancefloor.


However, whenever I tried to isolate them, they would always make excuses that they had to find their "friend". It's irritating. How the hell do you isolate?
I also drunkenly yelled at different groups of people as we walked down the steet (my two friends and I).

All in all, a memorable night.

Please leave comments...

 

[HolyG]

Come on, people. A few comments would be nice. It's why I started this thing in the first place.

 

[HolyG]

Alright, quick update on last night.

I went to my friend's room, and then the three of us there took off to a frat party. But by the time we had arrived there, the cops had showed up. We dodged a bullet by being so late.

Then we went to a friends house party. It was alright, but I wasn't really feeling it. Wasn't able to spit game at any girl to my liking.

I also talked to 2 complete strangers earlier, but no HB. Ah well, I'll do it today.

For the love of god would SOMEONE please post in here? Just to say hello if you want.

Peace

 

[Man Man]

Nice work so far good sir.

 

[bman]

what did you do to try to isolate?

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Good job man,
do you have some openers made up?
If I were you I'd make up some openers in advance so you don't get caught out.
Openers that actually interest you and reflect upon your hobbies or personality.
Then when you approach somebody with the same interest it's really easy to talk because you have a shared interest.

 

[HolyG]

what did you do to try to isolate?

I tried to lead her off the dance floor, to sit on some nearby couches. However her fat friend smoothly stepped in and ****blocked me. Why the f*ck girls do that, I'll never know. It's annoying.

For Jerry, I'm trying to do all this with natural game. No openers or canned routines. Derek Flint wrote some inspiring stuff on this recently. There's no reason to hide behind them, or to apologize for your desires as a man.

Wutang, let's def. keep each other on point here man.

Anyway, today was a decent day. Saw a chick in the cafeteria, but for 1 reason or another I convinced myself not to sit w/ her. Mistake, I know. I'll try to lessen those.

Spent the afternoon playing a long hard game of soccer...fun fun fun, I love it.

Me and my 2 friends went home showered, then returned to the field for a big party called the pre class bash, taking place before classes start. HBs, EVERYWHERE. It was approach heaven.

That is, if you could work up the nerve. I tried to make eye contact w/ chicks, but they were all either talking to friends or facing away. It's hard man, talking to chicks who aren't looking at you. I tried to think of something to say to nearby ladies who weren't facing me, but couldn't come up with anything:cuss: Anyone in this situation?

Later on there were a buncha people dancing on the field. Saw an HB w/ her friends watchin, and opened her. Cue conversation about the dancing. I busted lightly on her for not joining in. We talked it up and got to know each other. She seemed really interested. Got her digits HolyG is arriving people! Slowly but surely. Does anyone have any good date ideas? Like shooting pool or something.

Later on , opened some random dude in the dorm store. It's a mark of my improvement that I really didn't think twice about it. Opening girls is a LOT harder than other guys, and I find opening girls w/ eye contact to be prety simple.

Tomorrow, first day of class...gonna be social to a fault!

HolyG, OUT.

 

[HolyG]

okay...I absoloutely dropped the ball on this one man. I'm going to start this back up and keep approaching sets, as many as I can with the time I can spare for approaches.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

I read through it. Not too much stuff in it for a whole semester, but the stuff that was there was good. I once got underneath some girls panties on a couch at a house party but never fingering them ON the dancefloor, lol.

 

[HolyG]

Well not too much to talk about yet.

last nigh I went to my friend's girlfriend's room, there were more chicks than guys initially but the numbers evened out later. i was getting plenty intrest at first from the girls, there was one HB in particular that seemed to be eyeing me and I was fine with that.

then drama emerged. (man, fvck drama.)


it seemed that the very HB had recently broken up from her ex.....i was disgusted but tried not to let it show, as we were walkin around lookin for a party I tried to talk to her several times, although she seemed responsive her body language said otherwise (in her defense..she WAS cold)

uneventful night. we didn't even find a party. we stopped by a burrito joint and went to some guys room. instead I focused on being the life of the group and telling stories with some success.

Ill start approaching ASAP

 

[HolyG]

Yesterday---


My first approach was completely off...I felt shockingly nervous. I ended up asking an HB where she got her shirt and ejected after some awkward conversion about where to get it.


I felt irritated, like I could do better.

Then I ran into another HB who lives in my dorm that I know a little bit and it was a much better interaction...I was making her laugh, messing around w/ her and stuff like that..

Today I opened another really cute HB on the bus...but I couldn't build any attraction, we were just talking about our majors and classes and other boring ****. I need help building attraction..i couldn't think of ANYTHING to talk about. She still introduced herself to me though after a while talking. Good sign?

 

[HolyG]

I want to list my goals here

Primary goals

1. Devote at least 4 hours to studying each day

2. Approach at least 3 sets each weekday & get at least 1 phone number

3. Become confident natural (rewire my mind to become more alpha) by:

-Being unreactive (never nervous)

-Offering value (being energetic & bringing something to the table socially)

- Reminding myself I hold all the power, all the time

-Not compromising my personality (ex. I want to stop drinking)


Secondary goals

1. Spend less time on the computer/ video games (ie facebook, nintendo)

2. Become the center of action/attention

3. Stay in good shape



Expect consistent updates from here on out.