Big girls

[speedo_meme]

ok I got this "bigger" girl salivating over me. Actually she's only about 20 lbs. overweight, and she still has a decent figure. She's just barely crossed the line where it's just too much. The problem is she's perfect in every other way AND she's got a beautiful face. She's exactly what I want but I can't just get over the weight thing...can anybody relate to this? Am I being shallow? I can't make myself want to hook up with her, even drunk I can't do it, I've tried. My d*ck refuses to get hard. Of course I'm a challenge to her because i really don't care.

Also, she wants me to help her work out and make sure she goes to the gym and exercises. I know this isn't really a problem, but I'm just curious what other guys would do in her situation. Maybe I should just get really wasted, man up and do her. She's a good church going girl and I don't want any emotional crap to put up with though....

 

[iveyleeger]

If your d*ck says no, what are you gonna do? It's not gonna work. Go for it and you run the risk of an embarrasing moment followed by her telling her friends you have d*ck issues. Don't go there.

 

[Moving_Target]

I guess I am just as shallow as you then. You can't force yourself to be attracted. It's as simple as that. It's nice that she wants you to work out with her but she's got to want to do it on her own, not have to be bullied, coerced or any of that other bs. I've been in your situation and I just ignored the attention. I'll be friendly and flirty and all that but I didn't take it any farther. It made me uncomfortable after a while and i just stopped going where she was.

Still it's your decision....

 

[Bill S. Preston Esq]

Don't try to convince yourself that you like her. It won't work out.

Then watch yourself suddenly have a change of heart when other guys start going after realizing that she's a catch because from what you have told us, she is.

Let some other guy who doesn't have issues with HER weight go for her and not lead her on.

 

[Tboner]

Originally posted by speedo_meme
The problem is she's perfect in every other way AND she's got a beautiful face. She's exactly what I want but I can't just get over the weight thing...

Getting drunk to do a girl is lame. Good news is you can get over this shallowness. Just keep improving your game and F***ing hotter and hotter chicks. When you reach the point where you're regularly f***ing cold, insecure, self-absorbed HB 9.5 models, you'll finally be able to fully appreciate a woman like this. But until then, don't force yourself to do anything.

 

[Bible_Belt]

How is the rack?

Tits are God's gift to fat girls.

 

[DoubleA]

Yo

If you can give a rats azz about what people think, then I say go for it. Really. Here in DC, most of the women you describe have the best jobs and their sh1t together. All the HBs seem to used up. Or damaged goods as my man The Nutt would say.

I was in your situation once and I did do the drinking thing. I wasn't attracted, really. I just liked the fact I became familiar with her. Too me it almost wasn't attraction. She was a nice person, for the most part. She just wanted me to be into her but I really wasn't that attracted to her.

I have dated Big Girls. I don't have an issue with it. But I don't consider myself to exclusively date BBW. I date women who I connect with mentally. I'm an Aquarian that's what I do. It's all mental.

SO, date her because you want to date her. But if you're really not interested don't waste her time..that's my golden rule. My time is precious. So out of respect I do the same for someone else. But if you think she's special to you, then develop the friendship and see where it goes. After all it may not be the physical attraction that attracts you.

 

[Lost In Translation]

if you can't get hard over her

SOMETHING IS WRONG

take that as a sign you not supposed to go there



Quote: Player_Supreme
“I've taken a fat chick and put her on a diet and training program and created my own super ho. “


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[ER!C L!VE]

I've banged many-a-fatty. They're not all that great. I only encountered one that didn't have a pvssy odor. I'm talking 180-220lbs big...I would never ever be exclusive with one. To me, they're just sport fvcks.

What you have is a chick who just needs to lose a little weight. 20lbs isn't that much. Have you seen the fatness that's out there in the dating pool?? Check out her mom and dad to find out what kind of fatness potential she has.

Anyhoo, the bottom line for you is that you're not sexually attracted to her. I hope you don't feel guilty because she likes you and you don't feel physically attracted to her. Is this your first time encountering this? If so, here's some tips: Be nice to her, tell her you're want to be friends and that you think of her as your sister. She should get the hint.

Hell, if she loses some weight and you are then sexually attracted to her, then hit it and quit it. She'll find a way to gain the weight back...
:cheer:

 

[speedo_meme]

All good points.....

I guess my thing is that I like to work out, for one I enjoy it and two to look good. This girl could be smokin if she weren't lazy. There's really no excuse for her not to lose weight, she doesn't drink or eat that much, but she just doesn't understand the fact that she will have to change something. I don't think it's wrong to expect a girl to keep herself in shape. Personally, just my opinion, I hate laziness in all forms and I also hate excuses, maybe that's what has me hung up...

And it's not like she's happy being fat, because I'm in no position to tell somebody what to do to be happy.....she DOES complain so she actually does want to change...

Btw, she's adopted, so I couldn't use the parent trick to gauge her future weight gain possibilities.....

 

[Bible_Belt]

http://www.largepersonals.com/
http://bbwdatefinder.com/

It's desperation city! At least God gave them tits.

 

[Mike24ct]

I probably wouldn't go there if I was you. Like David D. says, "Attraction isn't a choice." If you aren't attracted to her physically, it will never work. Plus, she is already very much into you. Even if you consider it a casual relationship or a FB relationship, it is likely that she will get very attached to you and may get really hurt in the end when she finds out that you aren't that into her.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

what does 20lbs over weight look like?? Some women of different ethnicity carry extra weight better than others.......Are you familiar with the term thick???? prob not, but there are women who way as much as 160lbs that have wonderful figures, hour glasses stacked with T/A... I personally prefer women who are toned, but I HIT UP the thick girls as well.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Yes, ethnic women carry weight better. It goes more to their boobs and butt. White girls get big guts and thunder thighs.

And muscular girls are surprisingly heavy, but look thin. I remember a cheerleader from hs who weighed 155. I would have guessed 120 to look at her. No one ever called her fat.