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Don Juan
Hey guys,
New to all this, just been reading some glorious posts on here for the last 2hours (English-London time) where I cannot even go to bed. This site has already intriuged me. For the last couple of weeks, now months I've been on a crash and burn mission over my Ex.
Basically, it goes like this, please be patient.
SAGA
I live in London, she lived in Birimgham (Now London), about an hour away from the capital - we met online through Myspace and Msn and got motions flowing, we kept this up for about 2 months until we finally decided to meet. She without hesistation came down to me. From the very first day we spoke over the phone, I said that I would come and surprise her at her workplace but never ever got around to do so and always had some excuse (What I was doing was actually PREPARING myself for HER for when we do finally meet e.g buying nice clothes, getting trim etc etc).
Anyways, she always said to me that she cant wait to see me and she needs to come up!....When we finally met. It was chemistry allover, even though I had been in a two previous internet-relationships that didn't work. We kissed on the first date and luckily for me, I hit it.
I had asked her if she'd done this before "sleeping with someone on the first date" - and she replied "No..but you had so much game in you and I was comfortable, if I didn't think you did and was like Erghh..I would've said at the start before you made a move, no it's too early for that" - With a small giggle. Which brings me to the now possible Q&A error. Was my girlfriend really a sket/slut or did I really have that GAME and was special?
Anyway, for about 3 months into the relationship, things where up hill&down for us (nothing crazy, just abit of TROUSER power with clubbing). She would usually travel on end of weekdays to see me and stay for the weekend or maybe a whole week or 2. She done this throughout the majority of the relationship for 5 months without any problems. During this time, 3 of her friends where having relationship problems. one was being locked in a room to one being cheated on and another being the "replacement chick".
I only met 2 of the 3 friends the (TWO) times that I went up to see her. I stayed at her mum and Dads, and had a reletively good relationship with her parents and siblings. Also, friends, but it wasnt frequent. Her friends are like linebackers, they all follow eachother into misery and love eachothers miserable company. Which was hard for me, because I was tryna be the "Nice guy" to them!
Cutting it abit short, the relationship started to get weird. I started noticing unknown numbers in her sent messages, but the sent messages would be deleted and noticed that she was speaking to some guy on Facebook. Fortunately enough me, she trusted me enough to give me her Facebook password for my own reasons (Which I didn't BEG for, but merely brang it up in a joking way as a sign of LOYALTY).
I noticed that the guy was hitting on her on the chat log, and she was playing along with it all, this is about a month into the relationship (DECEMBER). She laughed off his complimentary jokes and ended up with her Email upon request. When confronted about this, she said "It wasn't her and her friend was using her account, and that her friend was just getting back at her ex-boyfriend so shes talking to every guy now" - I made a triumph about this and accused her of being disloyal, a liar and furthermnore a cheat, because in my eyes, if you're being seduced by another man, especially Online - what makes you different or how is face-face different?
Anways, we kissed and made up bla blah bla, I guess she convinced me enough to some degree, when she BRIEFLY de-activated the whole thing uopn my request if she was telling the truth...THEN about 2weeks later. Some guy rings up. from her area..... (This wasnt a MALE FRIEND number i've heard or seen come up before)
The guy apparently asked, where he's brother is (hes missing or some crap), Then I jokingly asked whos that, so he knows im there .she says angrily and sarcastically says, "someone"!...So then I get on some foot-stamping and grab the phone from her and ask "WHO IS THIS"...the guy replies ask your girl?
Anywhoo! about 10 minutes into the verbal-phone ruckus, he says that he got her number on FACEBOOK. I then ask her whilst there and then if this is true, she says no, but that somebody from HER AREA, who knows her gave it to him.
Which I believed, because 1) I wanted to, and 2) Her area has some real freaks who get around in other peoples buisness, it's known for that city-wide! Young and Old!
Anyways...The guy said to me, he was tryna hit on her and asked me a difficult question at the time "Dont you have other chicks on your line?" I then had to proceed with locking the phone off as my girlfriend was listening. This is not to mention, the bullcrap from her Ex-man. Before we even met, she had him on her "topfriends" list on Myspace - when I asked who that was, she said that he was a friend.
When we met, he called on that very same night and I noticed the same name from Myspace, I then argued with her in a non-caring way, she then spat out the beans and cried, due to my laid backness!
Cut a LONG STORY SHORT, this girl had always wanted to come London and make "something" of herself career-wise which set her away from the rest of the yokel girls in her area and that is what attracted me. Although I always liked the idea of it being a LDR as all that nonsense, the love grows fonder!
Within 6 months, she became pregnant. The 2nd and last time I was down there, she FELT that she was pregnant, so me, being in this STUPID position before, denied that she was, because of PREVIOUS ex's lying to me and bringing the whole "miscarriage" story. A little doubt in my mind also told me that the baby wasn't even mine. I went home earlier than expected, I didn't run, I just left for fear of more abuse and arguing with her. The same day I left, she went to the Clinic to get tested out. In the meanwhile, she texted and phoned my phone numerous times, but I had changed the sim card from the phone and TOLD HER THIS beforehand!
She then contacted my mother, but I knew what it was allover, she WAS pregnant. She then began to say she doesn't need me and she can do this shyt by HERSELF. From the very first day we met and time we spent together I always expressed to her, that I am not. Dependent. Needy or Relying of her in any way shape or form. . This is what usual arguements where about (Its made her CRY 99.9% of the time - me being a step back and not hogging her).
But it was strange to me, that when a girl becomes pregnant, she is meant to CLING on to the man and not become or seem like she's as hard as LEAD and go at it alone. Anyway, this made me contact her for a while, even though she will deny that I did. She was by now ALREADY going college in London, doing a course. So I had little information on anything. Her dad told me she isn't pregnant when I'd confronted him about it to flush her out of her hiding.
I then went to her college and argued with her, and asked why she had changed her Facebook relationship to "single". With a little bit of pushing and shuving, this didnt go down to well. I never ever thought she would come London a day without seeing me. She left to go back to Birmingham that same day, only to have her Dad call my phone later on.
Asking what happen between me and her, and blah blah giving me the daddy indirect threats of what will occur if anything should happen to her. I told him the reason and he said "she cant be, shes got things to do, she would've told me"- in a desperate tone. She had given him the innocent lie that she WASNT PREGNANT, making me seem out to be a BULLY. Anyhow, a week later, I went down to the college and asked to speak with her on her lunch break. She said she was getting an ABORTION, and that it was this week. I wasn't shocked, but merely bitter by the stringing along she had done and tried to make out as "woe-is-me" innocent horseshyt.
I was shocked with all the sudden answers I had gotten back from her. Millions of thoughts were streaming through my head like: "Why is she getting an abortion?, Am I even the babies dad?, why isn't she clingy all of a sudden?, why did she change her status to single?" etc etc ! My whole ego took such a king-punch. From the clingy, love-you-forever girlfriend to this all of a sudden aborting-you make me-sick, ex-girlfriend?
The night before the abortion, she txted me saying, she doesnt know if she can grow through with this bla bla and that it might be the best thing for both of us. I was silent, till the morning. I txted her back some pretty harmful crap which I shouldn't of done considering she was getting an abortion that day. It involved saying that she should perish REALLY REALLY slowly and that she was another name for a POLICE OFFICER.
I only said this over sheer anger for the lack of communication. The loyalty we once had for one another had gone missing. Of course I didn't mean those things, I think.
New to all this, just been reading some glorious posts on here for the last 2hours (English-London time) where I cannot even go to bed. This site has already intriuged me. For the last couple of weeks, now months I've been on a crash and burn mission over my Ex.
Basically, it goes like this, please be patient.
SAGA
I live in London, she lived in Birimgham (Now London), about an hour away from the capital - we met online through Myspace and Msn and got motions flowing, we kept this up for about 2 months until we finally decided to meet. She without hesistation came down to me. From the very first day we spoke over the phone, I said that I would come and surprise her at her workplace but never ever got around to do so and always had some excuse (What I was doing was actually PREPARING myself for HER for when we do finally meet e.g buying nice clothes, getting trim etc etc).
Anyways, she always said to me that she cant wait to see me and she needs to come up!....When we finally met. It was chemistry allover, even though I had been in a two previous internet-relationships that didn't work. We kissed on the first date and luckily for me, I hit it.
I had asked her if she'd done this before "sleeping with someone on the first date" - and she replied "No..but you had so much game in you and I was comfortable, if I didn't think you did and was like Erghh..I would've said at the start before you made a move, no it's too early for that" - With a small giggle. Which brings me to the now possible Q&A error. Was my girlfriend really a sket/slut or did I really have that GAME and was special?
Anyway, for about 3 months into the relationship, things where up hill&down for us (nothing crazy, just abit of TROUSER power with clubbing). She would usually travel on end of weekdays to see me and stay for the weekend or maybe a whole week or 2. She done this throughout the majority of the relationship for 5 months without any problems. During this time, 3 of her friends where having relationship problems. one was being locked in a room to one being cheated on and another being the "replacement chick".
I only met 2 of the 3 friends the (TWO) times that I went up to see her. I stayed at her mum and Dads, and had a reletively good relationship with her parents and siblings. Also, friends, but it wasnt frequent. Her friends are like linebackers, they all follow eachother into misery and love eachothers miserable company. Which was hard for me, because I was tryna be the "Nice guy" to them!
Cutting it abit short, the relationship started to get weird. I started noticing unknown numbers in her sent messages, but the sent messages would be deleted and noticed that she was speaking to some guy on Facebook. Fortunately enough me, she trusted me enough to give me her Facebook password for my own reasons (Which I didn't BEG for, but merely brang it up in a joking way as a sign of LOYALTY).
I noticed that the guy was hitting on her on the chat log, and she was playing along with it all, this is about a month into the relationship (DECEMBER). She laughed off his complimentary jokes and ended up with her Email upon request. When confronted about this, she said "It wasn't her and her friend was using her account, and that her friend was just getting back at her ex-boyfriend so shes talking to every guy now" - I made a triumph about this and accused her of being disloyal, a liar and furthermnore a cheat, because in my eyes, if you're being seduced by another man, especially Online - what makes you different or how is face-face different?
Anways, we kissed and made up bla blah bla, I guess she convinced me enough to some degree, when she BRIEFLY de-activated the whole thing uopn my request if she was telling the truth...THEN about 2weeks later. Some guy rings up. from her area..... (This wasnt a MALE FRIEND number i've heard or seen come up before)
The guy apparently asked, where he's brother is (hes missing or some crap), Then I jokingly asked whos that, so he knows im there .she says angrily and sarcastically says, "someone"!...So then I get on some foot-stamping and grab the phone from her and ask "WHO IS THIS"...the guy replies ask your girl?
Anywhoo! about 10 minutes into the verbal-phone ruckus, he says that he got her number on FACEBOOK. I then ask her whilst there and then if this is true, she says no, but that somebody from HER AREA, who knows her gave it to him.
Which I believed, because 1) I wanted to, and 2) Her area has some real freaks who get around in other peoples buisness, it's known for that city-wide! Young and Old!
Anyways...The guy said to me, he was tryna hit on her and asked me a difficult question at the time "Dont you have other chicks on your line?" I then had to proceed with locking the phone off as my girlfriend was listening. This is not to mention, the bullcrap from her Ex-man. Before we even met, she had him on her "topfriends" list on Myspace - when I asked who that was, she said that he was a friend.
When we met, he called on that very same night and I noticed the same name from Myspace, I then argued with her in a non-caring way, she then spat out the beans and cried, due to my laid backness!
Cut a LONG STORY SHORT, this girl had always wanted to come London and make "something" of herself career-wise which set her away from the rest of the yokel girls in her area and that is what attracted me. Although I always liked the idea of it being a LDR as all that nonsense, the love grows fonder!
Within 6 months, she became pregnant. The 2nd and last time I was down there, she FELT that she was pregnant, so me, being in this STUPID position before, denied that she was, because of PREVIOUS ex's lying to me and bringing the whole "miscarriage" story. A little doubt in my mind also told me that the baby wasn't even mine. I went home earlier than expected, I didn't run, I just left for fear of more abuse and arguing with her. The same day I left, she went to the Clinic to get tested out. In the meanwhile, she texted and phoned my phone numerous times, but I had changed the sim card from the phone and TOLD HER THIS beforehand!
She then contacted my mother, but I knew what it was allover, she WAS pregnant. She then began to say she doesn't need me and she can do this shyt by HERSELF. From the very first day we met and time we spent together I always expressed to her, that I am not. Dependent. Needy or Relying of her in any way shape or form. . This is what usual arguements where about (Its made her CRY 99.9% of the time - me being a step back and not hogging her).
But it was strange to me, that when a girl becomes pregnant, she is meant to CLING on to the man and not become or seem like she's as hard as LEAD and go at it alone. Anyway, this made me contact her for a while, even though she will deny that I did. She was by now ALREADY going college in London, doing a course. So I had little information on anything. Her dad told me she isn't pregnant when I'd confronted him about it to flush her out of her hiding.
I then went to her college and argued with her, and asked why she had changed her Facebook relationship to "single". With a little bit of pushing and shuving, this didnt go down to well. I never ever thought she would come London a day without seeing me. She left to go back to Birmingham that same day, only to have her Dad call my phone later on.
Asking what happen between me and her, and blah blah giving me the daddy indirect threats of what will occur if anything should happen to her. I told him the reason and he said "she cant be, shes got things to do, she would've told me"- in a desperate tone. She had given him the innocent lie that she WASNT PREGNANT, making me seem out to be a BULLY. Anyhow, a week later, I went down to the college and asked to speak with her on her lunch break. She said she was getting an ABORTION, and that it was this week. I wasn't shocked, but merely bitter by the stringing along she had done and tried to make out as "woe-is-me" innocent horseshyt.
I was shocked with all the sudden answers I had gotten back from her. Millions of thoughts were streaming through my head like: "Why is she getting an abortion?, Am I even the babies dad?, why isn't she clingy all of a sudden?, why did she change her status to single?" etc etc ! My whole ego took such a king-punch. From the clingy, love-you-forever girlfriend to this all of a sudden aborting-you make me-sick, ex-girlfriend?
The night before the abortion, she txted me saying, she doesnt know if she can grow through with this bla bla and that it might be the best thing for both of us. I was silent, till the morning. I txted her back some pretty harmful crap which I shouldn't of done considering she was getting an abortion that day. It involved saying that she should perish REALLY REALLY slowly and that she was another name for a POLICE OFFICER.
I only said this over sheer anger for the lack of communication. The loyalty we once had for one another had gone missing. Of course I didn't mean those things, I think.
