Big disrespect, how to handle

[italostud]

K well, the gf of 5 months was supposed to come over to my place this morning and spend the day. She calls around 1pm at tells me her friend out of town is sick and she has to go help her to the hospital or something. So I'm like "ok". She says she shouldn't be too long.

Finally at 11 pm I get a call and she tells me she just got in the door. I expect her to tell me to come over or she'll come over here. BUT, she says "My friends just called me to go out to a club, and I kinda said yes". Then she asks me if that's ok.

I told her I thought it was rude that she didn't call all day, basically leaving me hanging, then decides to go out with her friends when she gets home. Now I just had a talk with her about disrepecting me a couple of days ago, then she pulls this ****.

I dunno, I'm thinking 2 strikes and she's out. What do you guys think? She told me she's going to call me when she's done with her friends in a few hours, so I gotta know whether to tell her off, or what...

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by italostud
K well, the gf of 5 months was supposed to come over to my place this morning and spend the day. She calls around 1pm at tells me her friend out of town is sick and she has to go help her to the hospital or something. So I'm like "ok". She says she shouldn't be too long.

Finally at 11 pm I get a call and she tells me she just got in the door. I expect her to tell me to come over or she'll come over here. BUT, she says "My friends just called me to go out to a club, and I kinda said yes". Then she asks me if that's ok.

I told her I thought it was rude that she didn't call all day, basically leaving me hanging, then decides to go out with her friends when she gets home. Now I just had a talk with her about disrepecting me a couple of days ago, then she pulls this ****.

I dunno, I'm thinking 2 strikes and she's out. What do you guys think? She told me she's going to call me when she's done with her friends in a few hours, so I gotta know whether to tell her off, or what...

You're right that it's total BS.

Well, for one she isn't including you in anything she is doing and when you talk to her about it she basically is asking for you to be sympathetic to this fact, which is totally unfair to you.

The sad part is that she could also be screwing another guy this entire time and is trying to cover for it.

When she said that she had to go visit a friend in the hospital instead of "Ok" I would have asked "Yeah, and when are you coming back?" Don't stop inquiring until she gives you an approximate time frame in which she should be back.

When she said "I'm going to the club with a friend, is this ok?" I would have replied with "Why don't we both go together,I 'd like to meet all your friends."

If she is going with another guy she may get tounge tied trying to weasel out of that one or else she would go with you to the club.

As far as telling her off tell her that you "went out to eat somewhere with an aquaintance and that you had a real fun time that she missed out on. Shame we seem to have been missing each others company lately" or something to that effect.

 

[TurboLover]

She was cold as ice.

I wouldn't answer, why, because I will be sleeping. Does she expect you to wait for her call in the wee hours of the night.

Don't let the sh!t go unpunished. When someone tells me they are going to do something, I expect them to do it or call ahead of time. Now she has ruined your night because shes a selfish ***** who doesnt have 5 minutes to call you ahead of time, so you could as least get something else going. Let her call, if she calls more then once, that is good. Don't answer and let her stay up wondering.

Also, the whole story does sound a little funny, so don't be surprised when.....

 

[italostud]

I know I can't let this shyt continue. It's like she's testing me non-stop and playing games and shyt, even after I talked to her about it. I'm seriously fed up with this shyt. This girl isn't worth the hassle that she's putting me through.

 

[OldNumb3r7]

def not worth the trouble mang. It sounds like something funny is going on too. Lay down the law!

 

[MindOverMatter]

This girl is bad news, I'd drop her now. Believe me, that sh!t will only get worse man.

 

[italostud]

Yeah I think you guys are right.

 

[CLOONEY]

I'll tell you what is happening. Your interest level is WAY higher than hers. Guys this is an example of, "whoever has the lowest interest level wins". If you keep on nagging her and "laying down the law", her interest level will continue to deminish, while yours (as a result of hers diminishing), will continue to rise.

I doubt she is seeing anyone else, I just think you are showing WAY too much interest and she isnt that into you. Hard to swallow? Well, swallow it, cause thats whats happening.

If you get to the point where you have to give an ultimatum, you have already lost. Only thing you can do from here is to totally detatch yourself, not pretend to do it, but DO IT! Realise this girl is not long term material, and slowly you will start to beleive it. If you can do this, her interest level will probably rise. A girl like this is probably an "attention *****" and is not worth the trouble anyways. She will only scatter your head and ultimately win, because the games come naturally to her and because she is not that into you anyways.

Girlfriend of 5 months? Im sure I read you saying there was this girl you were chasing only a few weeks back?

 

[Belgium_Freak]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
I'll tell you what is happening. Your interest level is WAY higher than hers. Guys this is an example of, "whoever has the lowest interest level wins". If you keep on nagging her and "laying down the law", her interest level will continue to deminish, while yours (as a result of hers diminishing), will continue to rise.

I doubt she is seeing anyone else, I just think you are showing WAY too much interest and she isnt that into you. Hard to swallow? Well, swallow it, cause thats whats happening.

If you get to the point where you have to give an ultimatum, you have already lost. Only thing you can do from here is to totally detatch yourself, not pretend to do it, but DO IT! Realise this girl is not long term material, and slowly you will start to beleive it. If you can do this, her interest level will probably rise. A girl like this is probably an "attention *****" and is not worth the trouble anyways. She will only scatter your head and ultimately win, because the games come naturally to her and because she is not that into you anyways.

Girlfriend of 5 months? Im sure I read you saying there was this girl you were chasing only a few weeks back?

just what i was thinking. He's showing too much interest, to the point of being needy.

I'd say just ignore her for a few days, just act (be) nonchalant around her. Go and have fun WITHOUT her.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

This dood CHEATED ON THIS GIRL A FEW WEEKS AGO!!!! Of course she's going to shiat on him and not give a fuvk. And honestly I'd be surprised if she isn't looking for a replacement right now.

Drop her dood, you put yourself in this situation by cheating in the first place.



PIMP

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
This dood CHEATED ON THIS GIRL A FEW WEEKS AGO!!!! Of course she's going to shiat on him and not give a fuvk. And honestly I'd be surprised if she isn't looking for a replacement right now.

Drop her dood, you put yourself in this situation by cheating in the first place.



PIMP

If this is true, you did it to yourself. Not only that, but she's playing you back for what happened and it's working.

Generally speaking, If she would have told me 'i'll call you when i'm done with my friends' my response would have been, 'don't bother, we're done'.

 

[AFCinBC]

Right

Ok I may just be a AFC but in my eyes I'm a Don Juan but meh I just wanted to say hey? what the HELL is with these posts? I thought this was for ppl who want to improver there social life not cry? Would You give a **** about this girl if you could go out tnight and get 3 gorgeous women? **** no then drop this ***** and find one that isnt gona be a *****... I thought thats the lesson we learned here If a ***** gives you **** Drop her ass You know theres another girl out there most likely 10 times hotter and 20 times more intelligent .. IF YOU LOOK. Bah.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by italostud
I know I can't let this shyt continue. It's like she's testing me non-stop and playing games and shyt, even after I talked to her about it. I'm seriously fed up with this shyt. This girl isn't worth the hassle that she's putting me through.

Then DROP her.

If you are not enjoying spending time with a woman, WHAT reason is there to continue dating her? Tell me, I'm dying to know.

 

[MinCO]

She KNOWS you are going to tell you off...she's expecting it, anticipating it. Clearly she doesn't care. She's got you on a leash man. As a woman, I know this game and I'll tell what would get my attention real fast: If you did not react. If you did not call me. If you did not return my calls. Move on. I'd be like, "Damn. What the hell? He thinks he's too good for me? Maybe he is. $hit! I fvcked up!" and then I'd be back tracking real fast.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by MinCO
She KNOWS you are going to tell you off...she's expecting it, anticipating it. Clearly she doesn't care. She's got you on a leash man. As a woman, I know this game and I'll tell what would get my attention real fast: If you did not react. If you did not call me. If you did not return my calls. Move on. I'd be like, "Damn. What the hell? He thinks he's too good for me? Maybe he is. $hit! I fvcked up!" and then I'd be back tracking real fast.

A girl who knows her own mind

Amen

 

[HollowHorizon]

DUmp

1 Chance is all you get, You fuK up your just wasting my time..

 

[Seeph]

you did it to yourself.. but this does bring up good points for people in a situation that they didnt bring themselves into..

In order to save face don't tell the girl "it's over".. beat her at her own game and when she calls you be like "yea i gotta go help *insert girl name here* re-arrange her furniture (or something), i promised her but ill hit you up when I get done.. Then when she calls you back later say your too tired to talk and get off the phone.. if she waits to call you till the next day+ then say u didnt call cuz u were too tired ...

When girls start playing games like these it is because they want drama and emotion to come of it. But if you dont give them the luxury of hearing you get upset or respond to them negatively (like they want) dont give them any emotion..

Think of a pencil you keep sharpening and it gets shorter each time until there is nothing left.

 

[HollowHorizon]

I would just say....................


Next