Big dilemma... need some help...

[Spacebar]

Hi, I really need some help…

First let me describe the situation… I can say with no ego that I am a pretty good-looking guy, my game is not that good, but I get a respectful amount of hot chicks. I have been told many times by many girls and women, that I am hot, cute whatever… Again, not to sound like an arrogant *******, but I have even been told by a professional that I should look into modeling. I’m just being honest

Anyways… I am 18 and live at home. My best friend, lets call him Ed, lives right next door, we are both freshman in college. Ed has a younger sister, lets call her Amy. Amy is a year younger than us, a senior in high school.

Since I moved here 7 years ago I have been like in love with Amy, I am obessed with her, but I havent told a single person (you people are the first). I havent pursued anything with her because I guess I fear rejection, plus our families, are as close to family as you can get, so it would be werid and akward for anything to happen between us.

I am not really sure how she feels about me. Sometimes I think she likes me too, she always very intrested in what girls im seeing, and we have even flirted a lot on couple occansions, and a couple of her friends have even asked me how I feel about her (I gave them kinda non-desrcipt yes/no answers). But I guess to describe our relationship is more so like a good friend type deal. I never really showed my feelings for her yet...

I know Ed would be ok with it if we were together, but he proabably wouldn’t be happy for us…

So now here is the dilema…

This Friday night Amy and I have plans to go out to see a couple of our friends in a highschool play. Its just me and her. So if all goes well that night, when we get home, I was thinking about just telling her straight up in the car that I like her. I know at the moment she is nto seeing any guys and its close to Valentines day. I figure I would say somin like:

“Amy, I gotta tell you somin” “I just want you to know that I like you... a lot, I always have” then I havent really figured out what I’ll say after that…

So anways, this girl means more to me than any other girl I ever met. This is a really big deal for me. I have been stressed out the entire week.

So my question is.. Should I tell her? Should I wait? Should I not tell her at all?

And If should tell her, is this the best way to handle it?



Please, give some advice or something here, this is huge for me. Thanks!

 

[ksoileau]

No No No
Don't tell her you like her.
Assume SHE likes YOU and act accordingly.

 

[Wiesman44]

You've stuck yourself in the friend zone here, so it will be tough to get out of it. Never tell a girl you like her. It doesn't work like that and never will.

the only real thing to do is somehow create the right mood and go in for a kiss and see how she reacts. Thats about it. I can't tell you how to get it done, thats up to you.

 

[Spacebar]

yea well I never told a girl i liked her straight up before

i figured this situation is different

 

[baracus]

You almost got me! But then you wrote you've been in love with the chick for 7 years! Ha, ha, ha. I knew no one could be that much of a loser. Then you completely gave it away with ths:

Originally posted by Spacebar

“Amy, I gotta tell you somin” “I just want you to know that I like you... a lot, I always have” then I havent really figured out what I’ll say after that…

LMAO!!1 Good one, man. One of the best troll jobs yet.

 

[Spacebar]

baracus... I dont know what your talkin about

My problem is legit... plus i never said i was in love with her, i used to be, or thought i was...

anyways i dont think i am a loser, I have been with many many chicks... but with the situation its hard for me to do anything with this girl. Plus up until a couple years ago I wasnt very social, had little experience with girls, and I thought I was ugly...

*edit*

Maybe you dont understand...see, I want to be with her, but there is a ****load of problems that come with that...
She is my neighbor, I see her almost everyday. Her older brother is my best friend. Her parents are like my aunt and uncle... If it doenst work out... there just going to be a lot of drama and akwardness and **** no one wants to deal with

 

[jean laurent]

Dude, if you're serious -- with what you said, on a site like this, it does seem weird -- then I strongly advise you not to say that.

If she does like you, there are far better ways of finding out. If doesn't like you (in that sort of way), proclaiming your affection is a complete disaster.

Don't do it. Seriously.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

heres the perfect thing to do...

if all goes well... when u drop her off, make another date with her.. say ... "hey how about we see that new movie tomorrow night, i heard its really good"....

then start dating her... after ur frist date, kiss her goodnight (french).... (if the date goes well... u gotta feel if it is right)

i wouldnt tell her i like her... girls like to chase gguys...if her friends asked u about her, i would say she likes you.. or liked u at a certain time....

i hope ur not too late! GOODLUCK

 

[Fumbduck]

Whats happenin man...definatally don't tell her that you've liked her for a while; not yet at least.

I first meet this girl freshmen year of high school. She liked me, i had a little crush on her, (nothing much, but since i was a complete AFC, and pretty much scared of girls, i never did anything) so the crush came and went. I got my confidence up over time and started seeing some hotties in the school. She then moved away sophomore year and kept in touch with my group of friends. She would occasionally call me from time to time, every couple months. She would visit maybe once a year. Anyway just last spring, some five years since first meeting her, she came back to see a few people here, and told me that she has really liked me for five years, thinks of me all the time, etc, etc.

Honestly, it freaked me out and i wanted to get away from her as fast as i could!

I dont know your situation entirely, the exact details and such, but i would suggest after the play, drop her off and make another date. After the play, give her a hug, after your next date, a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Set up yet another date with her and finally go in for the kiss. See how she reacts to your advances, if its favorable, you're golden.

Best of luck to you!

-FD

 

[Spacebar]

yea ok cool guys

thanks!


i think im gonna say somin like "i had a lotta fun tonight... bla bla.. we should go out again some night... or somin like that



thanks for savin me btw

 

[torqueboxer]

OK you already have a "date" planned with her...the play. Make sure you set the tone of being more than friends with her during the time you spend with her. Drop hints before you go out to the play. For instance:

Ask her if she is going to get all dolled up for your trip to the play. "Because you expect your dates to look good"...say in a playful way. Dont let it come out arrogant. LOL

Casually ask her " So what kind of hott plans she has for v-day" ask casually so as not to get her weirded out.

And most importantly ask your buddy if he cares if you talk to his sister...dont ruin a good friendship over a girl. Some brothers are possesive of their sisters.

Remember the motto "Bros before hoes"

 

[Royal Elite]

When women say they want a man that is more action then mouth this is what they mean. A man that is more:

Mouth: Tells her I like you so much, and i need you ect.
Action man: Flirts, goes to hold her hand.
mouth man: Can I kiss you.
Action man: Kiss her.
Mouth man: So I had a nice time tonight and I, I was kind of wondering if, we could you know, if, i was just wondering ect.
Action Man: The night is still young lets go upstairs for a drink.

Dont tell her anything, you allow her to think. Do and you mike her feel. As we all know her what people think and what they feel are not always the same, and people usually go with what they feel.

Just Act like she already told you she likes on the date.