Bible Summary (= confidence booster!)

[Brains&Instinct]

DJ Bible Summary (= magic potion!)

Dear fellow DJ's,

Read through this thread and you will be pouring DJ-ideas into your brains that will constantly remind you of HOW TO BE A DJ.

Although I'm a new DJ, I've been extensively studying this site for quite some time. Especially the DJ Bible was extremely useful to me. So, to anyone who wants to become a DJ, one advice: READ THE BIBLE!!!!! That's your basis from which you can build further on.

Reading good threads (from which the Bible is composed!) gives you a confidence boost. Adrenaline flows through your veins when reading how a DJ should think, act, talk, etc. You feel like the Man sitting behind your computer, can't wait to put it into practice. But the moment you walk out that door to go into the field, you start losing the DJ-feeling. You can't remember all the good advice.

In order to practice, you should know the theory, and the theory is the Bible. When out in the street, you should have a clear overview of DJ-theory, then select a topic and practice it.
How do you get this theory in your head? By STUDYING.

So, how do you study? If you're going to college, you know you don't learn an extensive course of quantum mechanics in just one day. You should study it over and over. In order to pass your exam, you should have studied it at least three or four times, and still... Than make exercices over and over until you play with it.

The DJ Bible is an extensive and structured course of DJ-ism. Studying it over and over would take a tremendous amount of time. What do you do with such a course? You make a summary that contains the most important ideas of the course.
The result would be a compact structured list of main DJ-ideas. It would only contain about 10 pages. When you would read through it, you would be bombarded with confidence boosting truth, each line would give an impact on your mental state, remembering you "Yes! That's how a DJ is. That's how a Man is. That's how I am!!". Everything you should remember is poured into your brains at a high rate, like a magic potion giving you sudden strength (ever seen Asterix & Obelix? ).
The big advantage of this summary is that it would be compact, easy to read, structured and a quick locator of ideas in the Bible, in case you want to read more about some particular topic.

So guess what I did I read through the Bible, each day a few topics (something EVERYONE of you should have done/be doing!). While reading, I took notes of the most important ideas, advices, techniques in the text. Doing so I reduced the threads to their essence.

Now, I will be giving this summary in this thread, chapter by chapter, so the structure is conserved.
Of course, this summary reflects what I think is most important. I stress you should also read the Bible itself in order to have a more complete view.

Once you studied, you can start practicing...

Enjoy it!!!!

B&I

 

[Dirtheart]

Good tip!

I have been doing something similar and making a summary of all interesting tips from the Bible and on this board. I put them in my own words, use my own examples and I also have a list of Dos and Don'ts and a reminder of the most important things to remember before leaving the house.

Like with all forms of study, it's important to take notes and exclude the superfluous material.

I'd recommend this to everyone.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

I. Get a Boost-Up

. I am the GREAT CATCH! Think it, believe it.
. Grab your balls and do it.

. Approach: Eye contact, smile, humor, keep it light, go for the phone number.
. Face what bothers you and do something about it. Say it when someone does something that bothers

you.
. Don't fear anything. Just do it.
. Write down your weak points, then how you want to be. Set realistic goals for everyday to improve

yourself. Evaluate yourself after a while.
. Rare = valuable
. I'm the best motherf*cker there is at everything I do!

. You are a MAN:
- Passion for life, focus on your dreams
- Command respect
- Should I like HER ??
- Want to WIN
- Leader
- Solve problems
- Failure = temporary set-back from inevitable, a TEST for your manhood
- No need to prove yourself to anyone

. There's a big parade for you, you're standing on a stage, shouting: "I will win again!!!"
. Not approaching feels worse than getting rejected.
. Specialize in having FUN.
. Get up early.
. I'm a man on a mission, I'm lying the foundation for something BIG.

. Nice Guy = passive
Jerk = aggressive
I = MAN
. Rejection is an experience, shows your mistakes and errors to IMPROVE your methods.
. Getting rejected has the same outcome as not approaching.
. You can't control the woman or her answer, but you can control the act.
. We do more risky stuff than approaching and trying to get numbers, so why being afraid?

. Make a description of the woman you will marry: age, physical characteristics, education, career

goals, personality, interests, likes & dislikes, life experience, how she dealt with adversity, personal

flaws & her efforts to minimize them.
Describe what she desires from you (a MAN). In order to meet each other, improve yourself to meet her

requirements. Develop a self-improvement regimen. You will become a Man. Then you will meet her.
. FEAR = evil energy trying to intimidate you and enslave you. Stand up to it and it will disappear.
The moment it holds you back from doing something, be strong and pull forward.
. 3 keys to DJhood: - You = MALE; She = FEMALE -> don't hide you're your sexuality.
- You are FUN. Focus on the game instead of on her or the outcome
(lose focus on fun = lose the girl). Do ACTION DATES !
- You are the PRIZE TO BE WON, the GREAT CATCH.
. It goes better every time, after a while you start to see the fundamentals.
. Buried alive: Relax lying in bed, you're in your coffin on your own funeral, you're alive. You can't

move. Loved ones pass by. Think of all women you never spoke to out of FEAR. Feel your regrets, how they

weigh on your life. There's nothing you can do about it. Fear of rejection controlled your existence. FEEL

THE PAIN. Cry silently. You can't take it anymore… BURST OUT of your coffin, SCREAM, BREATHE. Write down

things you'll no longer accept in life. RAISE YOUR STANDARDS.
. KINO! Touch subtly now and then. When shaking hands w/ girl, hold a bit longer, smile, look in her

eyes, thinking: "I can make love to you like you've never been loved before!"

. "COURAGE is being scared to death, and saddling up anyway."
Go for the goal! If you miss, there will always be another shot.
. Change your perspective. Things you fear are actually FUN!
. The position of YOUR WOMAN is not for the first the best girl. Be a challenge!
. 6 critical points:
- Keep your power to yourself. Face fear internally, handle the worst case
scenario, then take ACTION.
- Manage your emotions, otherwise fear rises and you act unnatural. Use
tricks to chill.
- There are only few key moments (where you take action and risk
rejection): approach, # request, date request, date, kino, kiss, alone in
private, make out, clothes off, sex.
- Appearance.
- Communication skills, voice tone, personality: low, calm voice; no
nervous ticks; HUMOR.
- Try and DON'T GIVE UP. Try new things.
. Everything you do to push your boundaries is a SUCCES!

. You only improve by personal experience.
Basics: - Love yourself.
- Respect yourself -> you will gain respect from others.
- Work on it until it comes naturally. Focus on it.
In a conversation: LISTEN and talk about HER.
Humor involves timing.
. Be in CONTROL. This will give you CONFIDENCE.
. Use the answer "Nothing I can't handle."

 

[Brains&Instinct]

Thanks Dirtheart!

I think becoming a DJ is all about self-development and is a life-long work. And by 'work' I really mean WORK. The discovery of this site was one of the greatest revelations in my personal life. I really found lots of answers to issues I have been dealing with. So keep it up!

B&I

 

[Brains&Instinct]

II. Nice Guy vs. Jerk

. Passivity, boredom and lack of self-confidence KILL YOU. Show PASSION. Don't be afraid to disagree.

Don't ask permission.
. Women go after men that make them feel the best.
. Sh*t theory: Girls are like a$$holes. Introduce DRAMA in their lives.
. Be a jerk for one day. Never say "please, thank you, hello, goodbye". If you get insulted or

rejected, say something rude. HAVE FUN.
. Be nice to other people but not to her. She thinks you = a$$hole, then she hears from someone else

you're great.
. Make her laugh while being arrogant.

. Practice eye contact. If someone looks at you, look back. If they don't look away, ask if you can

help with anything.
While passing a girl: smile, go about your business. If she looks longer than necessary, introduce yourself.

NEVER look down (= sign of submission)!
. DON'T say "I don't know, what do you want to do?" It is SUICIDE!!!!!
. Don't let her get away with trying to take advantage of you. Make it known that you will not

tolerate it. YOU ARE TO BE RESPECTED!
. Kino: lightly, lightly, lightly!
. Have an OPINION on everything, even the smallest things.
Have more than one option.
Tease her, have fun. It leads easily to kino!
Don't be always available. Let her MISS YOU.
. See the woman you want. Approach her. TESTOSTERONE!
You get rejected. You become angry and frustrated. You try again with much less awkwardness.
Imitation = suicide.
Do action dates.
A MAN IS ONE WHO IS NOT AFRAID OF HIS TESTOSTERONE.
You are a Man.
. It's ok to feel sexual about her.
. Don't take yourself so seriously.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

III. Peoples' experiences

. Not everyone is worth dating.
Be friend with her friends.
. In club. Intro (she gives her name). Talk 5-6 min. Pause (< 5 seconds) -> get off to other people.

Come back later to get the number.
If she didn't give her name, ask about her friend. Don't ask number. Get off again.
. Every girl you meet is PRACTICE.
. Think on your feet.

. In club. Motion for her to come over to you. You are then in control.
. You don't need anyone. Develop YOURSELF.

. In club. Make your presence known. Move through club like you're on a mission. YOU'RE THE MAN. Take

what you want and have no regrets.

. Limit your availability.
Don't allow her to come back upon her decisions.
. If she doesn't show interest, MOVE ON! Don't waste time/money on her. There are other girls more

worth it.
. On date. Don't rush things sexually. Don't try kissing if time/place feel awkward.
End the date yourself before she does.

. Forget the women from your past.
. Don't ask her to be exclusive. SHE must ask YOU.
. Keep them guessing.

. Use HER NAME often.
. Say it if she does something you don't like.

. Stick to your game.

. Date lots of women at the same time.
. Talk to people you vaguely know. Go out. Socialize. Act like the HOST.
. Feel really good about yourself.
. Eye contact. Big, confident, ****y smile. Wave. If she waves back -> approach.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

IV. Now get the right attitude

. Treat all women the same.
. Make her feel special.
. Eye contact. Think: I'm confident, attractive, interesting, a fun person to be with. I'm a

challenge. I'm controlling the situation.
. Look good all the time.
. I am a man and can choose without hesitating too much.
. When fear pops up. I will solve the problem right away. There's no problem I can't take. I'll deal

with it. I don't fear problems.
Fear is a ghost in my body so I can control it.
. Accept a rejection. Bounce back and try again.
. Don't get upset with women when rejected. It's part of Nature. Learn from it and go on.

. I don't need women. They're at the bottom of my list. They take away from my time. Why do they throw

themselves at me?
Why do they want me so bad? Because I'm one of the few who can give them what they truly want.
Smiling at her will make her feel happy. I could use some of my busy schedule to talk to her. She'll feel

like a star.
. Play hard to get.
She's more interested in you than you in her.
She would be lucky to be with you.
Don't do what they expect you to do.
Don't talk about yourself, but about HER.
She should suspect that you are seeing other women as well as her.
. Look like you have a secret that no one will ever know but you -> Confidence & Mystery.
. Be patient. On first dates women just want to have FUN.
Throwing affection too soon = desperation.
Patience = controlling your eagerness.
If they say hello, greet back but go about your business. Don't stop what you're doing.

. KNOW that you can get any chick. KNOW that you are the best. Respect yourself.
. Desperate = worthless.
Dignity and pride = valuable.
. Make it AUTOMATIC to approach and ask for her number. Every time.
. Don't ASK her to join you. Say you're going and she's welcome to join you. You would like her

company, but you DON'T NEED IT.
. Know that you are a Don Juan. Be creative in your approach.
Have goals.
Make each day a Masterpiece.
Don't give in to fear.


. Socializing.
Talk about a topic that all can relate to and enjoy.
Talk around her in a group, find connections with her friends.
Mutual friends -> enter their conversation. Don't pay too much attention to her.
As smaller circles form, try to be in hers. Still talk around her. Be patient.
Eventually just you two. Keep patience. Be relaxed.
. The goal in life is PLEASURE. Be selfish to obtain this goal. It involves giving pleasure in order

to receive it.
. Respect yourself.
Get respect from others.
Respect others.
Respect must be EARNED.
. Do NOT TOLERATE any disrespectful behavior towards you.
. Real strength & confidence:
Remain calm in a crisis.
Don't feel the need to prove yourself to anyone.
Seek to solve problems instead of blaming others.
Problems & setbacks = necessary steps to greater success in the future.
. CONFIDENCE:
Challenge yourself physically.
Dress for success.
Dare to fail.
When in doubt, pretend you know what you're doing.
Physiology of confidence. STAND TALL. Walk like you own the place. Smile.
Watch what you eat.
Listen to yourself.
Don't put yourself down. Highlight your positive attributes.
Get in touch with your dreams and ambitions. PASSION = CONFIDENCE.

. Don't need women. There are other more important and funny things in life.
. Expect to succeed 100% every time.
. I am the CARING GUY who TAKES NO SH!T. Weed out every sign of disrespect.
. First few dates: focus on FUN. Not too serious, sexual, romantic, …
Do things slightly different from the norm. She'll remember it.
End the date before she does, when things are still going well.
. Girls put you in a category the first time they see you: ‘Worthy', ‘Friend' or ‘Looser'.

. Approaching a woman is just making a new friend. Flirting is not a relationship.
. SELF-RESPECT!!!

. The perfect Don Juan:
# at FIRST meeting.
Home number (gsm), otherwise walk away.
Call after > 4 days. She must wait.
Date: only once a week. You are busy.
No flowers, no cards, … the first two months (only birthday).
Phone-time < 20 min.
First three months, tell NOTHING about yourself. She has to ask. Give info in tiny pieces.
She has to say "I love you" first. Don't say it before two months.
Don't live with her. Be free. Marry the best.
Focus on romantic side. No long talks (-> friendship). She must wonder, want. You are a mystery.
50% of the time she does what YOU want.

. Improve yourself. Add chicks to the list.
If she shows interest, go get it!
Don't whine if some girl didn't call.
Don't worry about her reaction, thoughts, … it's beyond our control.
Never apologize for your actions. Learn the lesson and move on.
Learn to let go.
Be the man. Take as much charge as you can. Don't dwell on mistakes. Keep your cool @ all times.
. If you're rejected, you improved yourself. So you're even more the big catch and free to carry on.

. Patience: enjoy every minute of your life. Control your thoughts.
Perseverance: keep trying. You will succeed.
Confidence.
. Don't care what the chick thinks. It's all about YOU, about your fun.
You ARE quality. You WANT quality.
. Don't worry about ‘what she's trying to say'.

. Prepare yourself physically and mentally.
. Concentrate on the SITUATION and not on the outcome.
Go with the flow. Enjoy life and simply BE.
. I don't give a fvck.
Be patient, be controlled. A hunter's traits.
You're the Man. It's your job to create the reality you would like.
Don't give a fvck about your environment.
Don't let others define you.
Don't let your EMOTIONS define you. Control them.
The only time where you have a say in is NOW. Don't rush.
. Listen to your instincts.
. Face your fear.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

V. Some things about attraction

. First show what you have to offer. Then withdraw it and show no more attention.
. Your mood affects your surroundings. Be happy and they will like to be around you.
. Look at other people, learn from them, their personalities. You'll become socially rounded.
. Scan the scene for info to guide your actions.
. Enter conversations gracefully.
. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS. Think positive.
. If you don't like what she did/said, say it with firm voice in an ‘I' statement.
. Be funny. Don't take life too seriously.

. Seduction:
- Have a plan when approaching.
- Be honest about what you want.
- Be patient. Be confident about your approach.
- Look in her EYES, not at her breasts.
- Body language: use your eyes, lips, …
- Have a stimulating convo. Be original. No compliments about her body.
- Look good.
- Appear friendly & approachable. Smile. Humor.
- Project confidence, good looks, intellect, charm.
- Look in her eyes. Stimulate her mind. Laugh at her jokes. Show there are other things on your mind

than sex.
. Clothes: comfortable, some color, clean.
. Be unique, not the boring guys she meets every day.
. HUMOR: - Observe, the world is full of funny stuff !
- Watch news, use vocabulary.
- Be specific.
- Be happy.
- Do the unexpected.
. CHARISMA: - Show initiative. Jump at every occasion useful to you.
- Make others laugh.
- Don't get offended easily, but don't stand for abuse from others.
- You are the convo.
- Ask open-ended questions.
- Don't hesitate when you see an opportunity to be witty.

. Smiling makes happy.
. Don't know what to talk about? Use humor!
. Like yourself.
Be an optimistic man with balls.
Get a life. Get tough. Be independent. See the humor in things.
. Use your eyes.

. If she plays games, walk away.
. Don't chase girls. Become so freaking amazing you make them want you.


. Stop calling her.
Be seen with as many girls as possible.
SMILE.
In clubs, enjoy the ATMOSPHERE instead of druling over chicks' breasts.
Do something that scares you every day.
Laugh at girls, don't say you're sorry.
Learn to flirt and enjoy it.
Don't try to understand women. Just go on with YOUR thing.
Always have an opinion about everything. Don't let other people change it. They are wrong.
. KINO
Initiate the kino. Test the girl for her reaction.
@ first, almost imperceptible, subtle, casual, on subconscious level.
If positive reaction, get bolder with time. She must initiate sexual touches.
Increase frequency, move closer.
If you are comfortable touching each other -> sexual kino (bruch by, …)
SMILE. EYE CONTACT. KINO. KILLER INSTINCT. DONE DEAL.
Do kino on every girl you meet/know.
Reversed kino: stop kino, she'll miss it and initiate it double as hard.
. Eye contact: 75% of the time. Smile. Light head tilt.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

VI. Conversations: Learn how to talk

. "Hi, what's your name?"
"My name is <name>."
give hand + "Nice to meet you, <name>." (hand slightly upward, not too long)
(give compliment)
kino as soon as possible

. Create rapport. Ask about her background. Make you seem similar to her.
. Talk about feelings.
Agree with her complaining about stuff. Listen.
Stick to one subject for a while. Don't change subjects too quickly.
Rephrase her & feed it back.
Look for topics in what she says.
Open up her answer.
Play mind games.
Make negative remark. Then say you're just kidding.
. Make her respond emotionally.
Keep her in the dark. Don't reveal anything about you and your feelings about her.
Keep her on her toes, uncertain whether she has a hold on you. You can walk away at any moment.
It's my way or the highway.
Treat her like anyone else.
Don't be too available (once a week). Don't tell her you love her. Show borderline disinterest.
Create friction -> drama -> excitement -> emotions -> feelings.
Don't give in. She'll be addicted, can't take it anymore, can't leave you, hates you.
She desperately wants to be validated. A void that must be filled.
Start to show affection, love, respect. She earned it.
. Crook your arm.
. Listen & understand:
Paraphrasing.
Experience relating.
Preference relating.
Delayed follow-up questioning.

. Don't tell about yourself, only if she asks. Tell no details.
. Be interested.
Listen and understand.
Intrigue her. Ask daring and silly questions.
Ask her opinions.
Have fun!
Only come in when you need to. Keep it rolling.
. Open & closed-ended questions.
Assumptive questioning.
. (first encounter) Say something relating to the situation, look in her eyes & smile.
Say it like you already know her.
. Never bring up your negative past. Accentuate the positive.

. First call: Between Sunday (best) and Wednesday. In the evening. Never next day. Before
three weeks. In the week you want to get with them.
Don't call on the day she tells you to.
Don't say you'll call her.
. "I need to get going, let me give you a call. What's your number?"
. Assume that she will respond positively. Conviction in your eyes and tone of voice.
. SEX: Put her in relaxed mood.
Initiate topic of sex. Ask her about her favorite stuff. Tell what you like.
If good response -> "Hypothetical question, if you and I had sex, would it be good?"
If rather positive response: "Why not find out?" "What do you have to lose?"
"Try once. If you don't like it, I'll never ask you again." (with smile, look in her eyes).

 

[rjherche]

Maybe we should just make this an appendix to the bible?

 

[Diggs]

Absolutly amazing post. I am going to read this whever i go out.

Cudo, and thank you

 

[biblioscholar]

Great tip!.Keep up the good work.

 

[Slimijs]

Great bible summary. 5 starts

 

[Tai]

You dont even need the DJ bible when u got this post really... all the important quote is here!

AWSOME JOB, am bookmarking this post for future slumps.

 

[gav]

bump

well done for taking the time to do this

i also think it should be added as an appendix to the bible

 

[Brains&Instinct]

Thanks guys!

 

[comic_relief]

excellent

 

[DJ_Dork]

just remember that some of these DJ tactics do not work on all girls, some of the stuff here is crap... and stupid kiddy games.

 

[Brains&Instinct]

DJ_Dork, This advice is intended to change the way you think about yourself and about the world (including women). It's not simply a list of tricks or so. It's about how a man behaves naturally and that leads to success in all areas, not only dating. It's far more deep-going than you seem to think.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Five Stars!

You must have spent a lot of time doing the summary.

That was helpful!

Thanks!