First of all, please understand, that rather or not you hit on a girl that is already "taken" is purely up to eacn DJ.. it's not a rule, you are not wrong if you do, and you aren't stupid if you pass them up.
That is probably the one thing that errks me about this board more than anything.
If it's my belief that it's okay, than damnit it's okay.. just like if it was your belief in say, Buddahism, who am I to **** on what you believe in?
With that said now i can move on to providing a half ass decent answer to this post.
Okay, the idea of "BF Destroyers" is a silly concept at least to me..
Am I the only person this sounds silly to? A woman has a man she is perfectly happy with, but 1 or two memorized lines is going to make her drop her man to **** you?
You can't be serious?
Girl: "I have a BF.. he is good looking, can cook, makes 200k a year, and has a 10 inch ****"
Man: "BF Destroyer"
Girl: "you know what.. so what my BF has a **** the size of a footlong subway sanwitch, and do things to me in bed you couldn't dream of, and so what he makes 1/5th a million dollars a year, it's only money right? and so what he is great looking and can cook.. I think I will risk all of that to have a fling with you"
What are the odds of that happening?
Not very high.
People seem to forget that they are not gaming up machines that are going to give you a certain response when you do a certain action, they are gaming human beings...
With that said, women with BF's come in three different types basically..
a) 100% happy (or in the honeymoon stage of the relationship)
b) Happy, but knows or thinks she can do better.. wont' cheat on her BF with anyone but if a better opprotuntiy presents itself...
c) Can't wait for a guy to get her ***** wait and get set out, the more dramatic the better
Now... you have no chance with girls in the first catagory. None.
However, cat A is probably the less rarest of the three.. very very few women are very happy with their men, because well.. there aren't very many men out there.. there are Males.. lot's of them.. 49% of earth has males on it.. not very many MEN however.
Most women are in the Cat B. most have a guy that doesn't make them happy.. but "he will do" and He "isn't al that bad". Good enough to say 'i have a BF" when any jerk or unattractive guy that doesn't do it for you tries to game you up (i.e this situtation) but don't get it twisted.. if she can do better she will.
The mistake most guys make, is when they hear the word BF, they get flustered and go into some type of panic attack or damage control, trying all types of tricks and gagets to influence her to leave her man for you, or even worse, try to tell her her man isn't ****.. which she probably already knows.
Or EVEN Worse than that.. giving up.
I have said it at leat 20 times on this forum.. I have a BF and NO are two totally different things, not even in the same park.. hell, I"m MARRIED and NO are not the same thing.. If that were the case, I wouldn' thave a little brother now and I wouldn't have had a woman married for 5 years, taking it from 3 different guys while she was "out with the girls" one night
The human mind is too much to try to understand.. so don't.. all you can understand and know is yourself.
I will come back to this..
The woman in Cat C you actually want to stay away from, the ones that are with a man just because she doesn't like being single.. I don't even **** them. they don't even have enough respect for their man or themselves to be honest with their partner, enough to say I don't have any feelings for you at all.
I don't **** em because in my past experiences, they tend to be very very clingy after the fact.
Now back to my point.
The BEST way to handle it when a Girl says something about her BF, is to just ignore it.
What most guys don't get is they think they are fooling women when they meet a girl or woman in the mall and strike up a converstaion about say.. the weather... they know what your goal is.. it's usually the men or man or better yet, MALE, that ends up fooling himself.
He gets so far off of what he wants, he looses the battle.
It's okay to let a oman know you want her.. you'd be suprised how much smoother things flow from that standpoint.
I mean, don't gauck at them or make them feel umcomoftable, but at the same time, don't deny your intentions.
If you find her attractive, it's okay to let her know, not necessary by saying it, but let her see it in your eyes and with your body language...
anyway like I was saying, if a woman says she has a BF, that doesn't mean a damn thing. Nothing.
Now if she says she "loves" her BF, it's time to move on.. she has not only mentioned she loves her BF, she mentioned her feelings for him, which are love
Better said, because I don't like being technical.. a woman will let you know what to do, because it's natrual.. it's one of most natural things we as humans do.
Like I said I had a woman that was married for 5 years. Oh she told me she was married, but at the same time, I wasn't even trying to mess around with her, I was actually talking to one of her friends... she kept talking to me and going out of her way to talk to me, and I knew she liked me.. even then I never brought up her husband. Then one day she mentioned she was having some problems with her husband and she needed to start "getting out more".. i ****ed her that night.
Women aren't hard to understand, we over complicate things
