Better Deal down the Road Theory

[apvcovenman_79]

BETTER DEAL DOWN THE ROAD THEORY

Do we men always have to feel that there might be someone 'better' may be in the 'near' 'future'?

Have you guys been with a girlfriend for a while and you ****ed her quite often, and you start looking at other women , till she feels you do not love her anymore and she dumps you... you do not give a damn at the moment but months later you say to yourself "WHY IN THE NAME OF HEAVENS DIDN'T YOU TREAT HER RIGHT?...SHE WAS A GREAT WOMAN ! "



why do that happen?

 

[Jet Jockey]

I can tell you are obviously missing a woman, whom you have been with previously.

Heres the deal. That better things down the road theory, is essential!

Why? Because guess what? we all screw up. We all take a chance that we had and do something wrong, thats how we learn. Thats how we improve!

Woman have the same theory. In fact, they will throw BS at ya like "if it's meant to be it will be".. or another famous one, "if you love something set it free......

Thats their way of saying, they can live without you, and they are always looking. If they find better, they are gone. If you are the best, sometimes they are still gone.

So use this theory to your advantage. After all YOU are the prize not them! Most women in my experience are spoiled little bytches, who get what they want, because there are enough guys out there, that will play if just to get the puzzy. That gives them power and control ( a bad combination) if it goes to their head....and lots of guys let it.

look at it this way. You are shopping for a car. You test drive one, it looks sweet. You go to turn a corner and the trunk lid flys open! So you take it back. You test drive another then another stuff going wrong each time. You don't buy any of those. Then you find that sweet ride. It gives you no trouble, its built solid, not to expensive. Which one do you buy? Women are like that. Don't sucker to the flawed one. They all take "maintenance". You'd be changing oil etc no matter what right? At the next car lot or on the next date, you'll be soooo glad you didn't just "buy" cuz you needed a ride. You are looking for quality, longetivity, and something worth the payments. Get it????

 

[apvcovenman_79]

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Originally posted by Jet Jockey
I can tell you are obviously missing a woman, whom you have been with previously.

Heres the deal. That better things down the road theory, is essential!

Why? Because guess what? we all screw up. We all take a chance that we had and do something wrong, thats how we learn. Thats how we improve!

Woman have the same theory. In fact, they will throw BS at ya like "if it's meant to be it will be".. or another famous one, "if you love something set it free......

Thats their way of saying, they can live without you, and they are always looking. If they find better, they are gone. If you are the best, sometimes they are still gone.

So use this theory to your advantage. After all YOU are the prize not them! Most women in my experience are spoiled little bytches, who get what they want, because there are enough guys out there, that will play if just to get the puzzy. That gives them power and control ( a bad combination) if it goes to their head....and lots of guys let it.

look at it this way. You are shopping for a car. You test drive one, it looks sweet. You go to turn a corner and the trunk lid flys open! So you take it back. You test drive another then another stuff going wrong each time. You don't buy any of those. Then you find that sweet ride. It gives you no trouble, its built solid, not to expensive. Which one do you buy? Women are like that. Don't sucker to the flawed one. They all take "maintenance". You'd be changing oil etc no matter what right? At the next car lot or on the next date, you'll be soooo glad you didn't just "buy" cuz you needed a ride. You are looking for quality, longetivity, and something worth the payments. Get it????

hard to have a g/f and be always looking for a better deal ...how you do that ?

 

[Jet Jockey]

If you have a girl friend right now..ask yourself these questions.

Is she LTR Material? Why is she with you? Does she have any fatal bad qualities such as lieing, or cheating etc. If she doesn't have any bad qualities that you shouldn't have to deal with, and she is LTR materail, and she is with you, because She really cares for you, then stay with her.

I don't know how long you guys have been together. There is a diffrence between 2 years and 2 months.

The better things down the road theory, is a option. It gives you a option, should a woman start being flaky with you. I just went thru a ordeal like that. Loved her to death... but she met a guy at a party she knew and hadn't seen, and is now being obsessed with being his "friend". Hell, i work weekends, and he is going to be spending fri, and sat night with her. I told her no way she could do that, she pulled the jealousy card, accused me of being jealous. He's kissed her already. He is trying to bed her, and I know it. I can't force her to do the right thing here, but I told her what she needs to do if she wants our relationship to stay healthy. She won't listen. This guy is trouble. Up until all of this I thought she was "The one".

So Now I have the option to find someone better. Not every chick would pull that shyt. I broke it off with her. It hurt, and it killed, and it made me feel miserable...but I didn't let her know that. I'm sure she won't have as fun a time wih this dude now, cuz she is calling and crying on my answer machine. I know I sound cold hearted to Just end it, but it was the right thing to do. She was disrespecting me! Now i have two choices... I can sit here, and whack off all day, or I can go find a chick that can be more sensible. ...There are better things down the road!

As for your case, ask yourself if she is LTR material. If she ain't then why waste your time? If she is forge ahead with her, but keep a eye on things. Sometimes a chicks abberant behavior don't pop up until later in the relationship. At which point, you will have to address it or become a victim. Have a great day!!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by apvcovenman_79
BETTER DEAL DOWN THE ROAD THEORY

Do we men always have to feel that there might be someone 'better' may be in the 'near' 'future'?

Have you guys been with a girlfriend for a while and you ****ed her quite often, and you start looking at other women , till she feels you do not love her anymore and she dumps you... you do not give a damn at the moment but months later you say to yourself "WHY IN THE NAME OF HEAVENS DIDN'T YOU TREAT HER RIGHT?...SHE WAS A GREAT WOMAN ! "



why do that happen?

This happens for one of two reasons.

- Either the guy sells himself short and settles by dating any woman that shows any interest in him.
OR
- He has NO idea about what he is specifically looking for in a woman and he meets someone, notices some good points that he can live with but wonders if there is anyone better. If he first had a very specific list of traits he wants in a woman, he could easily decide if she has enough for him to be satisfied. Without it he's just another confused AFC.

 

[chlywly]

lol yeah hehe happens all the time to <- Basicly just means she's not right for you, for soon as you find someone who is there shouldn't be any question.

 

[apvcovenman_79]

Re: Re: Better Deal down the Road Theory

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
This happens for one of two reasons.

quote:
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"Do not be too timid or unsure about your actions. All life is an experiment. --Emerson"
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Damn I like that quote man !!!

 

[Starman]

I think most men (especially younger ones) Know deep down in their psyche that the girl they are with (even if its a LTR), they KNOW the statistical chances of marrying this girl and having kids and a picket fence is pretty SLIM

That can explain their carelessness in a relationship and laid back attitude

When I was having a rocky relationship one time, my uncle told me "aww dont worry, you will have about 12 more relationships like these before you finally settle down"

he basically said straight out what I KNEW in the back of my mind


Women on the otherhand are a bit more delusional in the sense that EVERY guy they meet, they believe will be the father of their children and eternal love

So women are a bit more picky about what they want in a guy, and usually have a toilet paper roll size list of "wants" in a guy

ya gotta just enjoy the PRESENT with the people/women you spend your time with, but knowing REALISTICALLY that this wont be the woman that is going to bear your children

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: Re: Better Deal down the Road Theory

Originally posted by apvcovenman_79
Damn I like that quote man !!!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Re: Re: Re: Better Deal down the Road Theory

Originally posted by apvcovenman_79
Damn I like that quote man !!!

Thanks, I'll take credit for reading it

Just search the for quotes by Emerson or Thoreau. Surprisingly you will notice much of them can be applied to the mindset of DJs.

 

[Ricky]

So true, I get burnt out on DJing for this reason. It is like an unending quest and all the while i still date my LTR of 2 years while I have met so many others...

 

[NewMan]

The grass is greener on the otherside of the fence syndrome...

It happens to everyone - whY?

because we get bored eating the same old pizza everyday... And we think - wow I bet being with her would be better.

Sure the new puss is exciting because it's new.... but, sometimes you realize what your missing...

the

I don't realize what I had until it was gone.


Lots' of things here.

 

[apvcovenman_79]

HOME phone number for life

Originally posted by Ricky
So true, I get burnt out on DJing for this reason. It is like an unending quest and all the while i still date my LTR of 2 years while I have met so many others...

asking for NEW home phone numberS ... from now on eventhough with a g/f will be ON MY DNA ...... PEACE BROTHERS

 

[violator]

You are pretty much describing what psychologists call the Oddeseus Complex after the Greek traveler/adventurer.

Basically men like to travel the world and exprience all kinds of shyt before settling down with one woman. It is perfectly normal and accounts for the high rate of infidelity among young married couples.

And, it is not confined to men. I see women who marry young or with little relationship experience fall prey to this. They "fall in love" with the first man they have a relationship with and sooner or later they realize that there are "better" men out there and end up cheating on their spouses.

I say more power to you. Go out there and exprience what the world has to offer without hesitation or guilt. In fact, I wish I had the same mind set before I got married when I was 26 years old only to divorce seven years later. I failed to follow my father's advice when he told me that the best age for marriage for a man is 40 years old. Unfortunately, too many people get married having not exprienced what is out there.

For women it is somewhat different. Societal and cultural pressures as well as biological necessity cause many women to marry early and with men that are unsuitable, hence infidelity and high divorce rates.

 

[apvcovenman_79]

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Originally posted by Starman



Women on the otherhand are a bit more delusional in the sense that EVERY guy they meet, they believe will be the father of their children and eternal love

So women are a bit more picky about what they want in a guy, and usually have a toilet paper roll size list of "wants" in a guy

EVERY guy they meet ? ...do not think so ...how about the professional dater ?
and other psycho women ?