Exactly why do you want to get a woman's phone number?
It's like putting her on layaway: "I don't have time to bang you within the next hour, because I'm gonna be at home jerking off, so if you could just give me your phone number..."
I understand that it's often necessary to get a number, like, if one of you is working, or legitimately busy at the time. Or if you're a sweetheart sensitive guy who doesn't want a woman he can talk into bed in an hour....
But come on, you want to fvck her, and you want to fvck her now. Go with that. Quit trying to collect phone numbers, and work on getting laid. I'm not that smooth anymore and I have a lot to re-learn, but when I was the cl!t commander, I rarely went for a phone number, unless one of us was just so busy we couldn't drop everything for a quick fvck.
Pick a time when you have free time. Find a woman that has free time, most of them do, even when they think they don't. If you're not attracting them, then they're busy. Hit them with some sexual energy and frickin' masculinity, and tell them you'd like to continue this conversation with them at your place while watching a DVD, or over some chamomile tea or whatever. Or first get a change of venue, like to a coffee shop. Then take her home.
If she's not going for that, then maybe you can get the number. At least now she knows you want her and you're not pretending you want to converse with her about 18th century pine-cone art.
But just chatting with her and asking for her number, even telling her you want it or whatever, is wimpy. You're a man. You don't want her number, you want her pu$$y. And yes, there have been times I've told a woman exactly that, and got it.
Look at it like this: If you're at your friend's house and you're thirsty, you say, "I'm gonna grab a glass of water, okay?" You don't ask him if you can come by later to get one, and you don't engage in a long conversation full of boring small-talk in order to prime him for when you ask permission to drink. You don't tell him you'll call him later for that glass of water. If he tells you the plumbing's broken and you can't have any of his water, no big deal, you'll go somewhere else. Water is everywhere.
Now, if you're stranded in the desert and dying of thirst, and your worst enemy is standing nearby with a bottle of water, you're going to have to do some negotiating. You might have to beg. If he tells you he'll think about it, so you should call him later, then get his number.
That's what a guy would do if he really needed something, if he doesn't get anywhere near enough of it. If there's plenty of it, and he assumes he's going to get it whether or not it comes from you, then he'll state what he wants, and if you're going to make him dance for it, he'll walk away and go somewhere else.
In the first situation, you're in control. In the second, the other person is. Getting a woman's number so you can fvck her later, assuming it's perfectly feasible to fvck her now, is giving her the power. Make sure that if you do finally get together, to ask her for your balls back.
It's like putting her on layaway: "I don't have time to bang you within the next hour, because I'm gonna be at home jerking off, so if you could just give me your phone number..."
I understand that it's often necessary to get a number, like, if one of you is working, or legitimately busy at the time. Or if you're a sweetheart sensitive guy who doesn't want a woman he can talk into bed in an hour....
But come on, you want to fvck her, and you want to fvck her now. Go with that. Quit trying to collect phone numbers, and work on getting laid. I'm not that smooth anymore and I have a lot to re-learn, but when I was the cl!t commander, I rarely went for a phone number, unless one of us was just so busy we couldn't drop everything for a quick fvck.
Pick a time when you have free time. Find a woman that has free time, most of them do, even when they think they don't. If you're not attracting them, then they're busy. Hit them with some sexual energy and frickin' masculinity, and tell them you'd like to continue this conversation with them at your place while watching a DVD, or over some chamomile tea or whatever. Or first get a change of venue, like to a coffee shop. Then take her home.
If she's not going for that, then maybe you can get the number. At least now she knows you want her and you're not pretending you want to converse with her about 18th century pine-cone art.
But just chatting with her and asking for her number, even telling her you want it or whatever, is wimpy. You're a man. You don't want her number, you want her pu$$y. And yes, there have been times I've told a woman exactly that, and got it.
Look at it like this: If you're at your friend's house and you're thirsty, you say, "I'm gonna grab a glass of water, okay?" You don't ask him if you can come by later to get one, and you don't engage in a long conversation full of boring small-talk in order to prime him for when you ask permission to drink. You don't tell him you'll call him later for that glass of water. If he tells you the plumbing's broken and you can't have any of his water, no big deal, you'll go somewhere else. Water is everywhere.
Now, if you're stranded in the desert and dying of thirst, and your worst enemy is standing nearby with a bottle of water, you're going to have to do some negotiating. You might have to beg. If he tells you he'll think about it, so you should call him later, then get his number.
That's what a guy would do if he really needed something, if he doesn't get anywhere near enough of it. If there's plenty of it, and he assumes he's going to get it whether or not it comes from you, then he'll state what he wants, and if you're going to make him dance for it, he'll walk away and go somewhere else.
In the first situation, you're in control. In the second, the other person is. Getting a woman's number so you can fvck her later, assuming it's perfectly feasible to fvck her now, is giving her the power. Make sure that if you do finally get together, to ask her for your balls back.