Best Way to Respond to Insults?

[SamMalone]

What's the best way? Sitting there and laughing with it? Yelling at the guy insulting you? Insulting him back? I always laugh alone with it, which avoids confrontation, but sometimes I feel like a tool for allowing myself to keep getting insulted.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You have to turn it around on them. Do you have any specific insults in mind?

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Shoot for a double leg, mount, armbar him.

 

[Docs]

Depends on the insult. Some are just lame and don't require any thought past walking away. There's a such thing as respect, if they go low, leave them hanging on their own words.

 

[SamMalone]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
You have to turn it around on them. Do you have any specific insults in mind?

Not really. Something like being called a "F****** Idiot" because of a bad decision you made maybe, but the guy is only saying it to be funny to others around us, not to hurt me intentionally.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Originally posted by SamMalone
Not really. Something like being called a "F****** Idiot" because of a bad decision you made maybe, but the guy is only saying it to be funny to others around us, not to hurt me intentionally.

If you do something and mess up, and someone feels the need to call you an idiot just say something like this:

"well.... at least I had the balls to try it."

then walk away. There's nothing they can say that'll make it worse cause you just let it roll off of you like it's nothing. That's quiet confidence.

 

[Adone]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
If you do something and mess up, and someone feels the need to call you an idiot just say something like this:

"well.... at least I had the balls to try it."

then walk away. There's nothing they can say that'll make it worse cause you just let it roll off of you like it's nothing. That's quiet confidence.

I don't know how it is where you live, but here you will sound as a stuck-up nerd if you say that. Just my opinion.


- If it's not a proper insult, but a heavy joke at my expenses, I watch him with my mouth slightly open and my eyes slightly closed and keep my face perfectly still for 5 seconds, like the world has stopped because of him (it's not a serious look, it's obvious that I'm just joking). Before someone says anything else, my face becomes normal again and, as nothing happened, I say "what were we talking about?".


- If it's a juvenile insult, I start laughing out loud and growling like a pig. Then I say "Reaaaaally funny, we're all LAUGHING OUT LOUD because of you".


- If it's a heavy insult, like "fùcking idiot", I say something like "come on, don't try to impress us by swearing, it's not primary school anymore"

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
If you do something and mess up, and someone feels the need to call you an idiot just say something like this:

"well.... at least I had the balls to try it."

then walk away. There's nothing they can say that'll make it worse cause you just let it roll off of you like it's nothing. That's quiet confidence.

great reply!!

 

[irishguy]

I think the best way to respond to an insult is to keep the same expression and demeanor and continue on as before.

Nothing pisses people off more than you demonstrating than you don't give a rats ass for their opinion of you or anything else. Getting upset or angry shows what they are saying affects you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If someone makes fun of you for a mistake, just call attention to a screw-up of their own.

"Yeah, that was almost as funny as the time that you...."

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Originally posted by Adone
I don't know how it is where you live, but here you will sound as a stuck-up nerd if you say that. Just my opinion.


- If it's not a proper insult, but a heavy joke at my expenses, I watch him with my mouth slightly open and my eyes slightly closed and keep my face perfectly still for 5 seconds, like the world has stopped because of him (it's not a serious look, it's obvious that I'm just joking). Before someone says anything else, my face becomes normal again and, as nothing happened, I say "what were we talking about?".


- If it's a juvenile insult, I start laughing out loud and growling like a pig. Then I say "Reaaaaally funny, we're all LAUGHING OUT LOUD because of you".


- If it's a heavy insult, like "fùcking idiot", I say something like "come on, don't try to impress us by swearing, it's not primary school anymore"

sorry man, but you're the one who sounds like a nerd.

Any insults should just roll off you as if it were nothing. Most of the times you don't need to say a damn thing. Just shrug in a "That's you're opinion" kinda way and turn and do something else.

The whole idea is not to try any comebacks, really.

If you try a comeback, it means they got to you and that's all they're looking for.

Bible belt has a great response, if you have any dirt on the guy who's insulting you. If you don't just shrug it off. Once they see they can't shake your composure, they'll stop trying.

I guess I've never really had to deal with that kinda thing. I've never been verbally disrespected by anyone, that I can remember. Maybe you've enclountered this alot? I dunno. Whatever man.

My first response is mean't to be said in a confident tone. A tone that tells them you tried it and that you're anoyed that they didn't. Not a tone that makes it seem like you're trying to boost yourself above them, again.

There's a difference.

 

[Kerensky]

"If you want my comeback, go wipe it off your mom's face."

LMAAO

some guy on here said it a while back, I forgot who, but he had a whole bunch of good ones.:crackup:

 

[ethnomethodologist]

This has got to be one of the best discussion I've ever read on this site... lots of great opinions people!

Bible belt, stop asking for specifics, not everybody really cares... they aren't going to come up to you and ask for a good comeback every time they make themselves weak enough to be insulted. Than also remember that you've got to take your balls and squeeze em like they were lemons, and stop acting like a girl. Why insult eachother, if you insult the person about a past screwup and they learned from it, YOU are going to get burned.

Dust 2 Dust, that was great, insulting to the question so you were being a retard, but I could use that tonight the next time somebody makes me angry... just talk like your going to wrastle them as though you two were best friends... OH YEAH!! I love it!

Docs, saying there is a difference without giving anybody an answer gets insultingly mundane... I'd tell you to go back and read your revised topic on posting/replying, but you missed the point of flamers toughening people up.

Bad ass Candian, you really come off as one in this thread dude, but you also come across as boring... I'd like to say Sam Malone has friends, but they might be taking it easy on his psyche by not teasing him so he doesn't have a backbone to stand up. So Quiet confidence won't do him much good by running away all of the time, so don't piss on add one for saying you come off as a "nerd" because you sure sounded like one by walking away from somebody challenging you there. Your response was excellent though, full of thought, You have to remember that insults are not always meant for pain. Malone pointed that out by saying that he wasn't being insulted to be hurt intentionally, so here's my argument, ever hear of C+F? People used to push me around, I thank them for making me stronger, I was insulted a lot as a kid, I took it and liked the pain, I've changed now since I know I don't need it anymore. So an inulting person, is my new friend, I see what they are doing, and I congratulate them, encourage them to make others stronger, and I always check to see if they can bite off more than they can chew.

Adone, your the only one who had the balls to take an insult for its face value, you said it perfectly in your first response, but you missed out on the fact that it's almost always in a social forum that the insult is placed... If your actually in the process of doing something valuable with your time by making your connection stronger with your friends, you choose what is useful, and discard the useless, make it your own. So an improper insult youdon't even have to worry about... IE what badass canadian said, you played that the same way he did, kudos. If it's juvenile, call them on it, make them look juvenile and get a good laugh out of it, challenge them to a quick pissing match, than tell them it's getting boring to shut them up, fun for both sides. If it is a heavy insult, it usually means something, you take it as you get it, if its a swear, you have a great comeback, but what if there is no swear, or they heavily insult you again until you answer your own question?

*back hands penkitten* BIATCH SLAP!!! hehe, why give somebody a mental handjob on a forum? THink it's going to impress him much? I love to tease girls, mars venus, I know how it works... I just called my own game, how do you like dem apples? Stop giving us stupid one liner comments, add something to the board, this is a conversation, not a place of worship.

Kerensky, that is ****ing funny! Thanks for remembering, you should look for that link, I wanna check it out.

So Sam, What'd ya learn today? You gonna ***** out next time somebody teases you? Just imagine your them teasing a girl(you), and than jump back into your own shoes and think of how you(the girl) is going to get back(don't punch him in the arm playfully) pretending your a ***** who's got tons of C+F tucked into your bra like kleenex and they're teasing you about it... do it!

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
If you try a comeback, it means they got to you and that's all they're looking for.

That is gold, but not when your purpose is be a DJ wannabe. It is gold when you are a DJ, when you have your life in order and people are insulting you to just slow you down and break your game down. Keep your game face, and show them who's boss style. Try being a badass, you shouldn't ever get insulted, so when you present a ****up for them to take advantage of, show them how thankful you are, not an insulting comeback, something that shows you relly care about their help. Stay within your mindset, but respect theirs as well. If you hurt them, apologize, and tell them to respect you at the same time.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
Shoot for a double leg, mount, armbar him.

Nice.

But let's go for a triangle choke instead. It's that much cooler.

 

[Docs]

Alright, I should have been slightly more specifc. My idea is not for the lame crap that flies in normal life, it was for those insults that are just, insulting.

I'm a very respectful person and I can take a joke, but if anyone hits home, I take my dignity with me for not bashing the living fuck out of the bastard.

Oh, I forgot to add this part. It's nice to see a lot more quality in your posts ethnomethodologist.

 

[SamMalone]

My friends are the ones doing the insulting. The group of guys I hang around with all insult each other like crazy. I can deal with that, but it got old. Real old. It seems like everyone just insults each other to look better in the eyes of the other guys. I'm really the only one that doesn't answer and insult with an insult, which in turn always starts a huge argument.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
This has got to be one of the best discussion I've ever read on this site... lots of great opinions people!

Bible belt, stop asking for specifics, not everybody really cares... they aren't going to come up to you and ask for a good comeback every time they make themselves weak enough to be insulted. Than also remember that you've got to take your balls and squeeze em like they were lemons, and stop acting like a girl. Why insult eachother, if you insult the person about a past screwup and they learned from it, YOU are going to get burned.

Dust 2 Dust, that was great, insulting to the question so you were being a retard, but I could use that tonight the next time somebody makes me angry... just talk like your going to wrastle them as though you two were best friends... OH YEAH!! I love it!

Docs, saying there is a difference without giving anybody an answer gets insultingly mundane... I'd tell you to go back and read your revised topic on posting/replying, but you missed the point of flamers toughening people up.

Bad ass Candian, you really come off as one in this thread dude, but you also come across as boring... I'd like to say Sam Malone has friends, but they might be taking it easy on his psyche by not teasing him so he doesn't have a backbone to stand up. So Quiet confidence won't do him much good by running away all of the time, so don't piss on add one for saying you come off as a "nerd" because you sure sounded like one by walking away from somebody challenging you there. Your response was excellent though, full of thought, You have to remember that insults are not always meant for pain. Malone pointed that out by saying that he wasn't being insulted to be hurt intentionally, so here's my argument, ever hear of C+F? People used to push me around, I thank them for making me stronger, I was insulted a lot as a kid, I took it and liked the pain, I've changed now since I know I don't need it anymore. So an inulting person, is my new friend, I see what they are doing, and I congratulate them, encourage them to make others stronger, and I always check to see if they can bite off more than they can chew.

Adone, your the only one who had the balls to take an insult for its face value, you said it perfectly in your first response, but you missed out on the fact that it's almost always in a social forum that the insult is placed... If your actually in the process of doing something valuable with your time by making your connection stronger with your friends, you choose what is useful, and discard the useless, make it your own. So an improper insult youdon't even have to worry about... IE what badass canadian said, you played that the same way he did, kudos. If it's juvenile, call them on it, make them look juvenile and get a good laugh out of it, challenge them to a quick pissing match, than tell them it's getting boring to shut them up, fun for both sides. If it is a heavy insult, it usually means something, you take it as you get it, if its a swear, you have a great comeback, but what if there is no swear, or they heavily insult you again until you answer your own question?

*back hands penkitten* BIATCH SLAP!!! hehe, why give somebody a mental handjob on a forum? THink it's going to impress him much? I love to tease girls, mars venus, I know how it works... I just called my own game, how do you like dem apples? Stop giving us stupid one liner comments, add something to the board, this is a conversation, not a place of worship.

Kerensky, that is ****ing funny! Thanks for remembering, you should look for that link, I wanna check it out.

So Sam, What'd ya learn today? You gonna ***** out next time somebody teases you? Just imagine your them teasing a girl(you), and than jump back into your own shoes and think of how you(the girl) is going to get back(don't punch him in the arm playfully) pretending your a ***** who's got tons of C+F tucked into your bra like kleenex and they're teasing you about it... do it!


That is gold, but not when your purpose is be a DJ wannabe. It is gold when you are a DJ, when you have your life in order and people are insulting you to just slow you down and break your game down. Keep your game face, and show them who's boss style. Try being a badass, you shouldn't ever get insulted, so when you present a ****up for them to take advantage of, show them how thankful you are, not an insulting comeback, something that shows you relly care about their help. Stay within your mindset, but respect theirs as well. If you hurt them, apologize, and tell them to respect you at the same time.

I think we're blurring the lines between a blatant insult and some friends busting on you for doing something stupid.

Those are two totally different scenarios and I'm talking about what I'd do if someone tried to insult me... not just tease or bust on me for the fun of it.

Are you saying that no matter what, you should get in peoples faces just cuz they choose to insult you? That sounds neurotic.

BTW that nerd comment was not aimed at the original poster. it was in reference to what Adone said to me.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Originally posted by Docs
Oh, I forgot to add this part. It's nice to see a lot more quality in your posts ethnomethodologist.

more quality in my posts? What the hell does that mean? You trying to tell me my other posts were shit??!?! You muther ****er I should strangle your bastard ass and make you suck on my **** with your dirty mouth for telling me that...

err... I mean thanks
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"I think we're blurring the lines between a blatant insult and some friends busting on you for doing something stupid."

Blatant insults never happen, there is a reason for everything... deal accordingly. Learn something new everyday, if they have a reason, and are able to even make you NOTICE the insult, you don't ignore it, that would be lying to yourself, and in turn insulting to them. There are at times insults to your psyche, and there are insults to be disrespectful, than insults to just make you a stronger person, actually no, I lied there, the only insults there are are the ones that make you stronger. Anything else and your not being a DJ, a true Man, an alpha ale, all that crap. Run from the problems, and you become a poofter that the current day male society are afraid of, you have to stand up, no matter what, for YOU!
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"Those are two totally different scenarios and I'm talking about what I'd do if someone tried to insult me... not just tease or bust on me for the fun of it."

You are saying that if somebody busted on you totally insulted you, would you care past that point? I wouldn't be bothered by it, EVER. They are making me look bad in front of others, I say thanks "now it's my turn to make fun of you" treat others how they treat me, if they live that way, than I guess they deserve a dose of their own medicine. Ever hear those ideas? I hope so, it's along the lines of following mindsets, you have yours, and you invite people in, but you don't insult a person without the intention of them becoming better for not coming into your world. Imagine inviting a girl to your house, and than insulting her for saying now, jumping around, screaming, and whining like a baby. I would ****ing laugh at you for giving me such a hoot of a time. I'd feel like a damned fool, but her laughing at me would mean I was funny, and anytime somebody laughs at me it's a compliment just because I fight for my right to party.

So when sopmebody insults you, they are trying to see who is stronger... In fact, they aren't trying, they are saying, I AM stronger, prove me wrong.
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"Are you saying that no matter what, you should get in peoples faces just cuz they choose to insult you? That sounds neurotic."

Whats your definition of getting up in somebody's face? Is that defending yourself? I choose my battles, I don't fight petty wars over nothing. I stopped being the cry baby on the playground a long time ago, I learned my lessons wisely, you should too. "Be like water my friend" from the words of Bruce Lee, you must go with the flow. People can rub you the wrong way, if you don't get into it as well, your not going to get the full benefit, you are going to be jipping yourself. You will be acting the fool if you get insulted and don't take it at face value. Have you ever been true to yourself? Than the insult shouldn't bother you, have fun sometimes, thats what they want. Why make enemies when you can make a brand new friend? Get a damned sense of humour, grow some balls, and do something with them! Saying that I am emotionally unstable, anxious, neurotic whatever about defending myself is a blatant insult. Sometimes people don't mean to be insulting, but they really are. Than some people think that being insulting hurts people, makes them seem stronger, but in the end it only really helps.
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"BTW that nerd comment was not aimed at the original poster. it was in reference to what Adone said to me."
Yeah, and calling him a nerd wasn't a bad thing to do. LOL what a hypocrite, walk away pretend it never happened... in fact me responding to your advice with a question is an insult... please vote to have me banned now.

 

[Brian20o2]

I usally bring on their insult more on me, like agreee but enhance it in a funloving funny way. Ever heard of all that AMOG stuff?

I found that enhacing it thier favor or just being nice in a phecicious(sp?) way is best eg: Him "you suck d**k muther f**ker!" Me "I love you too man*Half grin*"

 

[Kerensky]

or you can joke around and turn it on them like so:

him: dude, you suck ****.
you: psst..dude...we're suppposed to keep our private fun to our selves remember.

or something like

you: yea but your mom does it a whole lot better.

just turn it on them or agree w/them to the point where it is ridiculous. like in th first example i'm pretended we're both gay and that is ridiculous.