ok so theres this HB i had been working on, we got along real well and stuff and basically i was pretty sure she LJBF me, she never said it, but whenever i initiated kino she wouldnt be too receptive, and then id give her some negative body language after and shed re-initiate the kino herself, things like that. Well evantually (about 2 weeks ago) she was saying how she was going to a party, and going to her EX's first, and that mentioned how he was gonna grab alcohol for her (shes younger) and how it was gonna be awkward, this ticked me off, i didnt respond angrily but i basically started ignoring her for the rest of the conversation while seemingly being busy(this was online by the way) , she kept talking and wanting to know what i was doing etc, and woldnt stop, evantually she signed off and we havent talked much since,except for the friday the week after where someone came to where we were talking (at school) and said he was having a party, i asked her to come to this party with me and she didnt even look me in the eyes and said "i have plans.." ive been ignoring her since then avoiding eye contact etc, and today she was trying to talk to me and i ignored her and she was initiating kino and what not and i told her to stop (she was shaking me, telling me she was going to a concert or whatever i didnt really care) now, the question is shes going to ask why I have been acting "weird" probably or something along those lines. i dont not like her, but i thought for sure i was in the friend zone so i took the advice of ignoring her to gain interest again, and if she doesnt gain the interest back w/e i dont care. I do like her alot though, anyways how should i respond, should i just say something like "no reason" or should i be direct and say "you know i like you, if your not gonna show any interest back im not gonna chase you around.' (<- afc but maybe its necessary?) im thinking im better off just playing it like im disinterested in her, and not being mean about it, maybe if i do that and im acting disinterested shell figure it out for herself that im bored cuz she wasnt being receptive or making an effort to be with me on the weekends, not nice etc, and will have more of an impact then me directly saying why im disinterested. Or i was thinking of saying like "I dunno, i guess its cuz you arent as nice as you used to be.".What do you guys think?
best way to react?
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yup/Sandow said:
i dont not like her, but i thought for sure i was in the friend zone so i took the advice of ignoring her to gain interest again, and if she doesnt gain the interest back w/e i dont care. I do like her alot though
Hmmm you like to contradict yourself much? Good luck whatever you do though.
Hmmm you like to contradict yourself much? Good luck whatever you do though.
yeah sometimes when writing a long post like that i dont know what im trying to say, my bad lol. So i shouldnt react? do you mean not react by still continuing to ignore and show disinterest, or do you mean not react by just talking to her normally once she starts talking to me again.
Don't waste your time with her. Don't call her, or text her, or whatever. This one's not worth "saving", even though it doesn't seem like you had her in the first place. There are 3 billion women in the world. Go meet someone else.
You'll probably see her around, you can still talk to her and all, but make it clear that you're seeing someone else. Don't be shy to talk to other girls while she's around.
You'll probably see her around, you can still talk to her and all, but make it clear that you're seeing someone else. Don't be shy to talk to other girls while she's around.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Obviously, I don't know the situation, but from your post this girl seems to have no viable interest in you.
Why, do you want to be around her? Get rid, and find another girl. You've offered the chance to go out with, and she's turned you down. She's lost her chance.
How you react?
I'd treat her like any other girl, that I had no interest in. No need to be nasty, but no need for any "special treatment", because, quite frankly, she hasn't earned it. Be civil, funny, classy, but unavailable to her. She does not deserve your time.
Why, do you want to be around her? Get rid, and find another girl. You've offered the chance to go out with, and she's turned you down. She's lost her chance.
How you react?
I'd treat her like any other girl, that I had no interest in. No need to be nasty, but no need for any "special treatment", because, quite frankly, she hasn't earned it. Be civil, funny, classy, but unavailable to her. She does not deserve your time.
yeah, thats what i would like to do, i REALLY dont wanna keep her as a friend because she gives me too many ioi's and it pisses me off (I have a short temper) and it makes me even more mad cuz when i ignore her i see her purposely try and kino the guys who im already friggen talking too. Shes definately a nut case, but the problem is i see her so often cuz she goes to my school, its so annoying i dont wanna talk to her and lose value, and ignoring her just seems to make her purposely try and make me jealous, interrupting me when im talking to one of MY friends just cuz im ignoring her hate seeing her purposely try and make me jealous for no reason, interrupting me when im talking to one of my friends just because im ignoring her, so annoying...
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Mate, can I give you an analogy?
I have a cat. Sometimes I throw strings around for my cat to chase, it'll run round for ages trying to catch that string, I can sometimes play for half and hour, 45 mins just playing with string.
Sometimes though, I go to the cat, and it's not interested at all in the string. Do I carry on dangling string in front of it for half an hour? No, after a few attempts, I give up.
What am I getting at?
She's doing these things, because she knows she can, and she knows it pushes your buttons. You react to her, and she knows she has the power over you. If you show her that she has no power over you (I.e, you keep your emotions in check, and dont get p!ssed), she'll stop dangling strings for you to chase.
Even if it is pissing you off, act like it's not, and she'll get bored trying to wind you up.
A tip for the future, never ever, ever, lose control of your emotions infront of a woman, or for something she's done.
I have a cat. Sometimes I throw strings around for my cat to chase, it'll run round for ages trying to catch that string, I can sometimes play for half and hour, 45 mins just playing with string.
Sometimes though, I go to the cat, and it's not interested at all in the string. Do I carry on dangling string in front of it for half an hour? No, after a few attempts, I give up.
What am I getting at?
She's doing these things, because she knows she can, and she knows it pushes your buttons. You react to her, and she knows she has the power over you. If you show her that she has no power over you (I.e, you keep your emotions in check, and dont get p!ssed), she'll stop dangling strings for you to chase.
Even if it is pissing you off, act like it's not, and she'll get bored trying to wind you up.
A tip for the future, never ever, ever, lose control of your emotions infront of a woman, or for something she's done.
Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.
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thanks for the post, no worries though as im familiar with the cat string theory, i dont ever let them know im pissed that would clearly give my power away, but thats exactly why its bad i hate holding in anger, i just dont know what to do in this particular situation, when i ignore her shell flirt with the person im talking too, and i dont want to talk to her and give her that ego boost she probably gets out of doing all that. What ive been doing so far when she comes in and does that to a friend is either turn my back and talk to another group nearby or i walk away pat the friend on the back and say "go get em tiger" (<- i only do that ones to the friends that are actually distracted by this hoe and wont let me finish my story cuz theyd rather talk to her, ive only done this one once but it felt good lol)
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Yeah, I was in the same situation once. Girl used to come up and start hugging the guy I was talking to, whilst not touching me. Alls I used to say was "wow, you guys make a cute couple"