best way to deal with a date who keeps answering her phone & chatting away every 5min

[handle]

"On my first dates, if she answers her phone, I do note that as a possible flag. I kindly then say, "Let's turn off our phones okay?" and what she answers either makes it or breaks it."

again, this is great. You guys talking about getting up and leaving like to assume that you are the prize. And that's great. We should all do that. But not every girl is going to view you like that the instant they walk in to the date. I'm not saying you shouldn't expect to be treated like the man that you are, but expecting yourself to be treated like her favorite movie star from the beginning sometimes comes across as arrogant. Just sometimes.

The real, down to earth, socially vibing guy knows his way around this kind of stuff. Remember: some people these days don't even think twice about answering that call. That's just how they are. There's no need to be patronized or walked all over, but there's also no need to be blind to how people act these days. A kind reminder is all you need.

 

[Cashew]

If a girl I am with is on the phone in front of me and I feel as if her conversation is not importnant and is lasting longer than it should to politely end the call, then I take out my phone and discreetly call her. When she get's the call she has take a moment from the conversation to look at her phone to see who is calling. I'll watch her as I do this to gauge her reaction. When she sees that it's me calling (who is already right next to her), she usually gets the point pretty quickly.

 

[Caferacer]

"Hey, can I take this?"
*talks*
*grabs phone from her*
"hey, she'll call you back"
*hang up*
"Now where were we?"

If you have nothing to lose and can take the leykis view of things, you can try things like that with no fear.

 

[Vulpine]

My point of view

Phones, text, e-mail, and IM are all "virtual reality". The people on the other end aren't there physically in your "real reality". The person who is there with you always trumps the "virtual reality" person.

A person who interrupts a conversation by texting or answering the phone screams loud and clear through their actions that they would rather talk to someone from the land of make believe than the person who is sitting right there in real life. It's rude to the point of being obnoxious.

I personally avoid people who are anchored to their phone like that, and they only get one strike. I'll let a woman answer their phone in that rude way once; ONCE. Then, I explain how and why they are rude in case the idea of it being rude or disrespectful to the other person had never occurred to them.

After I explain the "virtual people versus REAL people" viewpoint, if it should happen again, I walk. It has happened twice that I've walked out, and, it has happened twice that the woman chased me out apologizing: "I'm so sorry! I forgot what you told me about being rude! It will never happen again!!!!"

Fine. Good. But here's where I offer some reinforcement and anchor it back to the previous conversation: "If I wanted a make-believe girlfriend, I'd call a 1-900 number and stay home, maybe I could watch some porn too while I was at it. But, my real life is better than my virtual life, and I intend to keep it that way."